are you one of them?
By visminda_824
@visminda_824 (153)
Philippines
May 7, 2011 12:26pm CST
The church teaches us to be an image of the Lord which means that we should follow the examples of Jesus through our words and deeds. They say that the best gauge to know if you are doing the will of the Lord in one situation, is to ask yourself, "If Jesus were here, how would he react on this?" or "If I were Jesus, how would he handle this?"
Many people I notice have been too frank to the point of hurting others just to stress something. Sometimes they tend to be mean in order to stress their views. They reasoned out: "I just want to be frank" or "I just want to let you know what I feel, I don't care if you are hurt, as long as, you know my stand". These people are taught to us as egocentric, because they want to feed their egos first rather than the will of God.
Could these people mean what they say, without hurting others? Could these people select the right words to say and be gentle, yet firm in their convictions?
Are you one of those who prefer to be frank, disregarding others' feelings or you are the other way around, thinking of God's teachings?
1 response
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
7 May 11
I care whether or not I am being disrespectful, but sometimes there is no way to tell someone where you stand without hurting their feelings. Some people just do not get it.
I had experienced something like this yesterday. My friend likes is very neighborly and likes to be friends with all his neighbors. He has this one neighbor who is an antagonist. He is always being very rude to people and intentionally tries to cause problems.
I had tried for so long to get along with this guy, but it is just not working. He was being rude and disrespecting my personal space, as per usual, and so I finally told him what I think of him.
Then he was teasing me about it and trying to act as if I am the rude one. I don't think that anyone should have to be continuously subjected to such things just in the sake of trying to be nice.
Of course, I didn't raise my voice or swear or anything like that. And that is what I think is important. I told him the truth and the truth wasn't something that would be fun to hear, but I believe it is necessary.
So my point is this: We shouldn't be malicious, but sometimes we can be too nice and it doesn't solve anything.
@visminda_824 (153)
• Philippines
8 May 11
You have some good points on that _sketch_. Your intent is to tell the truth and to try to correct a wrong behavior. You have exercised maximum tolerance in fact, on the nasty behavior of that guy, before. I would like also to add on my first comment that those people who are too offensive to others seem to do it habitually, just like the guy you mentioned. What I would want to point out now is that, maybe the world will be better if we live by the Golden Rule – Do unto others what you want others do unto you; or Do not do unto others what you do not want others do unto you. :)
