You just CAN'T please everyone!

well i think some people's nature is to always please everyone... they are pleasers in general. for me i think i only try my best to please certain people...people who deserved to be pleased like my parents, family, etc. but anyway, i think the golden rule should be --- just be good. that's it. not be way too nice to the point that you are being taken for granted or treated like a doormat, because it's also our responsibility to be good to ourselves. well that's just my opinion.

Hi there, You are so right! Although I try to please all my caring friends and family, one thing I have learned in life is that I have to be happy with me. Being happy with me, means that I must be pleasing with my own actions. Although I do try hard to please everyone, I do realize it is not such an easy task and not everyone will agree with me. Therefore, if I am happy with my efforts I feel that I did my best and that is really what matters to me. Understanding that all humans have feelings and that not will agree, keeps me from changing my character and remaining faithful to my understandings and caring ways.

It's true that we can't please everyone all of the time. all that we can truly do is to please ourselves. Once we can do that, pleasing everyone else should not matter as much to us.

For me sure of it unless you find the one who is good to do that attitude.

Doing good does not follow that you will be liked. A good person is a hindrance to another person in that he will be side tracked and all attention will go to the person who does good and so there is already a person who will not like the good person and that is life. There is also jealousy and we all know what jealousy can do.

Isn't that ever the truth? The fact is that you cannot really please all of the people all of the time. In fact there are going to be times where you are very lucky to please some of the people, all of the time. Or indeed to please anyone at all. However, there are going to be a lot of people who are trying to get through life, in an attempt to fit through certain standards, to find some kind of happy medium, to find themselves pleasing everyone. Yet it is a foolish little gambit. You can't really please a lot of the people, because there are a lot of people that just cannot be pleased. It is a harsh little thing, but it is extremely true. Therefore, you got to settle with only the opinion of one person. That is the person who is staring back at you in the mirror each and every morning. The only person who the actions that you do, really matter, and that is really yourself.

That's exactly right. You can't please everyone - and trying to do so will only make one become a stress ball eventually. And you're right that there are no guarantees about it. I once made a comment to someone that I thought someone did not like me, and my friend said "So what - you can't expect everyone to like you. A lot of people DO like you, but not everyone on this planet will even if you're the most likeable person on earth - and that's ok" - and that is true. I can think of a couple people I know who do things so people won't ever get upset at them, but in turn they are just pulling their hair out because they are always doing stuff for other people - and not doing anything that give themselves pleasure. And I think a lot of people experience burn out at work because of this very thing - trying to please others all the time.

yes ,you cant please everybody,doing good is what is to be looked at.

i think, we should not act as if we are like somebody else. just be yourself and dont mind other people. the more you think about others to please, the more you will mislead yourself to somebody that is not really you. if you are angry, so be it. if you are happy, so be it. just do what you think is right and what will make you happy. please your self first before pleasing others.

This is really true! For some reason even if you show your best foot forward to others, they just don't like you. But continue to SMILE because if there are hundreds of people who hate you, I know for sure that more than thousands of people like you for being you.