"Thank you" - a hard word to say...
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
May 5, 2011 6:25am CST
We do not exercise gratitude. Compared to those who owe something we feel rather uncomfortable, but able to show them our gratitude. "Thank you" is very often a hard word to say.
We found very often lately that people have asked for help you receive it with love and you are grateful, but end up, inevitably, to think that they deserve what they offer, if you insist in offering or making. And when you're not willing to give them what, generously gave them for a while, you get hate just like when you had done a bad, not when you stop any further Make a well.
If, for a while, you give money to someone, and one day you no longer, he will feel robbed, not grateful. If you hire someone who badly needed a job and asks you to take him at any price, but at some point, you no longer need his services, you will despise it as a tyrant and ruthless employer. If for a while you get someone at home because she has nowhere to sit when you tell them that you can no longer provide shelter, he will turn into your enemy, in any case will not go away with full heart gratitude to you how much you could host.
I try to teach my children to say "thank you" every time you need, and I try to get them to see in others the beautiful, noble gestures. Do not be upset when a child who let them play with their toy back their demands, and be truly grateful for what you get from others. But I know how hard it is. Sometimes it's hard to open myself to be beautiful people around me. And, in addition, there was too often hurt by ingratitude of people who have changed my life for the better so you do not already know too well, not easy at all to say "thanks. "
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20 responses
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 May 11
I agree with you that the word 'thank you' is very hard to say but when the words pass over someone's lips, we know that the recipient meant the word as if that word came out from the bottom of their heart.
I try to express my thanks in a variety of ways and as many times possible everyday. I say thank you to complete strangers who I feel have assisted me in my daily life, even if those people themselves dismiss my thanks.
I have a lot more difficulty in saying thanks to people who live with in a day to day basis. When I do express my thanks, I do it in action becuase I feel that they would appreciate better if it is done rather just saying.
Saying thanks and receiving them might be difficult in this day and age where everything is somewhat taken for granted. It can be safe to say that saying thanks is pretty useless but the gesture of actually saying it is a grand one and very much appreciated by people who least expected it.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
25 May 11
"Thanks!" ... is one of the words that I like most. And may we say on the phone, or typing on the computer, they say with a smile! Every time "thank you" brings joy to my soul!
When you give, do it with sincerity, to have the same effect on others as I savor every sweet and honest about who I'm told. Simple "thank you" said with a smile, and gratitude that I send, I just enjoy when someone says "you are so beautiful today!"
As you are more grateful for what you have, the more life gives you more, and more! And every "thank you" brings resonance gratitude.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
5 May 11
It's not hard to appreciate small things and say thanks for people who gave us favor or something.
What makes it hard to say our thanks or to show our gratitude is when we don't feel that the favor or that thing is given by heart.
We have this feeling/s of doubt..that hold us to accept of say our thanks.
But if we know that it is heartily given,saying thank you will comes naturally too.
have a good day always
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
6 May 11
To thank (and I mean when I say to please not just throw a "thank you") creates the person to whom it is addressed to the satisfaction, a feeling well, the fulfillment of doing something well. What the point of view of long-term interaction is a major plus for you. Something you probably will have just won. Beyond education, vanity, pride, foolishness.
I honestly believe that apart from the likes of education and home seven years, the power to please say a lot about a person. Unfortunately many do not realize this. Thanks for response.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
5 May 11
It does seem like it is quite a stretch for many people to say these days. Then again, politeness has really been something that has gone by the wayside now more than ever. There are going to really be many reasons for this. When you all break it down, the world in general has become a bit more irritating and very much more selfish in general. For better or for worse, the simplest of gestures have become far more difficult.
It is really silly to think that people are unable to say a pair of simple words. However, it is rather been something that has become rather uncommon. Which is insane when you realize how elementary certain things should be and this is becoming anything but elementary. The words, "thank you" have fallen a little bit. Perhaps they have never been taught they should. That really does tend to be a bit of a problem with the world today for me.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
5 May 11
Nowadays "thank you" is a word which is believed he lost significance or meaning. It is true that sometimes you can show gratitude in other ways, but one simple word is worth a thousand gestures. Each of us should be grateful and thank you for everything you have in life.
