How many faithful relationships left in this world?
By fragilewings
@fragilewings (316)
Philippines
April 30, 2011 3:38pm CST
I've seen a lot of couples break-up because of a third party. A man left his wife or girlfriend because of another woman and vice versa. Most of the man will reason out that it's the woman's fault why he look or fall for another woman. Is that a valid reason for a man to cheat on his partner. I understand that handling a relationship is not easy but that doesn't mean that a man/woman should cheat on his/her partner.
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@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
2 May 11
With the internet technology where people can find and talk to friends from all over the world, the rate of fidelity is coming down so fast. Just last weekend I saw a couple in a restaurant. The wife was busy ordering the food, the husband was busy chatting or updating his FB account more likely while smirking at himself. Even when they got down to eating the food, the husband did not take off his eyes from his cell phone, and only answered the wife like: yes, okay, up to you. How would a relationship succeed with this kind of attitude?
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I noticed that as well. Internet helps speed up immorality and other stuffs that diverts someone's attention from his/her partner. I know a person who uses internet in flirting with other girls and I feel sad for his girlfriend because what this girl knows is her boyfriend is faithful to her. I'm sad seeing how fidelity in a relationship no longer matters to other people. If these people can't keep themselves faithful, I think it'll be better for them not to commit a relationship with someone. Being cheated brings pain and I believe that if you truly love someone, you won't do things that will hurt you partner. Thanks for your response.
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
4 May 11
That's true. No one should commit to a relationship if they cannot hold it true. Even though it is only chatting with friends that they only know in internet, it still can cause a break in a real relationship when his chatting becomes the top priority of someone.
I know many married guys who searched for online s-x partners...
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@celticeagle (168310)
• Boise, Idaho
2 May 11
No, it certainly doesn't. I think that the major problem is that people don't give them selves time to get to know one another and the basics that need to be known before they are in a committed relationship. Then the problems start, but a person is already locked in. They start finding that the other person doen't like this or that and they feel trapped.
@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I believe that if you enter a relationship and commited yourself to someone, even if you barely know each other, it is still a big no no to cheat on your partner. You're right in saying that a person should know basics before entering a relationship. If a person is no longer happy and thinks that relationship will no longer work, it'll be better to end that relationship than hurt his/her partner through cheating. Thanks for the response.
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Yeah and in addition, if you happened to get to know that a certain person has the tendency to cheat on you based from his/her past relationship, that will be a good basis not to jump into a serious relationship with that person. Happy lotting!
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@celticeagle (168310)
• Boise, Idaho
4 May 11
I agree. And if people would get to know one another before getting the relationship to begin with then there will be less cheating.
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@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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30 Apr 11
I've been stunned by the number of people I run into who are on their 2nd or 3rd (or more) wife/husband because of constantly leaving people. Modern society seems to put less and less importance in faithfulness, it seems. Almost everyone I meet has been married and divorced... scary.
Thankfully, my parents were of an older generation. Only one person in my family is divorced (for very good reasons and not his choice). The rest of us are faithful to the end, me included. There are very few problems that can't be sorted out with love and understanding.
There's no way I'd trade in my lady for anyone else, even though I've met women who are very tempting. I made her a promise and I'm happy to keep it. As I always say, she may not be perfect... but she's perfect for me!
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@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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30 Apr 11
I should add that by "leaving people", I mean leaving them because of an affair. It wasn't obvious that I was talking about cheating which, in my book, is the worst thing anyone can do to their partner. If you want someone else, end the current relationship first.
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@visminda_824 (153)
• Philippines
1 May 11
I believe relationships fail because of lack of commitment of one partner or both from the start. Then, it will be aggravated by lack of communication between the couple, until the other one would look for someone to talk to and listen to. Stepping into forbidden ground would then start, until a fire is started. Too bad, I have seen many failed relationships around. I hope and pray that the trend will change, that there will be better hope for families around.
@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
3 May 11
Yeah, lack of commitment is one of the reason why relationships fail. Relationship requires commitment and I don't think that relationship will work without it. A person who truly understands the meaning of commitment will be faithful to his/her partner no what matter what happen.
@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
10 May 11
True, and it's sad to see relationship fails because commitment for each other is lost.
@visminda_824 (153)
• Philippines
8 May 11
Yeah, you said it right. Sometimes there seems to be commitment in the relationship just at the start but could not be sustained in the process. This is because the true meaning is not quite understood by one partner or both.
