Is it ok to asked the one who treat you special to court on her/his best friend?

One thing I learned in life is that you cannot really force anyone to love you back the way you love them. No degree of telling the person would change his feelings for your friend because he obviously fancies her. However, I know it would be greatly painful for you to see them together. I was in a similar situation a few years back when I was in college, however, the girl was only a friend and not my best friend. I was in love with this guy who I talked to almost everyday, I felt there was a strong connection between the two of them because he was really sweet and funny and everything I thought I wanted that time. I guess everyone knew I liked him a great deal and when he decided to court one of my friends (she knew I liked him) she was obviously torn because she didn't want me hurt. It was obvious that she liked him as well but since the feeling wasn't that much yet decided not to accept him. I know what she did was something I could never really give back and I have never thanked her for it, however, I knew I was selfish if I made her guilty. Since I didn't want to be between their 'love' I decide to lie and tell her that I am in love with someone else and was over the guy. To make the long story short. I swallowed what I felt because I knew that I wouldn't want to be loved because I loved him first. I want him to see me and want me not because I loved him but because it's natural for him. You get my point? Well, it's up to you if you want to tell him. However, how would it feel if he just didn't feel the same and said it to you? How would it feel if he'll distance himself to you because he'd feel awkward (and guilty for not loving you). You'll lose your bestfriend and it would also cause a tension between you and your girl friend as well. Yes, you will be free but I just don't think it's worth it. I don't regret doing so in the past because I realize that love come in our lives as often as we want. As long as we are ready to love. Men may pass your heart several times but perhaps it's because it wasn't meant to be. Good luck and just don't be over melodramatic. I know it hurts but just think - what if the one for you is just around the corner, but because you were holding on to someone who doesn't feel the same way for you, you weren't able to meet him?

I completely agree with Laydee.. Think about it, is it worth losing your two best friends? IF its meant to be, it will happen. It might not be today or tomorrow, or even next year, but IT will happen only if its meant to be. YOu have a chance to be a better person here and let them cherish their love. He will be more happy that you were there for him either way, even though he did not want to court you. Who knows maybe he will realize after years of bad relationship, that you were the right girl all along :-)