Is There any words you've said that you regret ?

@ifa225 (14460)
Indonesia
May 6, 2011 5:44pm CST
sometimes i just lost control of my words. there is so many words that i have said and i regret it. but still, i can't make any guarantee that someday i'd never said it again. how about you? what words you have said that you regret it? do you said it again?
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• United States
7 May 11
Hi ifa I am by no means a perfect person and have said some things in my life while angry that I can certainly look back with regrets. It has however with time allowed me to be a better person. Because when I think about the situations I can weep and hence now be better because of what had happened. I do try now to take deep breaths and think before I open my mouth during angry moments. Do not want to add to the sad memories of not having thought before I spoke.
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi HwG, i am sorry for my late comment you have learn to control your emotions by thinking before speaking i try to do that, but somehow i am not perfect person too and those words just slip from my mouth
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 23
@hardworkinggurl so true, re think can change our point of view
• United States
29 Sep 11
This all came with lessons of sudden and abrupt outbursts, although I am not perfect either, it has made me rethink. Thank you for the BR!
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
7 May 11
Sometimes, I also often out of control, and say something I regret in the end. Currently regret coming, I promise, to not say anymore. but sometimes re-spoken.
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi Indah, i guess that is normal cause the same thing happens too to other member here. many of us said those words, even we regret it we often say it again when we loose our control. it is good to make our self cooing down after anger.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 May 11
I'm sure everybody has done that. I have. And we should be careful. Words can hurt...
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
7 May 11
Hi dawnald, there a wise words in my country about 'no matter how careful a chipmunk jump, once in a while, it will fall' when words had hurt, all we can do is just regret
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
6 May 11
In all honesty, i know there have been many times that i have said words that I have come to regret. sadly, once these words have been spoken, they can not be taken back. We have to choose our words carefully. they will follow us.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
7 May 11
Hi sender, that is the bad things about spoken words, we can't take it back when we done said it. sometimes when we get emotional, we can't choose the words appropriately.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 May 11
Hi ifa Well, I believe words are never bad. It is only the tone in which we speak them out make them sound hurting. Yes, at times when I get angry I use such tones that make me feel bad and especially when I realize that it was my fault after all... But that is done and the hurt and damage is started. Luckily we are humans and have a tendency to forget in due course of time and so the relationships continue even if we used such tones a few occasions.
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi Sid , It is only the tone in which we speak them out make them sound hurting so if i called you -i am sorry first of all- you je^k in a sweet voice then it won't hurt? maybe i will try some bad words in a sweet tone voice
• United States
6 May 11
at the ending of a relationship of 10 years: "i see you more as a good friend than anything else". been told that was kinda harsh and regret saying that now.
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
7 May 11
Hi Victor, is there any action that you have done to make it better or to heal it? it will be hurt too if someone said that to me
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
12 May 11
There are many words that I say, which makes me disappointed in the end. Especially when I'm angry. Very difficult, to control the words that I utter. And I always repeat it.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
when we are in normal emotions, we must be regret those words. i my self even know that is bad- also repeat it. maybe i have to learn to control anger more so i can beat all those bad words
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
7 May 11
For me no it can't explain by the words only but you can said no unless you would make it right by action.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
Hi Ebuscat, right words and right action can combine a great meaning. if we said that in a proper way, i bet that there is no body can hurt because of this
@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
8 May 11
Hi Ifa.... I think I had many word thats I really should said because I know it will hurt the one who heard it but when angger take control over you sometimes you can not control it. I think the word I hate you the most often i said if I mad and feel really hurt. I personally don't wanna hurt any one with my nasty word because I know how its feel to be hurt and not planned to put any one in the same situation like I have been dealing with.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi Nangisha, sometimes i nag and complain about others behavior which really annoy me with a bad way. \ i know that is hurt, but sometimes i just don't know how to say it in a better way. i only want the person know that he is annoying and hoping he woon't doing the same thing in the future
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 11
Hi, Yes, I often say something that does not need to say. And in the end I'm sorry to myself. But that does not make a guarantee for me to say it again. It only deals with emotional problems alone, if I'm wrong, then I could not control the situation to force me to say that bad. It's not easy to fix just me. Only a spontaneity that comes out of my mouth.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
Hi Gengeni, don't worry, i am with you too. it is not easy to fix it cause we have ego inside. i try for years to be a calm and low voice person and that is soooo hard. till now i still loose control and i just said those regretting words
• China
7 May 11
People like my age know better than to talk irresponsibly.Experience teaches.We deep know that trouble frequently arises from mouth.However natural instincts of people vary greatly from person to person,some people are frank and outspoken,It seems that nothing can hinder them from speaking.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
Hi Chang, i often see teenagers talk rudely and speak out loud. sometimes i don't get what they mean since there is no different between joke and anger. they have many vocabulary like slank words that i don't understand too
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• China
27 Sep 11
Maybe,it is just the generation gap.What is slank words?
