friends, or pretending to be friends?

i am the type of person who is very caring, and sweet to my friends. but i always don't feel appreciated. no matter how i reach out, i seem to be invisible. so now whatever happens to me, i don't wanna let them know. i don't wanna share anything with them anymore. whenever they needed me, i was always there, but when it comes to me already, i can't find them. they are only there when it comes to having fun, but when you are down, they're not there anymore. so i actually don't know what friendship really means anymore . i would rather just be alone than be with people like them. for me, my only friend is my boyfriend LOL but yeah it's true ...but i am very much happy and contented already having my boyfriend in my life i tell my "friends" some secrets but then the next thing i know, someone will just come to me and ask "is it true that... blah blah blah"....... annoying right? so now i am being careful already. i don't like plastic friends. they pretend to be people you can rely on but actually they're not

That is usual. Most especially if you lost communication. But, I guess true friends will stay the same no matter how long the distance or how long you had never talk and meet. Well, we cannot just tell anybody to stay the same, everything changes, if you're friend had change, well, maybe , you too had changed. And we never know, your friend felt the same way too towards you.

It strange that you have started this discussion, as i have felt like that about friendships that i have with people.I think some of the friendships are distant now, as these people are not people that i see regular anymore and to be honest they are not people that i feel at ease with anymore.Perhaps that it is that we are getting alot older now.

hello, Same here! I dont know why this all happened to us I thought that our friendship will last long even though we go in separate paths like different school which we can meet new friends and pals. Is it maybe we are not their friends now. So, can we still call them our real friends? Maybe not. right? It is really hard to accept the fact that we losses we thought we will last but its not

well it would just be normal,.. that is for some people. As for me, whenever I meet my old friends especially those back in elementary and high school, it seems like it was only yesterday. As a matter of fact it seems like we're even closer now than when we were before. However, there is one person who I totally feel like a stranger when we meet again. Too bad he's even my bestfriend back in high school. He's like my first love as well, and whenever I meet him, it feels weird...

What do you mean with "so much has happened"? Did you guys experienced a new situation before that tested you friendship. If that's the case and you feel like that then I think you guys were unabl to really get past that sitaution. When it comes to friendship, you cannot fake it. There are times that you'd feel bored with each other (its because you are always together) but that doesn't mean you guys are pretending. There are also instances (usually happen with high school friends) that you have grown apart. Your interests are no longer the same. It is still your choice if you would still want to keep that friend or to just move on.

Hi... i have no close or real friend as i have learnt a lot from past. I was used by them on various occasions... and they are surely... friends pretending to be friends. To have friends like these... better to live alone. have a nice day.

Hi chiyosan: Your story is really sad because you know that is just a fake and that you are pretending to be friends when that's not how you feel. This has not happend to me because, I don't have too many friends but all of them are real ones. I am not good pretending to be a friend of someone. A person will notice that I don't feel comfortable. ALVARO

It's true you've been close before like you say in HS, college or work but their are friends who really changed after you've been apart for a long time.Just like my friends before were very close when we were in HS and after that we pursue our own path which sometimes takes us years to see again because we have our own family and our job and this happens we met again accidentally but he just say hello and he go.I don't know maybe he is too busy and and had no time to talk about the old days.It's really hurts what you have build before the friendship, bonding and now its hi or hello nothing more.

People change as time goes by. Some of my high school friends have changed and I could no longer relate to them. I've also changed since high school. Although I still consider them as friends, it feels kind of odd when I hang out with them. We no longer have the same interests and we no longer have the same common friends. Even though we are already totally different I still consider them as friends and I really don't need to pretend to be someone else in front of them cause there are still some things in the both of us that hasn't changed that the two of us can still relate to each other.

hello chiyosan, Maybe because of the time you've not been together but since you were friends during childhood days the idea of friendship is still there but no one wants to break it or has no guts to break it. have a nice day!

The difference between friends and pretending to be friend is just small.When you need some help the persons who pretended to be friend does not help him or her But the true friends help that person.

Yes, I do encounter it too. It's really painful to encounter those type of friends and I am really disappointed. I know that friendship is really important when you meet new people. People in our life come and go so you better try to keep it. But some people doesn't have those attitudes and it ends that you will feel that you lose your friends. It really hurts because you expect that they will keep you too as how you keep them. You try to forget of what happened and try to be still a friend to them. Anyways, it's not your lost, they lost a true friend indeed.God Bless.

hi chiyosan, i have same situation like you... its kinda awkward when we see each other.. its like nothing has happened but we know in ourselves that things are different now.. we dont talk that much anymore... and i have different circle of friends now and she has her own circle of friends... its seems like we're just pretending to be that close hugs and all but i know there's something that is lacking.. the "friendship" its like its sinking already... but i always keep my line open for us to be just like before..

I don't know if it's really "pretending to be friends" so much as "drifted apart". That's pretty normal in life. But just because you aren't as close as you once were, doesn't mean they don't want to keep in touch and know what's going on in your life.

Hi,chiyosan I had that kind of experience...I used to have one good friend,we used to play basketball together,ate together,and went to school together.. But after senior middle school,we parted ways..as we have to go to college,of course,in different cities... after college,we drifted from each other,futher and further...Now just pretending to be friends...

hello chiyosan, This really happens to me and the sad part is,she's my bestfriend during our highschool days. I never thought she really changed a lot. She's the best friend i used to have years ago. At first i tried to ignore the feelings,i keep thinking that maybe i was wrong with my feelings. But as time goes by,i can feel she's really not the same,so i decided to accept the reality. At least i've tried my best to bring back what we've shared and i treated her same like before. People really changed as years go by,changed by time,fame and money. have a great weekend ahead

Friendship can sometimes be a disheartening relationship to have. it can also be the most rewarding. When somone is a true friend, it can be the greatest joy. when someone is just pretending because they want something from you, it can be discouraging and leave you in despair.

Hi chiyosan. I have the same feeling with my friends in highschool and college. Maybe it can be attributed to the fact that the distance of our residences hindered the usual communication and get together that we had before. The bonding moments are no longer possible. So after a long time of being separated, we lost that element of bond already. To make sure that we keep close relationship with our love ones, it is necessary that we spend physical time or presence with them. The same goes with friendship. The physical presence strengthens your bond. Hope you can catch up with lost time. Have a nice day.

I have had this happen to me many times unfortunately. What I didn't realize was that they had not been my friends to begin with. I know this after having met a true friend. When you have made a true friend, you'll know by the fact that you will not have this feeling of distance with them, no matter how long you have not been in contact for...