The problem was a blessing
By indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
Indonesia
April 27, 2011 10:18am CST
Several days, family problems, very costly me. I was very stressed and a little sad, thinking about issues affecting my younger brother. When I think of the fate of my baby sister-in-law, I am greeted by my husband. I did not expect, my husband want to come to think about my younger brother. Previously we were not good communication. So when my husband started talking, and asked what I was thinking, I was a little surprised and feel happy. More surprising, when I say, my sister in law problems, who would not take care of her baby, my husband allows me to care for the baby to be born by my sister-in-law. I am very happy, even if proven, the baby was not a baby of my brother, my husband still allow me to keep the baby. I am very happy, I hope this be a good start to our relationship.
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@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 11
That's good if you can mend your relationship with your husband for wanting a solution for the others problem. Now, you can ease your mind and can focus more on your brother's problem. That way, hopefully you can find the best solution for everyone.
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28 Apr 11
hope u guys can reconcile for the sake of your children and also for the sake of family values , God bless
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
28 Apr 11
A good solution. I'm happy for you. I hope you can make the adoption legal.
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Your system of adoption seems to be different than ours. In the U.S., to make an adoption legal, we have to go to court and obtain a certification of adopotion. Th en, the adopoted child has the same rights and obligations as a naturally born child.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 11
Yes. Actually, the adoption process is very long, and we have to spend a lot of money. However, we have another road, so we can keep the baby, without having to go through the adoption process. When my sister-in-law gave birth, birth letter from the hospital, directly above my name and my husband. So it does not need to go through a long process, and spend lots of money.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Apr 11
That is so good to hear. Makes your husband sound more human than I had given him credit for previously. I bet you are happy. Maybe the baby will have a much better start. Sounds like your side of the family is going to have to put forth since it doesn't sound like that gals family will.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Hi indahfth 
I am very happy to hear of your happiness. Finally my dear friend a smile from you. Which ever direction it goes it appears you are happy. Really that is what matters. I could easily say that I would not have tolerated the situation with your husband but that would be unfair for me to say because you love him and are hoping your marriage can be repaired.
I say remember the happy thought and say to yourself I have done all I could possibly do in this marriage and nothing before has worked. Right now I am happy and that is what matters. Reason why I want you to keep the happiness is because I am a person cannot tell anyone what is right or wrong in their relationship and right now I see happiness from you and that as a friend makes me happy. You are such a caring and helpful person and you deserve all the happiness in the world.
I hope all works out well with the baby and you are able to take care of the baby as your own. Best of luck and my prayers are always holding strong for you to have all the love and happiness. 
I am very happy to hear of your happiness. Finally my dear friend a smile from you. Which ever direction it goes it appears you are happy. Really that is what matters. I could easily say that I would not have tolerated the situation with your husband but that would be unfair for me to say because you love him and are hoping your marriage can be repaired.
I say remember the happy thought and say to yourself I have done all I could possibly do in this marriage and nothing before has worked. Right now I am happy and that is what matters. Reason why I want you to keep the happiness is because I am a person cannot tell anyone what is right or wrong in their relationship and right now I see happiness from you and that as a friend makes me happy. You are such a caring and helpful person and you deserve all the happiness in the world.
I hope all works out well with the baby and you are able to take care of the baby as your own. Best of luck and my prayers are always holding strong for you to have all the love and happiness. @indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 11
Thank you. We have become, often communicating, talking about the baby will born by my sister-in-law, and we plan to keep the baby. Even we sometimes joked. The atmosphere that I miss. I get it now. I really hope this does not quickly disappear. And will go on like this forever. Although there is something my husband's treatment, which I still do not like it, but I'm very happy, finally we can joke again.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Ahh my friend it brings smiles to my face to hear you say you two can smile, laugh and joke. God willing my dear friend that this baby bring you, he and your son much closer.
We often think that sometimes things happen for a reason. If all else indahfth, you will be happy with your two children.
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@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
9 May 11
That baby is going to be a blessing Indahfth. Every baby deserves the chance to be loved and cared for. If their own biological parents can't give that love and care then I know there will be others just like you who are willing to do it. I will pray for everything to be fine for your family and the baby. Have a nice day! :)
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
27 Apr 11
I am sorry to write this. But first i am happy that you are happy with your husband. Really i am happy. But now I am writing about the baby. If you are sure the baby is your brothers you can take care of the baby. But if you are sure that the baby is not your brothers it is not a good idea to take responsibilities. There is no doubt. Ther mother of the baby is the girl. She has responsibilities to cqare for the baby. Don't be too good. The selfish people will take as an advantage your goodness. I am so serious about this. Because I have experience like this. My brother in law also had this problem. but the child is his. Now the child is living with his old sick grandmother. The mother is leading a good life. There are ladies, who we casn't accept in ladies group.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 11
Yes. I am very familiar with all that. I do not think of anything, I just think about the fate of the baby later. Her mother did not want to care for her baby, and his family no one could care. I only care about the baby, no matter with his mother. His mother was very irresponsible, to want to put her child. Someday, God will surely reply to all his actions.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
That was very nice of your husband to accept the baby to be taken cared by you.
Just make sure that this will be put into writing though. The girl might take it against you if you will get the baby to take care of.
But as to both of you and your husband, the baby will really be a blessing and an avenue for you and your husband to be more closer and loving with one another.
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@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
10 May 11
First of all my good wishes for you and for your husband. Second I think you are right regarding baby and I appreciate your feelings and wish baby will be a good luck for your family as well.
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
Well in everything we do there is a purpose, and maybe that is one of the purpose. good thing that you are seeing the positive side of your problem. I'm happy to know that your husband is talking to you nicely already and agreed that you'll gonna take care of that little angel, that little one when he comes to your life will hopefully be the way that you can have a good relationship with your husband again.
