what about the relationship between u and ur mother-in-law?
By Jailey
@Jailey (107)
China
May 7, 2011 3:52am CST
These days, many of my friends tell me that they are not happy, for they alway have contratiction with their mother-in-law, and I just feel puzzled about this, I think to live together, everyne should try to accept each other, why can 't them?
4 responses
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
9 May 11
Are you personally staying with your mother in law?
I am not yet married but i do know for sure that i don't want to stay with my husband's family in future when we get married. I believe living together with them will give rise to many conflicts and our relationship will get worse. Plus, the only person who is suffering her is our partner because the mother is theirs and i believe they feel sad and frustrated about it.
For them, it's flesh on both sides of our hand and therefore our partner will be sandwiched between us.
Indeed, when we are living together, everybody should try to accept each other and take things easy. But living together is very difficult. when people meet a few times a month and when they see each other everyday, it is very different.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
9 May 11
Your mother in-law is soo nice. I hope mine will be as sweet as yours.
Indeed, many anger steams from jealousy. Both women wants love from the same man and expects more from him. We get jealous. I believe i do have the same feeling as i do with my boyfriend's sister and we just cannot get along. Because i just don't like it when my boyfriend pays attention to her.
You are right, love is the key for any door
@Jailey (107)
• China
9 May 11
I do not live together with them, and the relationshipe between us is nice, and most of the friends of tell me the conflicts do not live together, but the conflicts mainly comes from the love for the same man, for both the wife and mom want to get moch more love from the same man, and they just quarrel, and my mom-in-law do not do that, she always tell her son that he should pay much attention on me, and should treat me well, and I treat them as my own parents, my father-in-law also stand for me, so our family is nice, so I just do not understand the conflicts of my friends, for they do not need to quarrel, they should tell out their feels, and treat each other by heart, I believe love is the key for any door.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 May 11
Although I am not legally married, I do live with my boyfriend now for almost 6 years. His mother is wonderful and good to me really. I can see she really loves me as I do her as well.
She is not an easy lady as I see from her actions but for some reason she and I get along very well. Maybe because I patiently listen to her while many others try and avoid her. So I will add that although not legally she is like my mother -in-law and we get along very well.
I respect her as if she were my own mother.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
7 May 11
well u know as they always say, it's easier said than done (to accept each other unconditionally). Yes I have to agree most in-laws aren't in good terms with each other. But I guess I'm one of the few lucky ones. Luckily my mom in law is a good person..well of course she's not perfect and neither am I, but overall, my relationship with her is pretty good. She's also good friends with my parents, especially my mother. I think it's their friendship that makes it easier for us to accept each other as we are.... and just be understanding of what the other is lacking. I'm glad our personalities don't clash that much, and we blend pretty well.
@naija4real (1291)
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7 May 11
I am not married. However, I think most mother-in-law in africa are not in a good relationship with their son 's wife. There is always a misunderstanding as far as domestic issues is concerned. But I think the best a woman that is confronted with that challenge should do is to commit the relationship to the hand 's of God
