You cannot choose the one you love

I do not agree with that at all. I believe that you have to get to know someone before you fall in love with them. Except family members. But as far as relationships go it is knowing who they are that causes you ton love them. Otherwise its only physical love without knowing how the personality is.

I think it is true that you don't choose the person you're in love. With me, there's this guy that is so immature to the point where it becomes a nasty habit. He always gets me mad and always says these things that are immature and immoral and I hate him for it but deep down inside I know in my heart that I love him. Love isn't a feeling that you control, it's an innate feeling that comes un-expectantly

For me i can choose but sometimes the time was teasing us by giving us another to love while we are already had choose. This is the part of my life that i really hate because it was happened to me. And it ruins my life. Well as i learn the best thing we can do is choose then close our eyes and heart so we cannot see others that ruin our heart again. I did that way now i closed my eyes and heart to the man i loved. And whatever happen no regret. Well this is life.. :( Or let us be happy in the way that God has given to us... :)

Hello Laydee I am not sure if you're still talking about your ex or simply you're explaning the things you have in the past.or it's that specific question that you asked of us. but i will answer it anyways. Yes, you can choose the ones you LOVE, but it is NOT YOU who will chose it, it's your heart does. sometimes, we choose the ones we love but the heart chooses the other and it's unbelievable.. there are stories where either men or women chooses the ones they love and the end the heart chooses the other.. The Heart Chooses.

Maybe that's just how love really is. That's just the way it works. You never know what hits you and more often than not, we don't have any explanations or whatsoever why we love someone despite their many flaws. You may have forgotten the reasons you had why you fell in love with that person but maybe, somewhere deep inside of you, those reasons are still there. Maybe we need some reminding but it's not really that important, I guess. You love and are blessed to be loved in return and that's what really matters.

I disagree! haha. for me, i think you can choose the one you will love, you have your mind, of course you have the freedom to choose from a pool of strangers who you would love.

For me it is true because I think you are still deeply in-love with your partner that is why you can't still resist him no matter how unkind he is to you now. You can't easily say "I don't like you anymore" because your spirit is still being attached to him.

Hi... I have not ever in love but as i feel that its a wonderful feelings if both are loyal to each other and share all everything. have a great day.

I am a personal believer of this adage. It is true that you cannot really choose the one you love. You may be running down a list of the things that you would want in someone to love, but ironically, it does not happen all the time. I guess you cannot really pin down all qualities in one person. There is a good side and the bad side. It maybe funny to think that you have to love the bad side of the person, but the wonder of all of this is that you may be the one to transform that bad side of that person to a good side..... and that really is love. :)

Hi laydee... Personally, I believe we choose the one we love, whether the basis is rational or emotional or whatever, choice is involved. There must be something in the "other" which strikes a chord in us and love could start from there. It is the kind of relationship you develop that makes it strong, loving the faults as well. To a point. And that is probably why you love your partner even when you are mad and could not explain why. Have a nice day.

I like your question. I am personally facing this question too. We cannot choose the one we love. Is this true? One of my aunt said "a large majority of us do not marry the person that we love most." In the past, i don't believe her. But now, i find her statement very true. Recently, my boyfriend and I have been facing some problems, especially from my parents, pressuring us to break up. These few months, we have been quarreling for the smallest thing. My boyfriend, i realise have been giving in to me alot and this makes me alittle uncomfortable. I have asked him why and he said that he loves me and therefore he has no choice. Is this really the case? Even though we still quarrel, i also dare to say that i still love my boyfriend deeply. Back to what my aunt mentioned, we might love a person deeply, but we still have the choice to decide whether we want to live our life with that person or not.

hello, Honestly, for me this is true because it just happened to me and to my present boyfriend now. You know we never knew that we will end up loving each other because we use to be friends since high school. but now look what we are now, we our lovers and happy. So, I believe in this statement.

i believe so. if the two person are meant for each other,no matter what happens, you'll always be in each others company. maybe it is your destiny. there's always a reason for everything that happens in our life. and it's God's will.

Hello laydee. We can not choose the one that we'll love. Emotion is such a powerful force, that not even our will can go against it. Sometimes, we don't even find the 'right' reason why we loved that person in the first place.

thts really cool. you cant choose love it struck u automatically makes u mad.. u cant reason y it happens.. becoz it just happens!!

We have no control in who we will fall in love with. Our hearts will make that choice for us. sometimes our judgments in the ways of love can be cruel and unkind. sometimes the joy of love can fill our hearts. i wonder if it would be the same if we were able to choose who we love before we do.

falling in love is a chance, it just happens at the most expected place and time. you can't explain why it happens, but you need to experience how it feels. it's not a choice that you can make at an instant, it is a spur of the moment when you feel a certain tingling sensation or unexplained emotion of being ecstatically to be with that person and then blossoms as you pursue it. you can choose to fall out of love based on how you evaluate yourself in terms of the relationship, i.e. taking for granted, abused, etc.

YES!!!! I think it's true for me, you see I've already chosen someone whom I wanted to be married to, he loves me and puts me above anything and with him I could see a very stable and comfortable married life but LOVE hit me...and the rest is history, my fiancée may not be the perfect man I wanted but he is do perfect for me!!!

Yes, because it comes from God's.

I don't believe in the statement that you cannot choose the one you love, simply because you yourself has the capacity to choose the one you love. Maybe love will find its own way but i guess you are the one who finds the one you love. If he/she comes in your life it was meant to be. try to give the best that you can, show him/her that you love her, even he/she makes you mad, love has the power to make you ease those pains that you experienced. You need to sacrifice because love no matter how hard you experienced about it, those happy memories with your love ones remain. You need to accept that person because you love him/her. He/she may make mistakes it doesn't matter. Learn to forgive and forget. If the right person you chose to love is there always give the best that you can so he/she could appreciate it. He/she will realize how much effort and sacrifices you made. Just love and love and cherish each others company