Do you care what people say?
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
May 3, 2011 4:43am CST
I always passed by word of mouth. I wanted people to feel good about myself and I despised those indifferent to the opinion of others. And it cost me many times, my own happiness.
It took me some life until I understood that people show their sympathy for you especially when you have nothing to admire. As it is more convenient to you pity obstetrician, while admiration is a strenuous exercise, which hinders us most often. As you accept more easily if they look like, but that no matter how nice you were in your circle, no one to hold you hand when you cry in your sleep May not find place in life.
And I understand that no matter how much they would talk about you, it does not protect you from aloneness. As only joy is contagious, while pain can not be split. As people judge you a second, then see their lives beyond their happiness or unhappiness, they have led from start to finish. And no one living in your place. As we have only one life and a tremendous obligation to be serene, peaceful, happy. With or without the approval of others.
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21 responses
@flapiz (23151)
• United Kingdom
3 May 11
Well I also am one of those people who easily get upset by others words before. I wanted to please everyone. But now I realized it is utterly impossible.. So i say, "What the hell... If I want to please everyone I might as well just stop existing." Whatever we do someone's gonna find mistake in it still so we might as well just do what we gotta do as long as we don't break any federal rules, RIGHT?
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 May 11
Indeed. Do you find it paradoxical that in many situations, although we seem indifferent and says that others think we are not interested, after all we get to often we behave as though someone should set ourselves a target? What matters, after all, so much, think of others as long as we feel good about our skin? Why so many roles and censorship? Eventually we get ourselves so many masks that we lose continuity identity ...Thanks for response.
@flapiz (23151)
• United Kingdom
5 May 11
You're welcome Didi... Losing our identity kinda feel like losing our soul. It's kinda nice topic pal.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
4 May 11
As long as I have faith in me, though I'm not passionate about what others say! As I indenpendente reasons I accept me, as I reject because I do not like, so as I am natural and jaunty, so I expect them to behave and to me!
Who does not understand me, I strictly professional relationship if necessary. So ... opinion of others does not matter that because at how much malice and envy there ..... sorry to say that no matter how honest, sincere, kind, selfless you are still not good and there will be someone who will try to denigrate, to stain your image to make you look boo boo in front of whom thinks he sees fit!
Confidence in their own person, is the price appreciation!Thanks for respons.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
4 May 11
Hello didi
I never care what people tell about me or my family, we have a say, when an elephant passes, dogs bark behind
I have lived my life, my way and i will be living it my way
nice discussion,
Thanks for sharing
Cheers.
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
4 May 11
I do not care, not because I thought I'd superior, but because I believe that only I know what's in my head and soul. The other suspect / guess / suppose just ... in a more or less ... We have to decide what's best. We have fate in their hands and we can only model. Access to it is the fingerprint of the soul, so everyone with his fate.Thanks for response.
@06MLam (620)
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4 May 11
I do care about what the others say because I always take things seriously and this has its advantage and disadvantage. The advantage is I can improve myself from the others comments on me but I would be unhappy at the same time if the words people say are a bit offensive. What I will do is to just take a balance in between the two so as to take the biggest benefit from it.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
4 May 11
Important is what you want, and as long as you want, where there will no way to go ... you can not appeal to everyone, so you feel like you have to behave well so .. Discussion will be always behind you ... and to be cynical to say it's good to talk about us .. no matter how good! bad! only to speak, that means you are still an important person ...Thanks for response.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
4 May 11
I've always believed in myself and it helps that my mother is always there supporting me, I never care about the negative judgments of people, I don't know them and they have no importance in my life! I live by my mantra "Do what makes you happy, some people might not understand but the people who matters always will"...
Have a nice day!!!
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
4 May 11
What does the world never interested me, although she was interested in my person-always. I like learning from others better, more beautiful, more delicate, more intelligent, then experimenting on my own personality and life lessons. We learned in time that everyone else will disagree and somehow influence you, but very few are really sincere and real in my own good.Thanks for response.
