my younger brother beat me again
By tammy27
@tammy27 (1241)
Philippines
May 3, 2011 9:48pm CST
it happened again, now. just now. im crying not because of the pain, not because of the physical and emotional pain. but because of my question that can't be answered. "why can my mom let this happen? why dont she care?" im not in front of the PC pouring my emotions out because my brother beat me again, and this time in front of my younger sister and my 1 year old son. i dont know what to do, i dont know how to real with this, how to get rid of him. he's such a bad influence to my sister and my son. i dont want them to see how things are going in our house. i know it's bad to wish for death, but hell do i care?! i wish my brother would die!! i wish he'll die so that i wont feel pain anymore, and so that he can't influence my sister and my son. i cant believe my 13 year old brother has grown into a monster. how i wish i could have a sweet escape, far... far from all the pain. i dont know, sorry you guys if im not making a decent discussion here and im just yammering about stuffs many of you might be annoyed. :(
bottom line is... im in pain, im alone, and i want to escape this sh**.
10 responses
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
4 May 11
I am sorry, then I guess you cannot leave the house and be independent. Try to be outside of the house more often when he is around. Bring along your son and sister with you. I know this is not a long term solution, but I wish your mother can take control of him. I guess your mother is also afraid of him, that's why she could not protect you and your son.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
4 May 11
Beat him back. Seriously don't be a coward to let some 13 year old boy beat on you. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. When he comes at you again just jump on him with all you have. Run at him kicking screaming, scratching and throwing fists. I bet after you show him how it feels he won't dare want to mess with you again.
@celticeagle (166961)
• Boise, Idaho
4 May 11
That is despicable!! Can't the authorities do anything? You realize that these child you speak of that are seeing this will grow up and may do the same thing. They will think it is normal. Maybe your mother is afraid and doesn't know what to do. Maybe you need to do something. WHy let it happen over and over. Leave, get the authorities involved, fight back, talk to your mother. Something needs to change.
@celticeagle (166961)
• Boise, Idaho
4 May 11
That is so sad. You need to make it known to those little ones that this is not right or normal.
@06MLam (620)
•
4 May 11
Warn your brother that you will call the police next time if he beats you and really do it if he beats you again! Thoungh he is not an adult yet, he should already know that he should not beat the others just simply because he would like to do so. Be strong and we are all here to support you!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Why can't your mother prevent your 13 year old brother in doing that to you? Can you not report the abuse to the police or to the social welfare? How come you still live with them? Can you not find a house for yourself and son, because it will surely have a traumatic effect on your son, seeing you being beaten?
I pity you for bearing that.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Maybe you should have a heart to heart talk with your brother.
Since you are older than him, you can talk to him nicely about things, like an elder sister should be to her younger sibling. Try to control your anger as much as possible and stop saying things that can provoke your brother, because sometimes harsh words can provoke someone to react violently.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
4 May 11
my mom said, if i express my anger through speaking out, my brother expresses his anger through beating. how can she think this way!? i mean, even innocent kinds know that her ways of thinking is not proper.! well, i cant report this to the police cause it'll just make things worse. my mom will surely think that im a terrible person wanting our family to be broken. and im forced to live with them cause im only 18, im still studying and i cant afford to rent.
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Hey, he's only 13 years old and he can do such thing? is he problematic? I think this not normal for a 13 year old boy...It's so sad, and please don't get offended but I guess its how he was brought up that's why he turned out like this.
You're the older one, you should have the authority over him. He's doing this to you because you're letting him to do so.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
4 May 11
what can i do? he's bigger than me, he's taller than me, he's a lot stronger than me, and i'll be the most awful disrespectful and worse daughter ion the eyes of my mom if i'll beat him as well. i also believe he's problematic, i have told my mom bout it, i even searched online for symptoms of ADHD and let my mom see for herself that my brother has about 90% of all symptoms. well, she dont care, she didnt take it seriously. even if she cant even control his own 13 year old son who screams in front of her and says all the curse words.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
5 May 11
he is 13 and so violent already?why not fight him too and better yet call police. There so many cures to him, he is still young better find a cure for his abusive behavior rather than wait when he is already old and cannot be changed.
@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
4 May 11
Hello tammy27... :)
please dont cry... you’re not alone in this world, a lot of people have the similar experience like you...
he might beat you psychically again and again, and you think he’s just a bad influence to your sister and your son... but please dont hate him, just forgive him and teach him with love and kindness even he beat you again someday...
someday he will realize that he has a great sister like you, and believe that he will change to be a better man...
if you forgive your younger brother, you can teach your sister and your son how to forgive someone, especially the loved one...
dont let anger and hatred fill your heart... this is one of my favorite quotes from my bible...
Colossians 3:13
"Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."
dont cry and keep stronger...
#hugs
@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
5 May 11
Well if your mom wont do anything about it then you have to fend him
off I would just block and catch his punches.you know..this may sound silly
but this may stop him for a while.
I would sit on the kid until he calmed down ^^"
and if that doesnt work perhaps a spanking?or punishment like taking away things he likes
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
4 May 11
Well you have some options, one is dont be the victim. You can call the authoritys on your brother, document if he leaves any marks on you and press charges against him. Dont leave this up to your parents if they arent going to help. You can also defend yourself and hit him back. let him know you wont take this any more. You can leave. As hard as it is maybe there are others who can help you. You have to remember though your taking the victim role and in doing that you wont get out of it. Dont allow this to happen and dont allow your parents to allow him to do this. Take charge of your safety and your sons safety.You can do this you just have to believe in yourself.
