Why they are leaving their children........

hhi if you are inferring that because we here in the US often have to wo rk to help pay rent utilities and food for our children no we are leaving them we are helping to prevent them from being homeless, in the dark and cold, and being hungry. here in the state of California a lot of us women have to work to help support our families but we do not abandon them at all, we are working so they have a roof over their heads, food to eat lights to see by and a great futue, maybe no women work in India but this is the US and a lot of u s would prefer to not have to work but we do so gladly to provide for our families.We do love and care for our children,WE take great pains to take time to be with ou t families as much as is humanly possible.

In our country families are often not close any more. Parents both work, sometimes two jobs or unusual shifts, and their kids do not learn to behave well. I think their children do not get enough of the right food or enough rest and no structure to their lives. As a result, kids act out badly. They get out of control, do bad things and refuse to respect and honor their parents. Then when parents cannot control them they tell them to leave or abandon them. Parents need more relationships to help them parent and teach them how to be a good parent.

Yes. It is very bad, if parents leave their children. Parents should cherish, protect, care for her child. It's parents who are very cruel, if leaving the child. There is no good reason for parents to leave their children. If do not want to be bothered by children, it's better not to have a child.

Hello my friend rameshchow Ji, Well, there are many who have children without marriage like 'SINGLE-MOTHER' they are niether interested to know Or follow basic concept of marriages and as such your discussion is very much as per order of the day. People must understand the need of children and requirement of society. They should imagine, if they were too thrown by their parents, then they would not have survived to throw others. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.

Hi Ramesh What do you mean by - getting rid of the children? Abandoning them or sending them off to the hostels or even boarding schools? Some more info please. But going by the responses above, I think they are discussing nuclear families where both parents work and kids are left all alone by themselves or even the playschools... It is happening in India too and here in this city - I have a friend where both he and she work and the kid spends most of the day at a playschool... Run after money and miss out almost everything else.

Parent of this days lack love, they are like dogs, but the children also ar always very sturborn to their parent. They wil never listen advice. God help them.

I am assuming what the others think, you mean why does a parent have children only to abandon them? I don't know the statistics, but I think the main reason is people want to have fun, but don't want the responsibility of having a child..It's sad really, because I feel this kind of behavior is self-centered when people can't be wise in the decisions they make..

I don't think of my children as my property, but they are my responsibility. Still, better to give a child up for adoption, than keep them if you are not capable of taking care of them. Many children in this world would be much better off taken care of by people other than their parents.

As a mother I cannot fathom ever leaving my child and, as much as I don’t like to judge other people’s reasons for the decisions they make I agree that abandoning your flesh and blood is inhumane. I don’t necessarily agree that children are the parents’ property but I understand what you mean, it is the mother and father’s responsibility to always take care of their kids.

I am afraid that some people abandon their children in every country and for a number of reasons. The words "developed countries" are more statistics than reality as the wealth is not shared in equal proportions to every member in any country in the world. I have see poor people in every developped country I have visited. And that also goes for lack of proper education so that young people can make wiser decisions or even are capable of making them. I agree with you that it is bad. And so is hunger and to have beggars. We we should be asking ourselves is what are we doing to stop all that. When we say "nothing" and we don´t try to do better, that is worse. Because we know.

We both are from India. Our country have this problem. You write people leave their children but I say they through their children to die. It is the top level non excuseable crime, cruility. In India people through their child if it is a girl or it taken birth before marriage of couple I am not using illegal child, child is never illegal, who is responsible for their birth. So friend crtisie at every place. Thanks for you this topic.

Leaving their children in orphanages? in the streets? Wow, things have really gotten worst for many people. Why have children if you can't take responsibility for their future?

It is very sad the way I have heard that some have left their kids and being I know first hand experience. I myself cannot fathom the thought of how so many have left their kids in unsafe places. I understand if they cannot take care of them to at least leave them in a hospital and or police station where at least the child will be taken care of, as oppose to dumpsters and or unsafe havens.

sometimes parents have no choice. that's why most parants are willing to sacrifice time spent together with their children if it means being able to give them better education and a good life. this is why my husband and i agreed that if one of us has to leave the country for work, the other parent should stay behind with the kids

Seems many here are confused about what you mean by 'leaving their children'. I am too. My own mother gave up custody to her mother. So my sister, brother and i was raised by our maternal grandmother. Was that part of what you ment by leaving the children? If so. Im guessing the reason was because my parents got divorced and for some reason she couldnt or wouldnt take care of us. Im 55 now so it wasnt like that is just happening recently. It did bother me a lot when i was younger. At that time i felt everyone was raised by their parents not their grandparents. However throught the years ive met many that were raised by their grandparents too.

Are you talking about underdeveloped countries all developed countries? I can understand why if in the undeveloped countries but it's probably unusual for parents to just leave their kids in the developed countries. Usually in this case, it's because of selfish reasons or ignorant reasons. We have has some cases like this appear in the media and newspapers, where parents leave three-year-olds at home then they go on holiday. I think it's very sad that these adults just don't know any better and they are still thinking like kids themselves.

There were and I'm afraid there still are cases of so-called parents who sold their children to couples from Western Europe who had the money,but couldn't have children of their own.Poverty and ignorance are the main causes of these incredible actions,there are many poor families who have many children because they don't protect themselves;anyway,in my opinion nothing justifies leaving your children or selling them,these people are simply heartless and cruel.

It is sad that people having babies can't stand up and be parents these days. Being a single mom that struggles there is no way I could imagine not having my daughter. I disagree about children being our property. No human being is nobodies property child or not.

I think so many reason lead to.in some developing coutries,people are poor,one family may have a lot kids because of culture and custom,but they can not affort so many that being forced to rid of them.then some girls who didn't marry have children,she has no ability to raise up by herself just rid of ......But whatever reason,it's immoral to rid of child

They probably dont care for them,because if they do they will never abandone there children