Do you believe that you can hear many things when you are in silence?
By oninomar
@oninomar (505)
Philippines
May 7, 2011 12:04pm CST
Silence is the absent of sounds. Sometimes silence can help us to communicate well with people. Sometimes silence help us to understand what we feel and what other people feel about us, that is called sensitivity of your surrounding. We must first feel and understand what people trying to say about us, in this way we can have a better communication. Hear them first and react after.
Being silence does not mean that we should stop talking, it also imply us to listen first.. We sometimes can hear other people say because we are not in silence, some people misinterpret the meaning of silence. Some people try to be silence by turning back and leaving others so that they can't hurt other people.. Do you think that is the right way to treat people? What do you feel when someone turn their back while explaining with them? It is really an insult to the dignity of a person..
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12 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
7 May 11
Hi oninomar,
I agree even amidst silence we can communicate but there are limitation and the context should be known to all. If my being silent is approval yours could be rejection. Hence we can not generalize the meaning of silence.
And how can you react without listening or hearing? In case people do not listen carefully it could lead to misunderstanding also.
On you turning back to a discussion does not always carry a negative mark. As for me if I see people arguing and not listening to any one why should I be there? I would promptly push off the scene. No offense.
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
8 May 11
Hi krajibg,
I respect and I will also agree with you that why should you stay in there if they are listening each other even your opinion. People sometimes feels that they can dominate and they are higher than the other. They want to be the better, the most and the best among the others that is why they sometimes don't listen to the opinion or what people say to them.
Listening what people said the more important than talking with them a null sense. Yes, if people will not listen to others it can result a misunderstanding and misinterpretation of many things. I learned that on my English class that the two components of communication is the sender and the receiver. If the receiver failed to receive the message of the sender there will probably misunderstanding between them. That is why, there must be a silence between them to deliver the message well.. Have a nice day!
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
8 May 11
Yes, you are right. And I know this problem very well for I teach English in my college.
Have a nice day.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
7 May 11
Hi oninomar: Thanks for sharing with us tehse words. I agree with you. Silence as a virtue means that we have to listen first. Sometimes people just talk and talk and they forget how the rest of the persons feel. There's no real comunication. So that's the real meaning of the title of your discussion- listen first, stop making noise in order to listen what the other persons are saying and after that talk.
ALVARO
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
8 May 11
hi starsailover,
thanks for the compliment. Sometimes we can't blame other people not to listen with us, maybe they are just too busy with so many other things. Just show to them that you really have the right attitude and you can listen to them carefully. In that manner they will see you and notice your behavior. they will try to follow what you are doing. That is the best way to make other people change. Show to them what you are and what you have and they will follow the right with you.. Have a nice day.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
18 May 11
I feel insulted when you turn your back while i am still explaining. It's best that you tell me, "i don't want to hear anymore of what you are going to say", because i know what you really mean rather than leaving me just like that.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
8 May 11
Silence contains thousands of meanings. It gives a lot of pleasure and also it kills us ultimately. Reaction to silence will be very very effective either can be the result whether positive or negative. It depends upon the situation.
@KarlJohnson (6)
• Philippines
9 May 11
There are two types of communication: external and internal types of communication. When you're in silence, you really can think well especially when you would want to ponder on something.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
7 May 11
Silence i feel is a good element to be used when understanding people.. It is a capability of tolerance and shows understanding and knowing people more.. I too have experienced silence in many ways and also have got many answers through my surroundings as you have said. When someone is angry with you silence is the best option to tolerate what are you listening, When some bad topics are been created it is better to be quite and just be silence then to get involved in bad companies. About your topic, It really fells insult when you are talking to a person and that person backs you. I have this experience this situations many times with my friends when they back stab remember no one is near and dear one to you except your mom and dad. You are all alone in your life and you have to create a path for yourself. Taking silence when you talk to someone that really shows that the person you are talking is least interested in you. I Suggest that you just keep your own business with you and mind your own one. They will automatically come on the right track to give more importance to you
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
8 May 11
I think it is most important to be a good listener when someone else is speaking. However, there a those people who will interrupt a speaking in the middle of the conversation because they think they know what the speaker is trying to communicate and in the ending they find out that they misunderstood the entire conversation because they didn't let the speaker finish the complete sentence or conversation before speaking. Some people just aren't good listeners, but constant talkers.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
7 May 11
I am a true believer of silence. What I like to do when I am around my friends or family when they are talking is listen. I listen to what they say and absorb all of it. I do not speak. But when I have heard everything and processed it, I will speak.
@lsdshrooms (214)
• United States
8 May 11
Silence allows us to think, for our minds to wander and explore what we've learned. Instead of constantly hearing, you listen.
@misspiwi (20)
• Canada
8 May 11
when people turn away when your trying to explain something, i always get a little upset mainly because it makes the other person seem like a know it all. i know someone who always, whenever i try to explain something, he shushes me and trys to explain it to me... when hes the one who doesn't understand. this usually happens when we are talking about my university course.... anyways it just makes them seem stubborn or they really just don't care about what your trying to tell them.
the least they can do is show some respect and listen until your done speaking.