Why do You Want to Be My Friend??

My name is Zhang Fengxia. I'm from China. Ilove American movies. I love Brad Pitt. I'd like to make friends here, and hope that I can share my joy and sorrow here with friends.

Just a few seconds ago before reading this post, somebody invited me to be her friend and she has zero posts. Nowadays I just don't care much who invites me. It doesn't matter at all, I just accept them. If one has zero post, I send a private message thanking the person for adding me and hoping that he would participate in the discussions here in mylot.

Well, I accept all people that request for friendship. I don't need something to proved that they want me to be their friend...The important thing is that they ware willing to be my friend...

Your not knowing me is the main reason I want to be friends with you. You will appriciate my honesty. I am a nitwit who thinks funny and a dimwit enough to respond with my version of wit. I been shooed, shushed and even whacked. Seroiusly I am not taken seriously. Only people like you who do not know me make friends with me, will you please? I accept your friendshp unconditionally.

I have a total of 62 pending friends' requests which will steadily increase. I watch their progress and when I am satisfied that they are contributing here I very slowly add them but I do not delete any friends no matter how negatively they have performed vis-a-vis me!!Attitude of users changes with time and deleting a friend is the harshest thing I have seen here. What benefit does one get by deleting a friend. Leave them be.

I have not yet gotten that, but my guess would be that they see you as someone important and therefore automatically think that being "friends" with you would be beneficial. The friend requests I have received and accepted were from others that had posted in the same thread as me. Maybe when I am more well known, I will also receive such strange requests.

yes all the time and when it happens like this I deny as I dont know what I would be getting into

Too late, as we are already friends, lol. If I get a friend request, I usually go look at the profile and read some of the discussions and replies and reply to some of their old ones upon accepting. That is, time allowing. :-)

I let them sit until I see that they've actually been active. Too many spam messages from newbie "friends".

Hi. buenavida. I feel like this too. The main question that I am usually asking them is, "Who are you and why do you want to be my friend, first?" I mean there are many members here at myLot besides me, but, "Why me?" I am your first friend that you want to make on myLot. It is very strange. I usually don't accept friend requests that are like this. If they write me and tell me who they are if I ask them, then I will reconsider being friends with them.

Well it makes no sense to even request friends here if your not even gonna be an active member, but maybe whomever made that friends request could be a newbie and they may not fully understand how this forum works I've gotten request like that, and I'm willing to give a person/member the benefit of the doubt as long as they do not attempt to spam me or harass me I'll accept there request.

Hi buenavida, Oh gosh I get so many requests daily, and granted it is because I am very active. What the motive is of someone who has requested me is unknown because if we have not interacted I don't understand why they think it is okay to request friends. Sometimes members come here with the intent that if they add lots of friends, that the friends will answer their discussion then they earn. Which we as seasoned users know that unless we comment back we will not earn. It is hard to accept all, although to date I have not turned anyone away, but it is getting too hard because some will only add you to spam too. I have been lucky not to have a problem and have actually developed some really great friends on myLot. So I have recently slowed down on quickly adding and seeing if there is some interaction first. Only reason why I have been doing this is because I don't see how it is possible if the members starts discussions about interests that I am not compatible with that they later feel that I don't want to respond. Kind of a feel out situation but for now it has been working well.

I haven't been on the site in quite a while and came on to find FIFTEEN FRIEND REQUESTS. I was FLOORED. Haha! I accepted all of them, don't get me wrong. Mostly because it's MyLot and it's harmless, but I was sort of shocked that I had that many. And some where as you say - 0 discussions started, 0 responses, no picture. I wonder why, but it doesn't seem like such a big deal to me. NOW, if these people asked for my address... THAT would be a different story altogether.

Buenavida, You have raise an issue that is often ignore yet very important. I have been accepting friendships without considering any of the issues you raised above. I think it is a grave mistake that I ought to rectify right away.

I do feel this way when someone with no activity makes a request. Unfortunately, there is no way to contact the person. myLot would be smart to treat friend requests like they do copy/paste features--you must achieve a certain amount of activity before you're granted the privilege. Maybe 20 replies would do the trick!

Some people just like to waste our time. It's the same on Triond. We get new fans that have never read our work. Best to just disregard them until they show some interest in what we write.

hello buenavida... :) i think that you talk about the same person like i thought... she sent me friend request to and i already accepted her.. but yes there’s something strange... with no discussion and no responding post, she already has a lot of friend now... something curious, but im not thinking about it... good day... :)

It happened to me 3 times during the last weeks, and the last was today. I accept them, and if I am spammed, I send them a PM asking to don't do it again : for the moment it works. Some new members are collecting myLot friends' just to collect friends. Generally those (0) members stay always at (0), never post anything -- even not a PM --, so they are not very disturbing.

I know what you mean, I keep getting this friend request from somebody that has been around for a while BUT this user doesn't post anything, my guess is that is just another spammer looking for referrals, I don't add people any more unless we become friends. What's the point, I mean we are here to socialize and to discuss not to add everybody as your friend to spam them via PMs.

i'm new to this site and dont know much about it.... if it happens so i'll not feel like that