A strange ex-neighbor greeted me, as if we were close!

I guess, she was just so glad to see you after badgering you before. She is there to ask whether a neighbor like hers is in your new neighborhood too. Nice of you for still keeping your cool on such a former neighbor.

It is always amazing how friendly strangers and even enemies become when there is some distance and some time between you. I bet it took a great deal of composure to be polite to her.

I know what you are talking about. I had a neighbour a few years ago who would be nice to my face and b*itch about me behind her back. She would pretend to look forward to my visits, ask for help (which I would do for her)...and then tell another neighbour how she was irritated with my visits (despite the fact that she was the one who called me over!). Sadly, I got to know about this only after she left the place because the person she would talk to about me happened to be a friend and couldn't bear to see me making a fool of myself.I just wish she would have told me earlier so that I could have stopped earlier. Even after all this, I happened to meet this neighbour at a party ....and the hug she gave me....no one would believe how she spoke about me behind my back. She looked like she was so happy to see me after a long time. Fortunately, my friend happened to be there too and she stood gaping at the scene!

maybe she missed you cause you had moved. or maybe she feel glad that you are not her neighbor again. if i were you, i will just say a little word and then leave her

Maybe she just missed you a lot Kidding aside, what you've done is just right. Now they will think twice and regret those things she have done to you before. Because seeing you like that with a lot of composure is like telling her, "Who's so miserable now?"

Sometimes, it is real hard to forgive someone who does an unkind thing to us, this is not only fact, this is true. But we can always pray and ask God to help us forgive so we can be ready to live in His Kingdom. As the phrase goes TO ERR IS HUMAN TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE.

I also visited my old place and a really annoying neighbor tried to be friendly with me later on I learned she has fought with all the other people on the street probably that's why she was being friendly with me. I too responded to her with caution but didn't get too friendly with her. May be such people don't realize wha nonsense they are.

Hi. eileenleyva. This is very typical behavior of how people usually treat each other. She is most likely feeling guilty for how she has done you in the past. She knows that she has treated you like crap and she feels pretty bad about it. She may also be relieved that you have moved away and that she does not have to be bombarded with you as her neighbor. I am glad that you have moved out of there. Neighbors can cause so much of trouble. When I used to live in my apartment, the guy from downstairs was so cruel to my family and I. My husband told me that he talked to this man in October, a week or two after we moved out and this man was talking to him really nice. He was telling my husband how it all went down between him and his baby mama. He had some problems with her. He took her van and left with it, but she told the police that he stole it. Well, this was a big issue, because his baby mama was cursing and screaming at the top of her lungs and she was so upset. She kept slamming doors and coming in and out of the apartment. It was just so crazy! So we ended up moving from our apartment, which I thought would never happen. It was so rough for us. Your old neighbor is just feeling guilty because she has been so nasty to you and now she doesn't even know how to say that she is sorry. My mother-in-law has treated me the same way. She has said some really cruel things to me in the past to my face and now she is such a sucker when it comes to me. She adores the heck out of me and her grand kids. I guess people are this way when you have been away from them for a long time. They no longer have anyone that they can argue or complain with. They only have themselves to get upset with and not you anymore. I know how you feel about holding your tongue, I had to do the same thing so many times and trust me, if there wasn't a God and his genuine mercy, I would have murdered my neighbors in cold blood. But that is just my evil side talking. My angel side says to love people in spite of. Treat them as if they have never hurt you. I hope that you are enjoying your new place. I know how hard it is to have to deal with neighbors that just won't quit. It seems the only way out of the stress is to move or for them to move. Take care! Keep smiling!

reminds me of a saying kill them with kindness..! there are lots of these kind roaming around everywhere.

Hello Eileen, There's nothing wrong with conversations even though you were never close to this woman. My mom had a lot of so called people that talks to her as if they were close to her but she's a good diplomat for some reason can talk to them with an ease with out having an urge of pain. besides, i know it sounds hard to forgive, but that's what my mom did. a lot of people who had this negative thoughts about her and she left them alone until they started talking to her again once things were settled down on them. [u] * I don't know in my case, I mean haha what if the traitorous mylotter that i knew comes back here and talks to me again the same way that old neighbor did when she approach you*[/u] yeah, it also hurts that i get accused of something i didn't do.

I have had ex neighbors respnd to me like we were the best of friends before. it always left me with the =feeling and wonder of hy they reacted that way. it made me wonder what point they were trying to make and who rhey were trying to impress wirh this behavior that was anything but real.

Hi eileenleyva: I think that was really weird but I would probably do the same you have done in this case. Of course you know that she was cruel to you but she is just saying hi. Maybe she realize how bad she was to you, I don't know. Proably you won't see her again. It's really strange and I couldn't trust in a person like this but if she says hi to me I'll be polyte. ALVARO

Hey! calm down, but lol, you are lucky enough to have a neighbor like her because you are not paying her on her blogs about you while the celebrities do. As you can see she approached you hoping to have another issues and be the first to broadcast it,what do you think.

Whoa! One thing that I would not probably stand when I get a home are mean neighbors. If it were me, hmmm I might have been tempted to pretend like I didn't know her. Then again, I'm not really sure if I can do that. :) Anyway, don't mind her. Let bygones be bygones.

She must be a strong believer of what one says about time healing everything. Or perhaps the thought that since you no longer have bones to pick all is hunky dory now.Could she have also wanted to use the principle "Forgive and forget"? Strange are the ways of some. Hats off to you for having shown restraint. I would do the same and walk away. I believe in the saying 'once bitten twice shy' By the way what is the second commandment. I have forgotten!

I had been living in the same subdivision for the past 36 years. It is where I can say really grew up, matured, got married, had a kid and now got widowed. I inherited the house from my parents. I enjoyed the company of my neighbors especially their concern with everyone in the community. A neighbor sold their house but the feeling is still the same. Even when I am at work with none left in our house, I feel secured that someone back home is looking over our house. My neighbors don't prey over our lives, they are just there especially when needed. It's the same feeling I share with them. I am just happy I didn't have that kind of neighbors you once had.

I hate such neighbors as well even though i had no prior experience with them. It's like they are putting on an act for some people to see, how friendly they are, when we feel deep inside our heart, they are faking it. It doesn't make sense for someone full of complaints in the past, to suddenly becoming so close to us. They must be up to no good. Even if they meant to patch up, the very first thing should be apologizing for the past before both parties starts to open up more.

Hi eileenleyva Just be very polite,tell her you are very well, your family are all well,tell her you are all very happy,it was SO nice to see her again,but you are very busy, smile, and walk away..Remember you are the better person. Have a great day. jojo732

Hmmm....I remember the scene in the TV series desperate housewives.