A word so simple, but has so much effect on our subconscious, but very often we are so hard to say. My parents taught me to always say "thank you" and "with pleasure" even if it was an irony or malice. And I in my turn, I teach children to say this word because it could not be more important and especially is a proof of education. Thanks for response.
@misterMR (796)
• Philippines
5 May 11
Thank you is the only way you could show complete gratitude to people. Whether or not it could be actually be good or bad in the end of the day. It is difficult to even utter the word Thank you. It's difficult for us because we have inbred our prides in us, which is a very bad thing. If we take out pride in our lives, we would be eternally grateful to those who have helped us.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
5 May 11
In my opinion, "thank you" is not difficult to speak, on the contrary, I think they say the light and give you a good feeling, the utter silence after it, thereby turning up with gratitude toward the person who has returned and her eyes to you in one way or another, family, teachers, friends, colleagues ... Unfortunately, today, people seem to, no longer enjoys not know how to be polite, to say Please and thank you not know how to smile or enjoy the simple things. I thought they were brutified and involution ...Thanks for response.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
5 May 11
There are indeed many people who find it hard to say 'thank you' because they simply don't know what gratitude is,all they want is to exploit others and take advantage of their kindness,and if that benefactor finally opens his or her eyes and no longer supports them,they begin to hate that person and everything good he or she has done for them until that moment.I'm afraid it's very difficult to change the character of these people,and when we choose to give a helping hand to someone we should think twice and use not only our hearts,but also our reason:what if those whom we choose to help unconditionally will one day turn against us and stab us in the back?
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
5 May 11
It is true that we have learned to take things for granted in our routine and forget to manifest gratitude. It is true that most times the word "thank you" is an automatic (well, depends on this and the many years of education received at home, some might forget to say and so so). People often forget what is gratitude. It's hard to say 'thank you' and see the good that you get, especially by immature personalities. Unfortunately, many in a very gregarious and primitive society. The reason for which some people find it very hard to be grateful and express their gratitude is perhaps an inferiority complex and jealousy.Thanks for response.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
5 May 11
For some people to say, "Thank you" seems to be an unknown vocabulary. There are people who take many things for granted, who demands to have what they want, who just expect people to meet their desires. I do not know how they can be that way.
For me a "Thank you" is in my daily vocabular many times during a day. I show humbled gratitude for peoples's gesture and for everything I have in my life. I have never taken anything for granted, because life can change in a thousand of a second.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
6 May 11
We live in times that you feel a bit harsh. Experiences heavy, stressful moments and preached everywhere crisis are not worse than us. It's an excuse to try to formulate in my mind when I think that we have forgotten to thank. "I failed to make the gesture, but said the word or sketch smile I even forgot how to thank. A little too bad and too egocentric everything we get too fast and too forced. Thinking maybe we deserve. And even if we ought, one said thank you in an instant is the lowest price for a good condition. Thanks for response.
@tash01 (2030)
• Jamaica
5 May 11
Please and Thank you are two important works that we should always remember in life.A lot of people ask for thing in this world an yet they never say please,and when they receive it they never say thank you.
Saying thank you when you receive some thing that you ask for is showing gratitude to the showing that you appreciate it.
I always appreciate what i ask for an what i receive so i always say thanks no matter what,i was brought up in a way that i always remember please and thanks you goes together an that's what i teach my son too.
But for some people they fine it hard to say thanks,i don't know why but yes its trust.
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
7 May 11
I believe I understand the intent of your discussion, but am having a hard time specifically understanding the wording of the first two paragraphs.
The basis for the discussion is great, timely and very relevant.
We have become very ungrateful, individually and collectively, to our own detriment.
Our focus has turned from loving and caring and sharing to "me first and only".
Kindness, or "random acts of kindness" are often underappreciated and misunderstood.
In turning our hearts away from our Creator and all that He has blessed us with, we have lost a grateful, meek, and gentle spirit. We have come to have a false sense of entitlement, especially materially, and have totally lost wisdom and understanding re our own responsibility and accountability in interaction with our Creator and those around us.
