single and ready to mingle!
By nikkiboinky
@nikkiboinky (59)
Philippines
May 3, 2011 9:35pm CST
My 4-year relationship with my boyfriend just ended days ago. Honestly before the breaking up happened, I already foreseen it.The last 4 months of our relationship was very rocky. We were fighting about the smallest and shallowest things on Earth. I guess we've grown tired of each other and the love wasn't really enough for us to save the relationship. Everything happened in the right time. I've always prayed for the right person in my life and I guess it was one of God's ways to tell me he is not the one. I am really ok now, it wouldn't be so easy to move on but I am not very depressed and almost suicidal like before. Everyday is a bright day for me. I am not looking for a next relationship but I am really excited being free, I must have forgotten how it feels :) I guess I would have to enjoy life with my family, friends and job for while.
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12 responses
@mrfdg1972 (3237)
• Philippines
8 May 11
Because you were not meant for each other, in my opinion its better than way than be in a wedlock, 24 is a very young age, and if i was 24-28 i would go to Marikina City to wipe those days away.
@nikkiboinky (59)
• Philippines
9 May 11
aww that sounds so sweet :) i really appreciate the thought
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
8 May 11
Do not get all upset. Look at me, I was in a 17 year marriage and it fell apart. It took me almost three years to get over the initial shock. I am still having a problem with it. Your situation is different. You were not married with children. So I say to you, take it slow and enjoy being single. You're young. There will be others. Do not rush progress.
@nikkiboinky (59)
• Philippines
9 May 11
Sad to hear that :( Thanks for the advice. Now, that I'm really enjoying my life without any pressure I think I can get used to this for a long time :)
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
4 May 11
Dear friend,
I feel it is difficult to be with someone we feel hurts us and also whom we find it difficult to love and trust. It is better to enjoy life with those freedom of love that we get. Moreover as it has happened in right time it is much better. I feel life is enjoy and face it the way it come. It is really nice know that your life is back to track and it is really enjoyable. May be the real Mr.right will soon come to your life, all the best.
@allknowing (137553)
• India
4 May 11
Being in love does not mean that one should give up on everything else. It appears you did just that as you now say you are liberated and can spend time with friends and family. Could this be the reason for both of you to get fed up of each other. If that is so, I am sure you will know how you will handle your next love. Good Luck to you.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 May 11
That's the spirit nikkiboinky! keep it up and never allow yourself to be saddened by a relationship that has been rocky all along.
It's really hard to be hanging on a relationship that more or less you gauge to be going nowhere. Imagine, you are still on a boyfriend -girlfriend relationship and yet two have been fighting every now and then ? What more if you are married?
Move on girl, you deserve a far more better one.
@nikkiboinky (59)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Yeah, I feel stupid for realizing that just now. I think I convinced myself that he was the right one and I just wasted a lot of time, silly me. Thanks, have a good day!
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
4 May 11
i am happy that you are coping well with the break up.. i am also praying that if ever the Lord permits that me and my current boyfriend is already for forever, then He should give me a sign. I hope that you discover new things and new enjoyments on your new single life. take care :)
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
4 May 11
Hi dear,
This kind of issues become common on these days and all related individuals differently and I think we all are not at all prepared to face the hard times, what we meet daily. Minor mistakes and regular issues make us irritated and the repeated annoyance always tempted to separation. If you find this lonely moments give some kind of pleasure continue for some more time and the next trial should be better to have after a serious thought perhaps make you more comfortable for a long lasting relationship and better life. Best of luck
Thank-s
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
4 May 11
You are really a strong girl. Ending a four year relationship is not an easy thing and its only days now but you are okay already.
I am currently on a four year relationship with my boyfriend too and we had some problems too. I though we were going to break up as we had many quarrels, we had many small arguments like you mentioned. It is really not easy to move on. However, once we know that the person is not the right one, it is very right of you to choose to move on. How many of us can just decide to move on like that? Because for me, i really admire your courage.
What i can say is, since you are single right now, enjoy you singlehood while it last! You will realise that there are many things for you to do and many things for you to look forward.
@nikkiboinky (59)
• Philippines
4 May 11
That's what I just realized. It is not easy to just ignore and forget everything my boyfriend and I had but I know with God's guidance I will. Just have the best times with your boyfriend. Every quarrel is a challenge and a realization to both of you how much you love each other.
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
4 May 11
This calls for a celebration. 
I am glad that you have gotten over your past relationship. It's nice being single I think, enjoying life without restrictions for awhile, dating and meeting guys without any commitment. Too bad I am married hahaha.
I've been married for more than 7 years and sometimes i wonder how it would feel like to be single and be able to mingle again, but I guess I couldn't live with that thought knowing that to be single again I have to leave my husband and hurt my son big time. I just can't afford that. So it's just a thought for me.
But for you, I want you to enjoy life as long as you can. When the right person comes, he would be there knocking on your front door, dazzling you and would make you happy for the rest of your life.
I am glad that you have gotten over your past relationship. It's nice being single I think, enjoying life without restrictions for awhile, dating and meeting guys without any commitment. Too bad I am married hahaha.
I've been married for more than 7 years and sometimes i wonder how it would feel like to be single and be able to mingle again, but I guess I couldn't live with that thought knowing that to be single again I have to leave my husband and hurt my son big time. I just can't afford that. So it's just a thought for me.
But for you, I want you to enjoy life as long as you can. When the right person comes, he would be there knocking on your front door, dazzling you and would make you happy for the rest of your life. @nikkiboinky (59)
• Philippines
4 May 11
I am really emotional right now. Your comment made me cry. It's so nice to hear from people that I haven't even met and barely know of. Your words mean so much to me. The 4-year relationship was really tough and now that I am free I just can't imagine how fun this is going to be. Thank you so much for uplifting me. God bless you and your family :)
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Welcome my friend, we are here in mylot are ready to mingle you and help you to work out your present situation - enjoy and happy to know that you are ready to move on.. I hope next time Mr Right is the right for you... see you around my friend
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Good that your handling the break up well. That is a good outlook and I'm wishing you all the best. The right man will come, don't rush things, and just enjoy your life being single.
@Idmega2000 (127)
• United States
12 May 11
Sometimes i often think how free i would be without having a lover, but i realise one day i will settle for one for the rest of my life, though it good to be allone but beleive me in the nearest future, you'll settle for one, i hope he'll be your true love for things like this not to happen again, happy mylotting