@chibbuh (5)
• Philippines
1 May 11
Hello there. Relationships are really fragile. Mostly men commit it than women since they have an animal behavior and such aggressiveness. But what makes a relationship last is that, you two should be sure that both of you is blending, like a coffee, it's not the sugar that makes the coffee sweet, but the stirring. So you're asking about how many faithful relationships left in this world?I say it varies. Let's say you have a boyfriend, and you caught him cheating, it does not mean he's gonna be unfaithful for the rest of his life, when you two break - up, someday he's gonna find someone better and would say to himself, yeah right, this is the one I was looking for. Like creatures, we all are dynamic beings. So it really varies.^_^
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
3 May 11
Thanks for responding. It's so sad to see that there's a lot of relationship being ruined by unfaithfulness. I believe that temptations are there to help a person grow in his/her character and strengthen his/her relationship with his/her partner and not destroy a relationship. I like the methaphor you used about relationship, the "cofee" thing. It makes me think that a relationship will last if only the couple knows how to stir it correctly. If there's a sugar in a relationship to make it sweet and yet, it is not being use to sweeten it, the relationship will be bitter.
@shelley0314 (11)
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3 May 11
Handling a relationship is not that easy, and its not also easy to tell someone you love so much before that the relationship is over and you are already in love with someone else..becouse you are afraid for the one you have loved to get hurt...but i think that scenario was very very stupid thing that someone will do..if you dont want somebody to get hurt then you should tell her/him that your not inlove cheating with your partner is the selfish thing that somebody can do.
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
3 May 11
Yeah you're correct. If you truly love someone, you won't attempt to cheat. If tempatation comes, let love resist that temptation. I can't see any valid reason why would a person should cheat. It'll be better to hear from someone that he/she's leaving because relationship will no longer work than leave because he/she has someone new. Thanks for responding.
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
30 Apr 11
I think that cheating is completely wrong. If someone doesn't want to be with their partner any more then they need to let them know instead of cheating on them. I think that being honest with their partner and themself can avoid a lot of hurt and conflict. I don't see how anyone can be that selfish to put another person through that. I could never cheat on my husband, and I know my husband would never cheat on me. A relationship takes work, and takes faithfulness between both people. It is all about trust, and truly loving your partner.
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
2 May 11
I agree to you. If a person thinks that relationship will no longer work, just quit it and don't hurt his/her partner by cheating. It's good to know that you have a faithful relationship with your husband. I also can't cheat my husband and I also believe that my husband won't do it to me as well. I believe that if you love someone, you won't fall to any kind of tempation that will hurt your relationship that will eventually lead to an end.
Thanks for your response.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
30 Apr 11
I believe that any relationship we have with someone can be a faithuful. it is something that needs to be wanted by both sides.
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
2 May 11
Yeah you're correct. Faithfulness is a decision and both party should agree to be faithful to each other. If a relationship no longer works, it'll be better to end it rather than hurting your partner through cheating.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
30 Apr 11
Personally there is no excuse for cheating at all. As far as who is at fault the person cheating in my mind because why not let go of what they have before they cheat as oppose to risking what they have. If what they have is worth salvaging then why cheat in the first place.
Sadly many have excuses, but for me in my own experiences, there is no valid excuse. I would respect a partner more if they plainly said I want out this is not working for me, as opposed to me finding out that they cheated.
@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
2 May 11
I definitely agree that there's no excuse for cheating. A relationship requires commitment and commitment includes faithfulness. If a person truly values and loves his/her partner, he/she can overcome any temptation to cheat. Cheating is lying and lies destroys trust. Once the trust is destroyed, it'll be difficult for someone to rebuild it.
@martha0430 (211)
• Philippines
1 May 11
i believe those relationship lacks conversation. any problem can be solve by talking to each other. cheating is a big no-no. if you were cheated what would you feel? so dont do it with your partner too. talk things out, and if the problem doesnt resolve, then let go of each other.
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
3 May 11
Thanks for the response. Communication is very vital in a relationship. Through communication, both parties will be able to talk about the things concerning their relationship like, character issues, hurts with each other, financial issues, boredome in the relationship, and the like. If a couple is open with each other and are comfortable to discuss issues/problems in their relationship, temptation to look for another man/woman for comfort will be avoided, thus third party affair will be prevented as well.
@SmallFryK (115)
• United States
30 Apr 11
I beleive that relationships fall apart just because sometimes, but as far as fidelity goes, I feel that (1) it is both parties fault, and (2) that there is NO excuse for cheating. If you aren't happy/found someone else/etc., then leave. Typically, the blame gets shifted to the non-cheater, because of guilt. However, it really depends on the reason it all began. If they found someone else, they should have ended their previous relationship before venturing off to a new one. If they weren't happy and cheated because of it, same thing. I have never understood the neccessity some people feel to try to carry on the secret of cheating. Eventually, it will be found out. This is a tried and true thing. I still believe that there are some faithful relationships left, and that even if someone has cheated in the past, it doesn't mean it will happen again.
@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
2 May 11
Thanks for responding. It is sad that many people find it easy to cheat on their partners. I use to watch Cheaters on TV and I feel sorry for the people who were cheated by their partners. Being cheated causes so much pain and trauma and those are not easy to heal.