"Thank you" is not a mere "polite" formality, but a genuine, heartfelt expression of appreciation and love.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 May 11
Saying thank you can be complicated. it can be the simplest and easiest thing for one person and a tragic task for the next person. So much has to do with the personality and circumstances that come with the gratitiude.@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
6 May 11
The man forgot to thank and appreciate the gesture that made ??him feel good. This, in most cases, is due to the daily routine with much convenience sat among us. Also, inappropriate behavior, we can simplify the bellicose gesture that would never be gone between us.Thanks for response.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
6 May 11
I say "thank-you" a lot. In fact my ex used to say I said it too much! I am disabled and people are helping me all of the time. I always thank them, but sometimes it seems like it is not enough. You are setting a good example for your children. I think how you are raised has a lot to do with showing gratitude when you are older.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
7 May 11
I think it's just part of human nature. That instead of saying 'thank you' for the little time you've been helped, you feel slighted for the help being taken away. Sometimes it's hard to make people see otherwise.
In my case, I find it hard to say 'thank you' to people the regularly wrong me. I get transfixed on what their personalities mean to me, that it's difficult to say thanks when they do a good thing. I might say the words, but don't really mean it.
@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
5 May 11
Those who have a hard time saying thank you are those people who take things for granted as if the world owes them something. This can be also taught when we are young. You are setting a good example for your child to follow. I don't have a hard time saying thank you. Sometimes people say thank you in other ways since they were not taught to be expressive with their feelings.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
6 May 11
A thank you is not a blame. A thank you is to love, tolerate, and confidence to exploit feelings of others. Most times this can be misunderstood, some you can take a joke, others may think that because you're happy ironic for something small or insignificant. But deep in your soul, you know that you say it with all my heart and soul feel at peace, thanking your neighbor.Thanks for response.
@heavenrenz (190)
•
5 May 11
I know a person who seldom say thank you, I don't know why he is having a hard time saying it because I don't. I remember God said in the Bible that you give thanks for everything.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
6 May 11
It is an elementary thing, you feel good, good growth, if you will. And it seems natural to me to thank when they receive something, even if that something is not necessarily an object. I say a "thank you" never killed anybody and it should say more often. I feel good when you thank someone for something and I would like to hear this word frequently uttered. Thanks for response.
@joeyalberta (106)
•
5 May 11
thank you and im sorry is one of the hardest words to say..its not easy though but we need it to practice!
@trixyteddy (1070)
• India
6 May 11
I haven't read the responses you have had as it will effect my answering you. 'Please, Thank you and Sorry' are not very difficult to say if you're in the habit of saying it. Actually then it is quite easy. And in fact, makes you so very comfortable with the other person. Anything that comes from the heart, comes easily. Get children into the habit, and 'bingo' it's not difficult at all. But every word should come from the heart, and it should be meant.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
6 May 11
Hi,i understand what you mean. I think it is not a hard thing to say" thank you" to strangers and people we aren't very familiar with. We just "forget" to say that to the people we take their love for granted. As you said, kids to parents, some old friends.
Actually, someone once said that is you won't keep friends with a person any more, the best way is to borrow money from him. So we'd better refrain from borrow or lend money from or to friends. For kids, it is better for them to let them know how to appreciate for what their parents' do for them. If a person don't know how to appreciate to his or her parents' do, he or she won't be a good citizen.
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
6 May 11
Well, there are really people you cannot see the goodness they have receive from others they being ingratitude and the Savior hate those people who do not know how to thank how to appreciate the goodness done to them. And it is a good thing that you have taught your children about being thankful. When i was in my youth we were taught in our Young women class about being grateful to others with a cheerful hearts, since then i am practicing saying thank you even with a little thing done to me. And i think example is the best teacher to children for they are looking up to us.
@alansailing (74)
• China
6 May 11
this is also an interesting topic , but I do not think that it is diffcult handle, it really depends on your object,different person have different style, somebody is very nice, she (he ) is always bear the help and assist from other people in mind for long term or even till last day ! but somebody is very selflish,they just think he (she )is deserve this reasonalble. so my suggestion is do not take care this so much , just follow your heart, if you like to extend the help to sb just go ahead and do not care her(his) reaction so much , when you want to change your mind, also just say no without hesitate. that is all my opinion, In the meaning time, regarding ourself , I also think take the good polite with us is also very needed and necessary !! If you always take the good behavior with you, the respect from other person is will coming soon !!
