I can't have him

No, not all the good ones are taken. It just feels like that for you because you like someone that you can't have. I admire you for not breaking up a realtionship. There are a lot of people out there that just don't care if someone is in a relationship or not. It is something difficult to ignore but then it is something that has to be done. It is true there are a lot of guys out there that are rooten and it is hard to find that one good one. But keep your eyes open because that more then likely means that there is someone around you that is just to shy to approach and talk to you about it.

9 years is not a wide gap when you are older. I guess at your age 30 years old is old. In Indonesia there is a saying: as long as the relationship has not been legalized, you can do anything to get who you want.

I feel all the good guys have been taken! I know because I my man was out there I would of meet him by now! He does not exist. This is one of the many reasons I don't date anymore! If I did find my perfect guy I would make him myself and give him all the things I want and need in a man! Unfortunely this is not possible so I will be single for rest of my life.

I know that with all the losers out there, it is hard to imagine that there might be a guy out there just for you. When I was in high school I felt the same way. I had been in so many failed relationships, all with guys that should never be allowed to date (much less reproduce).Unfortunately if you want to find the diamond, you have to sort through all the coal first. I think that you need to back away from this guy. If he is in a relationship, being around him is only going to hurt you in the long run. There is someone out there for you, you just have to be patient. Also it helps if you avoid the usual pick up joints. You aren't likely to find your ideal guy in a crowded bar with a bunch of drunk guys competing for attention. Try going out to your favorite places, it helps if you meet someone doing things that you like doing, that way you know that you will have something in common. I hope that things work out for you, you seem like a nice person and I think that you deserve someone of your own to love. I hope that you do the right thing and have faith that time heals all wounds. You will get over this guy, you just have to want to.

Oh shucks and so sorry he is taken, but as you said you like his girl friend too, so you have to find the courage to disway the feelings. It will be hard if you have constant communication with the both of them because it will hurt your feelings to know that he is with her and not you. I would say the only way is to distant a little bit so that with time you outgrow the feelings. If you find you can't distance yourself then you will have to try really hard to not show feelings because in the end you may end up loosing the both of them. Best of luck and do know that there are many others, sometimes it takes time but with time surely you being young you will find someone who deserves you who is not taken.

Timing is everything... and even though it seems like he would be great for you, you never know how bad things might be if you were to be with him. I have been in many relationships and at first thought the guy was wonderful, to find out later how bad of boyfriends they were for me. It is easy to look at someone in a good relationship and say "I want that," but all relationships are hard. Even if you are really attracted to this man, you have to keep your guard up out of respect for him and his girlfriend. I have had situations where women have came onto my boyfriend before, and even after finding out that he did not do anything to hurt me, it still made me very uncomfortable and insecure about other women. It is not fair for a woman to have to go through those kind of situations if another woman knows he is in a relationship. It breaks trust and respect factors. If you are that into him and you cannot control it, you should back away from him and don't tell him that is the reason of you keeping your distance unless he becomes single again.