@wolfwise (100)
• Philippines
4 May 11
For me I think who or what's the persons status in your life would determined if I would mind anything he/she says. A good example would be a office mate would judge you for even the smallest of things, this I would not care but if that office made is directly related to me or is in great connection to my work then it would certainly affect me. Be in happy about yourself is really a essential component of you emotional well-being so. If worst things comes to worst then I think concentrating on what your doing or enjoying your life without minding others of what they say behind your back is the best solution for this. Hope this helps :-)
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
4 May 11
It's good to know the opinions of others around us, however, not always we welcome criticism which does not sound quite right, but I think it's time to see a bit further away from our person ... that's life ...a sea to be discovered with patience. Thanks for response.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I do care a lot for what people say. yes, but that was before. But it came to me to realized that yes, it's true, there would be lot of things that we'll missed inour lives. We deprived ourselves happiness, that's why some people always say that happiness is a choice. Before I usually tagged as perfectionist for I always consider other's opinion up to the extent of sacrificing. But when the time came that when I have to do something I know of value to me, I was alone without anybody to support me. I came to realized that people created with uniqueness, we have our own mind to think what is good for us, how we can be the best even in helping others without sacrificing our own happiness and decision. I realized that we have to move by how we want to be ourselves and not to be a model to someone else. No one is perfect is definitely true. Things, events, and most of the thinking of peope are really out of our control. We all have to paint our own future and happiness. But of course, still not beyond what is right.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 May 11
Very well said. We live in a superficial society that condemns every movement, every gesture and word. Labeled, but not by the quality of our views. We are judged by a single gesture and we are condemned to bear a specific label. Too shallow and too we judge the world as if it would be our mission on Earth. What would people say if they would stop for a moment the clock and were careful look into the soul ...?Thanks for response.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
3 May 11
The words of other people mean, well I don't want to say nothing, but they don't mean as much as it would to many. The fact is that while I am in fact flawed, everyone else is in fact flawed to say the very least. Therefore, they might have a valid point and really it is going to give me something to think about. However, I sure if I might be compelled, I could have an equal number of valid points. That does not mean I am right or wrong, or they are right or wrong, but it is very interesting to think about it.
At the any of the time, there is only one person who I feel like I have to answer for. That is the person who I look into the mirror and see, that is the same person who stares back at me each and every day in the morning. That person is me and I think that what I think does outweigh the opinions of other people. In general at least. Not really, but it does seem to be the case in general. The person in the mirror should matter.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
4 May 11
For me, I care what certain people say. The people that matters. Otherwise if you literally cared what everybody in your daily life thought of you, there might be some self esteem issues here (im speaking in general). People will talk good and bad about you until the day you die, and sometimes even after that. I.E many celeberities that we know. I do think its really important to develope a sense as to who you are, so you would careless what others think about you. On the other hand, if its people who really matter like close family members or good friends, things like this can hurt and I'm sure you would care. I would have to say that I do. Everybody else who decides to talk about me can kick rocks. Again, just speaking in general, but I don't have drama like this in my life. HEHE
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
4 May 11
Indeed, the opinion of others matter not because we depend on feedback, but in one way or another depends on the people around, and they depend on us alone ... I do not think you can do more in life. People depend on people, and counts as displayed in our company so we are labeled as for appearances. Even if we know how we really are, that does not mean only that matter, our opinion counts and you have others think about us. Do you interested in pride and pride is the worst weapons, for they can not help you go further, on the contrary lose with these weapons, handles them if you can not .. it's better to listen and advice .. even if they how we perceive us .. it is nice to listen and not talk to you alone. In conlcuzie important is to learn all how to be. That's education. Thanks for response.
@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
3 May 11
I care partially about what people say about me;there are people whose opinion is important to me and others who can say whatever they want cause I don't care,but I'm pretty sure of one thing;if I were the way others wanted me to be I would be very,very unhappy,so I prefer to be myself as often as I can and express my personality in my own way,so I will end this post with a few lyrics from one of the greatest rock bands in the world,Dream Theater:'To those who understand,I extend my hand/To the doubtful I demand,take me as I am!'
