Deep, dark secrets...

I think that as we post and get comfortable with our friends we perhaps, do divulge much of our personal life. I have. A lot. Perhaps too much. I don't know. I to have had traumatic stuff happen and sometimes when helping someone they realise that you may have gone through the same thing so you really know how it feels. For example the miscarriages I suffered and when I related this to a lady who lost her baby then she really knew that I knew what she was going through. My childhood abuse was horrifying but little bits have come out now and then when relating to others too. the bottom line is that women need women and we talk and cry together and suffer together too. Reading personal stuff is interesting in getting to know the person and becoming friends. I expect that the bottom line is - only post with what you are comfortable in posting. Now you would you like to go over to Virginia and deal with the man who is bullying me online?

as you know, i often do that as i seldom have anyone in real life to ask or advice. and i think i know whats happened with your marriage. it seems like, just like one of mine, its ireconciable (spelling?) differences. i had one, we just ran out of love and we disagreed on everything. i got to where i couldnt even stand him even though he didnt hit me or do anything i could say was terrible bad. but you cant stay with someone you cant stand

I think talking things out Does help but to post it on My Lot isn't a good idea.Here anyone can read it! I mean the kids. I suggest you find a close Offline friend and talk it out , It All out. Or... send me a private message and I'll send you my Yahoo address and we can talk there.

It really depends. I am a very private person on and offline. I think it was the way I was raised because there are some people that are perfectly comfortable with sharing. I have shared things...the ex showing his tail...being an example...that I would not share at work. Maybe a very close friend or two offline. I don't know. There might be instances where I shared more because I wanted the opinions but then I guess there are things that I really don't want opinions about. What is the old saying...don't ask if you don't want to know. It's not like they can be changed anyway. I think there is a time for everything and if one is ok with it...more power to them...I respect honesty. I also respect privacy too.

I don't have anything interesting to share about me, although there are some things I would not want out on the net. For some odd reasons I get some who love to follow me and well let's just say I am cautious. Although there are many who do share quite a bit on here, I don't see anything wrong with it because they get to vent, listeners and humble advice. For which I am one who also learns from what I have read from others, so yes I have found many postings to be very useful.

My life isn't that interesting to share but it is much easier to spill your guts to people you don't know than to family members. I spill my guts to my best friend. i suppose it's easier to spill your guts on-line knowing they will never meet you face to face and they really don't know you personally to pass down judgement as with family members. i have done some things I'm not that proud of but would I discuss it on here. I really don't know.

could be all three But then how deep and dark is your silience and if all that bad maybe best kept to self butthen again to maybe it would be helpful to get it off yur chest. FOr me not sure I would want the net to know any of that if I had deep dark secrets lolololool

Nope I will never post my deep dark secrets anywhere online because one day it can come back to haunt you. Sometimes we think by using usernames etc no one will know about us, but then look how many times police, FBI, CIA etc have been able to trace people just by their Ip address and user name. Not me! I would rather either confide in someone I really think I can trust or keep those secrets to myself. I definately od not trust the internet.

It's always good to find that you are not alone in the trials of life. I would only tell these things if I thought I could help someone else, but I have noticed that when people do post them often there is a lot of support that may be of help to the one that posts it. We are all human and during our lives do many just plain dumb things or even hurtful things, if it helps you to talk about these do so, what is the worse that can happen. Someone like me telling you that was a dumb thing to do? Well you already know that and now just need help to heal and forgive yourself. Blessings

dawn, "We have all sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God." While none is "perfect" among us, we have to try to look at things from God's perspective. First of all, He loves us boundlessly and endlessly and gave His only begotten Son because He so loves us. This is certainly more than any of us can really absorb or understand from our own vantage point. We all of us have to get the "log" out of our own eye before trying to get the "speck" out of another's. That being said, marriage is a God-ordained covenant and union which so many of us fail to appreciate and acknowledge as such. While we are to be transparent re honesty, not everything should be blasted from the rooftops, and can be both too much information or do more harm than good. God tells us to "speak the truth in love", and that can be somewhat of a delicate balance. If we can benefit and help another through the lessons of our own mistakes, it may be appropriate to reveal some "secrets". But, we must be judicious in so doing because not all can understand or benefit from some wisdom, and it may lead them in the wrong direction unless properly acknowledged. Were I you, I would seek counsel from a trusted spiritual advisor as not all personal revelation is necessary, beneficial, or advisable.

You know I did. I blow my top on papa. For example there were some health reports. At that point of time, there was something else - finance related that could have waited - but papa wanted them attended before I studied my health reports. That annoyed me. I felt he should've been more concerned about my health. It is not as if we are starving. By god's grace, we have our food on table, and we have decent clothes, and good shelter, and fairly enough for medicines. So why is he less concerned about me and more concerned about monies. Especially becoz I played the major role in ensuring all that, while he'd destroyed everything he could. It is frustrating at such moments Dawny. Feel so uncared for..I called him control freak. I know it is horrible thing to say to your aged pa, and I am no teenager who cant control her outbursts. It was just a perverted thing.

Dear dawn I am not in favor of discussing too personal matters here nor in any other sites, it is better to talk over phone, communicate over emails or chat to discuss such things about love, personal life etc here we are from different parts of the world, some may put views that might hurt our feelings. Thanks for this nice discussion however Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

No I will not say everything here. I will share some thoughts but secret is secret. I will not gossiping others or talking about a person so much here. It is better to share nice thing with people rather than the bad one.

Personally I wldnt post any thing you didnt want posted in the paper or put on the news. I have a cpl things I wld never post just because Im not happy with what I did and it cld come back and bite me in the butt. We all do things we are not happy about, but sometimes ppl can use those as a weapon. So to post something that will hurt another and cld possibly be brought back onto you I wldnt do it. The world dosent need to know your darkest secrets. Your better off going to therapy for something like that. If you guys have kids you also wldnt want them to some day possibly come across what you wrote and see what others have said. No matter what, he is their father and anything you can post on here you can explain to them in a better way. So I personally dont feel it to be a good idea to post certain things. Mylot, blogs, facebook can be a good source of comfort and getting others opinions for certain things, but somethings need to stay withen in the family.

Hi Dawn To be honest I would not go into details as such one thing I will say though I never got the chance to do horrible things to my ex I was to scared but if I had I would not go into details I would just say it was on both sides not just one but again it is up to each person what they want to reveal

i guess it depends..some people are more open than others,and they're quite ok with it. i don't because i've seen people destroyed by the exact same copy paste and resend morons i was talking about on the other thread.

You must have posted about your marriage back when my computer was down, so I know nothing other than you are now free I think I read..As for telling your side, you could, but I would be careful because what we say can come back to haunt us. Myself, I have told some things, but not all, because there are some things no one knows, it's that bad.. And you said that a few mylotters already know, so you have a support system when you need it. Yet, if you think it would be therapeutic to talk about it, then go for it..

I also had thought about it, but. No I don't see a reason for airing my dirty laundry. I have posted some things I wished I wouldn't have, but nothing that could be used against me at a later date. Keep in mind that you just never know who will see it.

No. I have secrets that no one knows. Not even my closest friends. I have wondered at times if I could die without letting someone know but I still haven't. I usually come here with things to share that I aam not sure about. That I need others opinions on. Did I do okay? Was this as crazy as I thought it was? That sort of thing. I think you will let lose of things as you are able or decide that you want to.

hi, i will say YES,being confident and real here is a useful to cope the interest of other fellow mylotter,the more reality you share here is the more they can relate,so even my deep and dark secrets i still share.