when she was chasing his past.
By gorila
@gorila (186)
Indonesia
May 6, 2011 5:06am CST
I have an ex-girlfriend who until today we still communicate. he already has a new boyfriend and she said they already planned a wedding.
one day we'd send each other messages, with a joking tone I asked "What the reason you chose him to be your boyfriend?
he replied to my message, he said "I chose my boyfriend now, because he's a lot like you. his tone, his silly, the way she flirt me, he looked like you." what he says makes me shocked.
he should not say like that. he already has a boyfriend and already planning a wedding. whereas I am only her past.
honestly, I feel sympathy with her boyfriend.
in my principles, I never want to interfere with someone relationship. but on the other side I do not want our friends relationship broke up.
so What should I do?
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6 responses
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
•
6 May 11
Totally agree. It's nothing to do with you and if you say anything you'll just be messing with stuff you don't want to get involved in. If it all works out great, that's great - if they live unhappily ever after, at least she'll have someone to talk to about it.
Other people's choices are not your responsibility. 
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
7 May 11
She seems hard to forget you, but if she plan a wedding, wish she has think about it and ready to have new life with someone else. As friend, you can support her and always make her believe she have the right man for her life
@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
6 May 11
hello again gorila... :)
maybe that she still miss you a lot... :) you are so lucky, you know... you and the girl have a good communication after break up... me and my 2 ex boyfriends never contact again after the break up...
just make sure your feeling that you wont have a love feeling for her anymore.. just keep the good communication, but as friends only, not more than that... and dont forget to support her and attend to her wedding if she marry her new boyfriend..
d(^_^)b cheers...
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
6 May 11
Hey there,
Nothing we can really do when are friends are in love. Sometimes no matter how constructive we are they will follow their hearts. All you can do is continue being a friend and constructively give advice but being the good friend being there so that one day if and when the friend needs someone shoulder to cry on you are there as the good friend to see your friend through it all.
Tough situation to be in but sometimes our friends will not see what we see, hope for the best for your friend.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 11
Hi gorilla,
I think what she's saying is very reasonable, you should be more careful in responding to every woman's behavior. You're not too optimistic or heartened by a little thing like this. Maybe she has to say is just to appreciate you as her ex, but on the other hand you think it's a special thing.
Now you have your own life goals, so it's time you act fair, do not be too active to contact her in time close to the wedding. Keep your sense of her boyfriends now. Especially if she's married. I recommend friends with her ??husband as you make friends with her.
Good day
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
23 May 11
If you think that she's flirting with you, then maybe it would be better that you just ignore her text messages or not have too long converssation with her if you think she's just doing it to flirt with you.
