is it really an imperative to get married?

Be patient in waiting girl. Patience is a virtue. In the meantime, while waiting with accompanying prayer to the Lord for guidance, why not enjoy life? Be happy and enjoy your being single, because when it is time for you to tie the knot, you can practically say, " I enjoyed it all (my being single)".. God bless!

i have no where to go, but agree with you that patience is a virtue. on second thought, i am sorry, but i beg to disagree because i had already the best of my singlehood. i had already enjoyed it. actually i am tired of being single. therefore i wanted a mate. and i do not know where in the world is he. anyways, more patience is divine...would you agree with me? i must borrow that phrase from kahlil gibran about divinity..

thanks. but waiting is making poeple anxious and anxiety is not our best friend expecially if we are aging. well, abraham and sarah was able to have a son after hundreds of years according to the bible. faith really here counts. but the logic in me is protesting. it boils into exasperation in the end. what if there is none? you were waiting in vain. because He called you for something else and you were so pre-occupied on something else. like the father of john the baptist. he became mute because he did not believe on it. because he was busy burning insence for God.

i love it! it's the same as saying why should i live in your expectations? i have mine to live. thanks gurl!

oh dear sophiecheer, i am not pleased to welcome you to my club of hopeless romantics. we all believe that marriage should be made by two persons who are in love with one another, thereby professing to life together till eternity. wish that could be possible to anyone. but our society is racing to the fact that this notion is not. there are so many broken families and unwanted children all over the globe. and unfortunately annulment and divorced is giving families the light to break free from the marriage they so feel aghast. and women is given the opportunity to choose which is best for her. would you like to be binded to anyone you do not love at all? of course not. you would rather have a baby even with out a father. adoption, my dear is a choice. it does not necessarily mean you ahve to undergo such you know...

Hello both! I agree with you on some points there: regarding about marriage..it is not a thing to be rushed just because of age constraints. Admittedly lady, I also had plans of having a baby without the prerequisite of marriage. With all the broken relationships that I encounter and observed at my surroundings, one can only say so. But granting that, I still am a firm believer of marriage. Marriage contract is not just a piece of paper, it is a document that attest the couple's testament of love for each other and their dedication to raise and support a family.

thanks cream 97..it's nice to know that someone understands you for the first time. it's nice to hear from people instead of pushing you into something, is supporting you into the things you love the most - staying single and loving as well as enjoying every bit of it. have a great day ahead...

yes your right there olepmis. but seeking God's will is also saying that life is predetermined. are we opt here to say that i will accept whatever and however miserable i am today because i am alone in this lonely world? no! right? there is no predetermination. we make our life. God was there to design our life, but it is us who is going to live it. it's like the baker who bake cookies and pastries. whose gonna eat those creations? the baker himself? he must have indigestions. those creations are determined to be bought. what if no one will buy them? they got expired? and what happens to expired stuff? they are thrown away. ugh! i do not see my self a trush. so it boils into one thing. we must all be productive because we are creations. who cares if i will not get married? i can have a baby. i did not say i will have a baby through, you know. how about adoption?

thank you for your comment. yes, you are right, adoption for having a baby even if it is not come naturally. It will please GOD and the blessings will pour, too.

you are most welcome. i think that is the most safest way to do. artificial insemination and test tube babies are all a taboo. it will just corrupt our system. let's be organic. no to things that will corrupt us. gogogog...

hi there. finally, i have found someone who shares the same boat. i actually did not like the idea. it's true. it's a lot of pressure and headache. if ever they brought the topic up, i would always say change topic or it's the top discussion. it's not polite and kind of irritating, but that's the only way i can divert their pleas. i do not want to get married because the society asked me. no way! i still believe in fate. in fact, i am ready to be an old maid, if fate ask me..

oh my. sorry to hear that mate. i am not rushing actually. because i am mentally, emtionnally, physically, spiritually and financially ready. anyways, i will wait for him for some more time. maybe they were just delays. i still believe in saving the best for last. what do you think?

if he did not find me, i must find him. where will i start looking for him? i have been practically to so many places. maybe i wasn't just really seriously looking. because i was pre-occupied with my career and my family. hmmmm... thanks dude..

love it! it's true, if we are industrious and workaholic we don't need a husband. but will it be nice to come home with someone waiting for us and comforting us after all the heavy work day? and it is also true that true love might takes forever to come. geee...it would mean waiting and more heartaches. but i am a bit confuse with it doesn't mean marriage. you mean even not marrying. wow! that's a news to me..thanks...but, sorry to pry on. it aches me more to ask further question. how could that be possible?