Do you move on or keep trying to make it work?
By 34momma
@34momma (13882)
United States
May 5, 2011 9:49am CST
Some people struggle with letting go completely which leaves them open to sequals long after a break up or divorce. They are very open to "hooking up" or getting back together and giving their ex a second chance to make the relationship work. Are the type to take an ex back or are you an out with the old in with the new kind of person?
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@victoracostajr101 (42)
• United States
5 May 11
i have gone back to the same ex about 4 or 5 times. the "make up" doing it is nice but there is just no future there and its not right for any of us to keep playing with each others feelings. there are sooo many other options out there. im sure one of them will be a better match than you think you and the ex are.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
5 May 11
So far momma, none of my break ups have been amicable. None of them have been because we mutually agreed. So although difficult to move on I did with time. I can't give any of my exes a second chance because they were outright cruel. Cruel enough to allow me to care about me more then the cruel relationships.
I have friends who say they have remained friends with their exes, but in all honesty it has been far from amicable with them. I have seen the bitter moments and wondered why they continued to allow it.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
5 May 11
That depends on the reason why you split up.
If you think you are ready to accept your ex back...then go on and give it a try.
Sometimes love is sweeter the second time around as they say.
Though it doesn't work to everyone who gives second chances..it's still worth the try.
Just give it a try and if still doesn't work out then,you know what to do next time.
Who knows,second chance might lead into a good relationship...so never miss the chance before regretting.
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
5 May 11
depends on the reason for the breakup. if one falls out of love then there would be no reason for them to get back together. but if the reason is say... cheating, there might be something that lacks in the relationship. now if this would happen to me, say she's the one who cheated, that would be very hard but living life without her is harder. to err is human but to forgive is divine as they all say... i had my share of fooling around so who am i to judge someone because of what he/she did. there will always be a reasons behind each action. if she still wants to be together even after what she did then i would still accept her. people might not agree with me on this, especially guys, right? lol! learning from your mistakes will make you stronger, this applies to couples to. but if it were to happen again then that would be stupidity if you let it go again. punch the a$$wipe who caused you so much grief, spit on the b!tch and the move on. too many women, so little time.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
6 May 11
they deserve it... and who am i to deprive them of such luxuries. punches and spits are hard to come by these days. try asking someone to punch you or spit on you, i assure you he/she wont comply.... maybe ask a friend to be on the safe side. lol!
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@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
5 May 11
hhhmmm..... i think it depends on the reason of break-up or divorce. and it depends if the guy shows deep interest and seriousness of us starting a new life again. but i often dont go back with my ex's. if our relationship didnt work then i cant do anything with that. especially when i tried to save it but he trashes is always. he had his chance of me being his girl, and if i broke up with him, simply that means he was not good at being my guy. he wasted his chance...
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
6 May 11
Hey jamuls, no need to be defensive here, if you see the user name, you'd know it's a girl so naturally if she's straight which apparently she is, she's going to be talking about a guy. Just like you, if you are straight then you'd be talking about a girl. And yes, both sexes do cheat. It's a sad sad shame but that is true.
Now, a question for you, is that your dog in your avatar? It's cute! That nose sure sticks out with all it's black spots then the white fur! LOL
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
6 May 11
I've taken ex's back a couple of times with each one only because I was so young and nieve that I just didn't know better but when they said "I'm sorry and it'll never happen again" I bought it, hook line and sinker till it got to the point that not only did it happened again but it was much worse. Finally in the end when I've had enough, it was enough and I severed ties from then on. Still to this day my ex's would love to have me back but for me, once I sever the ties, I'm done. I go forward and don't look back. No amount of pleading will change my mind.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
5 May 11
I want to be open and let the things happen pass but i can't do it and its hard for me to do things like moving on. This time i am suffering to the consequences happened to my love life, the person that i learn to dedicate myself and almost he was the life of my life is i give was the one makes me cry. But i know it was just right now. Time will heal the pain and again i will have another life.![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
5 May 11
I used to be this kind of person. I hoped that he would change that's why I kept leting him back. till I realised that I wished to have a relationship with a person that didn;t exist anymore. he started to change till that point in which he became totally opposite to the person I felt in love with. now I'm all alone but I can say I"m better because I got over it
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@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
6 May 11
I've learnt that if you break up or have an divorce after a long term relationship or marriage and it did not work out well, That's it. A break up is based on something between two people that they could not get along well or they did not want to make changes with themselves to make it work. IF one of them want to try again I think to start up being friends with no demands is good. I'm am friends with my past ex. They have new relations. Then it has to do what was the cause for the break up. Was it because of abuse or domestic violence or other not acceptable causes. I have noticed that people who get together again after they've been away from each other can make it during a few years, and then there they go again. It's rare that they can stay together unless they have really cleaned out all old garbage between them and they have forgiven each other.
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@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
6 May 11
Hi, when people decide to have a gap or reparate with each other I think they already have a final decision about it. But sometimes at the end they will realized that they are wrong... It is nice to still love the one who have love before because you already establish your relationship.
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@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
6 May 11
Everybody can cheat and it our choice. So if you dont want your partner to cheat, dont do it either.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
7 May 11
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