How to get your ex back?
By AkatsukIJSN
@AkatsukIJSN (211)
Philippines
May 6, 2011 2:40am CST
Hello I just want to ask if some of my mylotters already did this feat. My girlfriend for 2 years broke up with me last week because she lost interest in me and tells me that she already lost her love with me. On top of that she said that she is interested on her first boyfriend who said that he has still feelings for her. Right now we promised to be friends. We still go out the two of us, but I try to bury my emotions so that it seems that I am not interested in her anymore. And just be supportive of her decision. She keeps telling me not to be hopeful but whenever I ask about her first she keeps bringing him down saying that she doesn't want to have a relationship right now and besides that guy has a girlfriend. I am really at a lost right now because when we go out we act as a boyfriend and girlfriend minus the mushiness of a real relationship. I said to her if being friends is awkward for you I can distance myself. But she insisted that we can be friends.
Does she still like me? Or is she just fooling around trying to play with the emotions that were left? Or is she just using me while waiting for the other guy to break his girlfriend? How do you get back with you ex? Is it possible in my situation?
10 responses
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
7 May 11
Hi AkatsukIJSN,
I do believe that your ex girlfriend still love you. Sometimes we can't predict what girls still thinks, sometimes they decide things without thinking it many times. Just show to her and feel to her that yo still love her. and make her always special. Treat her just like you just first met, just like you are courting her again. That in that way she will realize that she is wrong in leaving you.
You said that both of you still go out together? So, it means that he is still thinking and giving you a chance to know you more. You also must be more sensitive with her feelings, why don't you go out and bring her in the place where both of you enjoy just like before. Just be patience and have faith that you can bring her back in love again, there is no harm in trying as long as you are sincere.
Always remember to make her happy when you are with her.. Always feel to her that she is secure with your love. And one thing, your relationship will not reach 2 years if she does not love you.. Always be happy God is good to us!!:))
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@AkatsukIJSN (211)
• Philippines
6 May 11
She said that i was too clingy and paranoid. This past few months I started to feel she is distancing herself to me. So I really felt that she was communicating with someone else. In the end she told me it was her first. But the main reason she said when we broke up she said was that she was suffocating in our relationship.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
7 May 11
She's using you. She wants her cake and eat it too. She can't have it both ways. She knows you are still interested in her and she loves it and you are so desperate to still be with her. My advice to you would be to stop hanging out with her at least for a few months leave her alone. Don't answer her calls don't, text or email her.
Don't get me wrong I think you two can still be friends but not now. The break up is too fresh you need your distance. Right now she has all the control because you still have feelings for her and she knows it and is playing you. She wants to keep you in reserve and if her ex doesn't break up with his girlfriend she has you to fall back on. Don't let her play you like that.
People always want what they can't have. If you want her back stop seeing her. Go find someone else who does love you and treat her like gold. She'll be begging to get back with you but by then it will be too late. Oh well her loss.
@luanakent (794)
• Brazil
7 May 11
excuse my sincerity: you stop being silly!!!
she has right to date whoever she wants but you have to act with more maturity.
the fact that you guys remain friend is good thing.
but if you want to live well youshould stop having meetings like this because : you are NOT her'boyfriend.
that way you both act prevents some other REAL dating happen.
the world is a big sea with many others fish...
oh..please: grow up!!!
@manoj1502 (854)
• India
7 May 11
If you love her truly don't expect anything from her . You just show your love what all you had for her . She said she lost her feelings it seems there is a problem for her . You try to show your love some or other way so that she trust you better than anyone . Once you earn her trust than your in her heart . Just try to solve the issues as early as possible or it may lead to a big one . Correct it in early stage .
All The Best
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
19 May 11
hi,
i have been experienced that,pursuing my self to get my ex return to me,we were in almost 3 years in my parents relationship but suddenly we need to be separated due to my parents,but i have no choice until that feelings gone.and now i dont even wanted to be with him again.
@look4rekha (47)
• India
6 May 11
Just give her some time to think about her thought first. She didnt want to leave you. But she feels there is a gap between you both. She might feel that you are less caring to her these days. Dont push her to take decisions. If there is a real love between you means, your love itself will get back her to you. Dont over react with the situations. Stay calm.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
6 May 11
If you love somebody, just let them go, if they come back to you they are yours! Just have control over your emotion and let her do what she has too, just let her be. if she has to come back to you she will.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
6 May 11
I think that you should try to move on. if you still have feelings for her you can;t be friends...maybe you should try to stop seeing her for a while. now it's up to you but if she says she is interested in someone else than I don't see how you could get her back. sorry
@victoracostajr101 (42)
• United States
6 May 11
I have agood friend that does this. She broke it off with the guy but still hangs with him, one would think they are
still together; she insists that theyre only friends. I believe her 100% because she is the type of girl that loves
everybody and holds no grudges at all....gives hugs to everybody type of girl. is yours this type of girl? im guessing she is not. your best bet would be to not let your emotions be played with, she might just not want to be alone while the next person comes along. guess whats gonna happen to you when the next one does?......thats right! best to start distancing yourself now.
