What is th definition of having an affair according to you ?

I think the definition of an affair is getting emotionally or physically involved with another person. If you spend hours with someone else, sharing your deepest secrets and wanting to see them more than your spouse, then just because you haven't had a physical affair doesn't mean it doesn't count in my books. And obviously physically cheating on you partner is an affair. If you see this person as just a work colleague and you need to see her a lot for work then it isn't an affair, though you may want to make sure your partner knows that it is just work as perhaps she's having these suspicions as well.

I think, you cannot call it as having an affair yet. "having an affair" for me, pertains only to married ones or to those who are already committed to one another , like they are already living in. But in your case, your female friend is just in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and they are not yet committed to one another, so they still can choose somebody to be their partner.

First of all, you should determine whether you really need to finish your job so you meet her often, or you've got certain feelings for her. If your answer is the first one, it means your friends don't know anything. They only judge you by what they saw, and it's normal, because people intend to give their opinion based on what they see or hear. So, if you feel you don't, just tell them you don't.

you should set clear cut boundaries so this question wont bother you again and again.Other thing is maintain transparency .Do whatever in front of your spouse or let her him know what are you doing.Either your partner is just too insecure or you are doing something which is triggering that insecurity.

to those with are narrow minded, an affair is an 'illicit' relationship outside of marriage or committed relationship between two lovers, lol! sometimes referred as 'flirting' and sometimes 'forbidden' relationship as one is already committed and yet having a relationship with another emotionally and physically.

A work friend who you are not intimate with is not an affair to me. An affair is where you are sexually or emotionally intimate with someone besides your spouse. The word affair refers to couples who are married only. If you are just dating, the word cheating is usually just used. I don't think you are doing anything wrong except doing your job. I think your situation is very normal and legitimate and you shouldn't think twice about it.

How can your friend say that you are having an affair with you female friend? Maybe your friend is seeing something between the two of you. Or he is just mistaken? You said that you are seeing her often to finished the work. How can it be called an affair?Having an affair means to have a relationship with a person but you are not. Besides your female friend has a boyfriend, you are doing this things because of your work. Your friend has just mistaken that you are having an affair cause your not.