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 May 11
I take you as you are! Even though some people adopt the strategy "I do not care what others say about me, i know, and that's enough, "the reality is that the opinion of others about us directly influence life and confidence in ourselves and in others. Being an optimistic and confident nature is done only on a solid base of confidence in others "created by their own forces and those who know us. Each person is unique and it must feel good on our skin.Thanks for response.
Even though some people adopt the strategy "I do not care what others say about me, i know, and that's enough, "the reality is that the opinion of others about us directly influence life and confidence in ourselves and in others. Being an optimistic and confident nature is done only on a solid base of confidence in others "created by their own forces and those who know us. Each person is unique and it must feel good on our skin.Thanks for response.
@gorila (186)
• Indonesia
3 May 11
you women who think positive.
for myself, other people talk about me, I just make as the wind. no effect for me, just pass by and blew me.
@ennaihl24 (47)
• Philippines
3 May 11
Well, everyone is free to think whatever they want, but for as long as your confident about yourself you don't need to worry about it right. Actually, what only matters to me is what those people I loved and not those minds of people whom I barely know.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
4 May 11
Ideally, everyone have a good opinion about us, but this is impossible there's always grumbling that they have commented or criticized. So I do what I think is best for me and my loved ones and the rest try to detach myself, I'm not interested in their opinion, and do so not to get upset for nothing. But the opinion intimates, put his heart and love where I care.Thanks for response.
@cormiera (278)
• United States
4 May 11
i really dont care what people think about me actually because one people shouldnt judge other people and 2im me i cant be anything else but me and the hole circle thing be the one to step outside the circle be urself not what ppls want u to be
@dagma09 (90)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I think its depends on what kind of person that is telling you about something. If its your enemy, for sure it will never tell good about you, so why would you care about it. If you'll gonna feel affected to it your the one will lose. .... Sometimes a friend tell the wrong about you. At first its may be difficult to accept. But you should think that you friend only want is the best for you... Then you have your mind that know what really you are and no one knows about yourself but you...
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 May 11
People will always hit what you do not understand and will always blame things that do not appear to be normal. I love watching people. I like to look at life in the face. I like to say nothing of what you feel, because I believe more in the true value of the gesture. But until you get here, so to be what I am, and I wanted a child and teenager I was part of the group, be accepted for one that is. Thanks for response.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
3 May 11
I do care about what people say about me. i try not to let those opinions affect how I live my life. we can't please everyone. We have to begin with ourselves. What people say should not have to weigh heavy on our hearts.
@misterMR (796)
• Philippines
3 May 11
It depends on the situation. Sometimes, I do care about what people say or I'll accept their opinions because I could learn something out of it. It's like learning your mistakes. However, there are times that I do not care about what others say because as I said, it depends on the case. Take for example, if you were mistakenly accused of being this and that, of course you would not listen more of it because you know that it is not true and you tell them.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 May 11
I was educated I do not care what anybody says, we will try anyway. People do not really care, only those who love us they care. And when I was well and I was happy, and now that he no longer so, the same people hold me tightly by the hand, the same people want to know how I feel or if I could do something for. me. But I know that only I can change something in my life, and when I feel I can, I will! With or without the approval of others.Thanks for response.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
3 May 11
I know that I am not a perfect person,so I never care about what the people around say about me.
I always do what I have to do both in my work and my family,and I usually do what I like to do every day.I cannot feel happy every minute,but I do my best to make me happy.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 May 11
Me either, I do not care about "word of mouth. " I always thought that what I do is to be to me good Me and those dear to me, not to believe anything about my world, regardless of consequences. Often I was "opinion maker", a situation that I "tickle" pride-although it is considered a sin. I like being different! I like to say that I and others would like to be so, but they are afraid. I'm afraid not only of God! Life is so short, that is not worth your accomplices mind with tactics that make you different than you are being charged by the society. Thanks for response.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
3 May 11
It depends on what people are saying about me and my loved ones. I sometimes have to stand up for my family. I do not accept everything. As long as it is truth in the statement it is okay.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 May 11
Opinion of other counts, for each, but in different proportions and different situations. The words spoken by someone may have an effect on us. It's important to put on our pros and cons of balance, because sometimes there a little truth in everything. It is important to find balance in what has been said about us.Thanks for response.
