should I be offended?

I don't think you should be offended. It doesn't mean that your in laws are still friends with someone you despise that they are in favor of her. I think it is better if you just ignore the other person and don't get bothered by your in laws hanging out with her.

I don't think tht you are unreasonable for not wanting them to be connected with her, but they may be simply just being nice. I could see if they were inviting this girl to family gatherings that you were attending, or something like that. Then it would be completely offensive. It may be there way of just trying to keep the peace, and unless they try to persuade you into "reconnecting" with her, or if they begin telling you that you are wrong... then I would simply ignore it and not let it get to you. Because then you are just giving that girl more satisfaction of knowing that she is still bothering you.

Hi P3ks626, Well, your story is vague and I think I may have a clearer picture with more details. Based on what you said here, I would say that no, you should not be offended. Whatever happened actually was between the two of you and not her and them or you and them. I am thinking that they just don't want to get in the middle of it or take sides. It could be that they like both of you and just don't want to be involved. I t could be that they do side with you but still don't want to get caught up in the problems that the two of you are having.

Hi there, If you have had the twist in their bearings it would be better to shrug off. Let them say anything they like. This is a human nature that people create things from the most unlikely sources. Or if you feel too offended you could ask them to make things clear.

Maybe this is the only way your in-laws know to deal with the matter. They may be defending you when it comes to her and trying to make things better for you. But also maybe they just can't stop being a friend to someone because of someone else's disagreements. I had an experience where my brother's ex wife always remained my good friend even though my brother thought we shouldn't still be friends because of him, I couldn't stop myself from being her friend. He doesn't seem to have a problem with that now.

Its offensive. I will definitely feel the same thing. I will keep distance from that girl. Then ill prove to my in laws that whatever bad things that the girl said is wrong. Ill just show who am i. The true me.

I understand what you fell,but for me be cool and don't think to much about that girl because the more you acknowledge her present the more wrinkles that you get! hehehe joke! Don't be offended when your in-laws even though you feel that they connection to each other dis pate of things that girl did it to you because maybe they show a good manner to her and you can never dictate to them what they want to do. Assess the situation before you complain things that make you a huge problem in the near future, try to understand their situation and ignored that girl, don't let her know that you are affected to her because it's give her a dose of happiness. Be happy and stay calm.

hello, All you have to do is too calm down and dont say anything about that girl because the more you get mad the more your in-law think that the girl is right?. okay? and I think your in-law dont want to treat the girl rudely that is why they still have connection to her and maybe the girl is the one connecting to your in-law. So, just relax and dont get stress to it.

Have you confirmed that you're in-laws are in favor of her? I guess there's nothing wrong with them being connected with the one that you've had a fight with. It doesn't mean they're on her side. They had nothing to do with the fight so why would they chose sides now? I beg to disagree but it's not reasonable for you to tell them what to do.