Mendin A Broken Heart

bhaby, Who broke your heart and made you write this topic? Is he still alive?...(haha) Getting senti?..or Emo? smile..being lonely doesn't fit you at all

Hi bhaby.. Hmmm.... let me think first when i fell in love? lol... oh no. Once i was used by the name of love but saved myself. So... my heart is too hard to break. Take care.

i hope you got well over him. when you smile or when you laugh, there are no traces of a broken heart. but maybe when i met you, you had your heart already mended. hehe our heart is so fragile yet so strong. it can withstand an enormous amount of pain and has the ability to mend itself over time. it pours out the most powerful feeling and can keep you in bliss or suffering. at the end of the day, no matter how many questions you burn in your mind... it still is our choice whether you'd rather feel the love or the pain in your heart. hehe life is good. life is beautiful. love is everywhere. stay hot and loving. lol

Awww...Did somebody break your heart? I hope you're posting this for discussion's sake. But, if ever your heart was really broken, I hope that you heal fast. You are right, you know. Life goes on. Cheers!

my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and i don't know what to do right now. even working here on mylot affects me and worst is i can't focus on my studies, my board exam is coming soon and i really cant study ambivalence....... i have mixed emotions i don't know if i should feel anger or sadness. i think maybe i just feel empty. i still can't accept it because it was only a week ago and we've been together for 7 years, how easy is that to forget about and throw away? i still hope he takes me back soooooooooon so we can be together again and be happy again. im so

well, i can relate with this discussion cause im still currently mending my broken heart.. im trapped in the stage when i always say "if only i can turn back time".. but i cant, and so now im just trying to be happy with my family and friends.. too bad im still hoping that he will come back, even if he already has a girlfriend right now.. my current activity in healing my heart is learning to love myself more.. =)

Perfectly said. If people are in love, they usually even forget what is the difference of bad from good, decent from indicent, right from wrong. Everything that brought them to the feeling of being in cloud 9 would they consider always right. But when got hurt.. the same effect. Could not recognized the difference of such. But it is more easier to fall in love rather than coping from a broken heart. It is easy to say that it is just a matter of acceptance, as I was always say, but yes it's true..it is easier said than done. That's why experienced people usually say to give only what you can and what you have, but make sure to have something to be left for ourselves. But if people are in love, they could not think right. So just hoping that people could realized that it will be more painful if we give more than we can in the name of love. If can be done, try the to be always in balance...mind and heart. Happy mylotting.

Hello Bhabycatch, I don't really know the story since you never mentioned me this but hurting the person physically is kinda bad too, there's nothing wrong with loving but i guess you have expected this person to love you the same, but he didn't last. I wished only that the heart never gets tired loving once it's fallen for some one. but it does whether you are in a bad or good relationship. Accepting is so damn hard, some people takes years before it happens. but once they do, things are settled quite alright. some match ups are never or not meant to be. Have a nice day

While acceptance and moving on are healthy steps to take, in order to be in place to be ready to love again, it is good to take some time to evaluate the situation. I think sometimes people just shut down emotionally, shove it away and move on without wanting to deal with the pain. I believe that spending some time working through the pain and making some realizations is a necessary part of healing and truly moving on. When a relationship goes wrong, it is important to evaluate, as objectively as possible and with complete honesty, what part you had in contributing to the relationship not working. It is easy to blame the other person; much more difficult see where we, ourselves, have done wrong. Before just moving on, evaluate: what didn't work about the relationship, what did I do to cause damage, what did I do to give my best, did I give enough or too much, what needs of mine were met, what needs were NOT met, was I able to meet the other person's needs. Answers to these questions are important to know before getting involved in the next relationship so that you will know better who and what you want in a relationship, as well how to be a better partner next time around. Think about it, find some answers, then accept the past relationship is over, and move on.