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 23
@changjiangzhibin89 slank words is like a word which is very famous who create by the New age generation
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@neliasni (76)
• Indonesia
24 May 11
I often, regret what I said. When I'm emotional, a lot of words out of control, and finally I am very sorry.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
Hi Neli, i made a resolutions for my self because of doing that. i write in the my room wall to talk in a low voice and be polite. it is good to remind me when i get anger and i start to nagging and screaming a bad words
• Canada
7 May 11
I think everyone has said some things they have regretted saying. Even the nicest person in the world could not possibly live a life in which they did not say anything that they did not regret later on. As for me, I have done this a couple times, yes. I also can't make any guarantee that I won't repeat myself again someday. No one is perfect.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
Hi Cherry, that is a thoughtful idea. good people can't always do good things, but they earn from the mistake that they have done and keep fix them self to be a better man.
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
I do regret things that I have done and said. I usually feel this. However, there is one thing I have not regretted in my life. It was the day that I have said to someone that I'll not text him anymore. From that day on, I really stick on what I have said. Though, he keeps on tempting me to text him back. And I actually lessen my exposure to him. I let him go actually. And I never regret that decision I have made. It is indeed better if we will just set each other free. So that we would not hope anything about us. Remember, hold on to your pride sometimes and never regret something because what you've said and done our once your choice to be done.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
hi zearah and karstine it is true that words are lingering in our mind. we never realized it how words are really impact in our daily life. and great that karstine had realized something bad but that was just must be done to make things better
@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
"Regret" I had much but these make me stronger enough to correct those words I said then later I regret.In what way it makes me stronger? Because by the time goes and while I reminisce the past I could imagine I could say better than that.A word is sharper than a sword because it could wound any soft heart.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
7 May 11
Hi ifa, almost everyone at some point of time will lost control on them and will speak such hurting words, even i do that, but all i can say is a SORRY but i know that doesn't take the complete pain given by me at that point of time.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi Sunny5u, sorry seem can't heal totally the hurt that we had put in someone's heart. i know that we are only human can hurt anybody, but by that way we can learn something and experience is the best teacher for us to learn a lesson
@Bryanx54 (644)
7 May 11
I've said some bad things to my girlfriend, my mother and my brothers, but i always regret my actions even if i was in right to say that stuff but juse to see them hurt by it brings the overwhelming guilt to just say your sorry,
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi Bryan, i do admit myself that sometimes i do that too. when we angry, we tend to loose control. there is so many words that i regret too. but from there i learn to control the words
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
7 May 11
hello, Like you because of angry I said many things that hurt a person. I regret it in the end because I just dont meant it at all. I just said like "I HATE YOU!", "I REGRET THAT I MEET YOU". something like that. but i promise that I wont say it anymore because I know if somebody will tell it to me I will also hurt about that.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi Tina, maybe almost every person do the same thing just like us. it just, when i get angry i hope the people surround me can understand me that i don't really mean it with my words. even i also know that this is quiet impossible to happen
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
7 May 11
Sometimes people say something that could hurt the feelings of other people. We can't blame our self for that, we are human and human in nature commit mistakes. I always hurt many people because I don't mind or consider what they feel; as long as I am honest with what I say it is fine with me. But I was wrong. many people started to hate with me and some are getting away with me. Then, I realized that to make the things better, I must change. From being a bad person to a productive one. Saying bad words to a person is the most worst thing I really regret of. If I have a chance to bring back time , i will. So that I won't hurt people and change what I have done. Before saying bad words with others was my daily word of wisdom, I always told in that many person especially when I am mad. But now, I am good, a good person that I could not imagine.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 11
Hi Oni, glad to know that you are now changing to a better person. i try to learn from the mistake that i have done too. but just like the song said that anyone can hurt someone they love.