Am I bitter after all these years?

I think it's your right to be bitter and nobody can take that away from you. However, the gesture of the boy out there (who doesn't know you) is somewhat just a gesture of acknowledging that you too deserve a 'happy mother's day' greeting. I think a simply 'thank you' or 'like' would be enough. Afterall, it was between you and your husband, not between you and this kid.

Hi. lhenpaule. I am very sorry about your past relationship with your ex husband. I am sorry that he has betrayed you too. It must have been pretty hard to have to take care of your three children all by yourself. But with the help of God, you made it! I know that you are still hurting, but please don't be upset with his son. It would have been alright for you to say Happy Mother's Day back to him. I know that it may have came as a surprise when he said this to you. But maybe, he wants you to to remain friends with him and not enemies. I hope that someday you will find it in your heart to give him a chance to be a part of your life.

For me if you think you would then it is.

it's okay to still feel the pain of betrayal afer all of these years. In time God will heal that pain if you allow him too. If you're not ready to communicate with you ex's son than you don't have to.

i think what you felt was just normal. I mean, just seeing an ex already brings unpleasant memories it is understandable to feel some hurt. It is not the kid's fault and he may not understand the complications about relationships yet but you can set your settings to not see his posts on your wall.

Yes your bitter for a reason. The only thing is your bitter towards your ex and thats where the bitter shld stay. To punish his child who is reaching out to you for whatever reason, well hes inocent in this matter. Maybe he wants contact with his sibling? If you dont want contact with him i understand. Letting him post it to your wall is nice, maybe just a response of thank you would be nice. Its upsetting when your not recognized and dont fully understand why. I dont think you shld punish his kids for their fathers actions, but you also dont want to hurt anyone and thats understandable. Good luck in all this.

well its not the kids fault but i is ok to feel like you do and what you need to do is talk to your ex husband.

This is your childrens half brother. If only for them I would open the lines of communication to let them get to know their brothers. Don't be bitter towards them. It's not their fault what your ex husband did.

There will be some hard feelings, i have no doubt about that. But then, none of the wrongs can be the boy's doing. He was not in existance when you seperated. For all we know he just might have sent a message out of the enthusiasm of a less than ten year old! Just thank him and watch where it goes. You are expirienced enough to know instinctively when things turn bad. Untill then you may as well be cordial.

if im in your situation, perhaps i'l reply a "thank you" and that's it. just to show that i respect the greeting, and ok, the effort he made (maybe he had hard time typing, haha) and replying wont be a big deal. it's been years and years already, and besides, it's his son and not him. but since i dont know what you experienced with your ex husband and how was your life after he left you, then i cant comment on your question "are you bitter after all these years" i do respect your side of course. :)

Maybe you're that bitter. To forgive is to Forget. Whatever happened in the past will stay in the past.Your step son wants to be close to you. He wants to build a connection with you. Just let it be.

hi lhenpaule, So that to what happened to you and you husband (ex- husband).. You are so great that you raise your children by your own self.. Why is that so? Your ex- husband does not supports you, even the needs of his children with you? How bad, he is a bad guy, leaving you and his children is the worst thing he did.. Also having other family then.! That people are so....!!!.. Well anyway for me you must be thankful that his son from his other family greeted you.. it means that they are open to be with you, i mean to have a communication and maybe to forget the past? Maybe it is time for you to move on and live your life more and forgive what happened before. If you will? Sometimes we must forgive and forget the mistakes of others so that we can be more happy and nothing to worry and bother us. It is nice to feel that you are not worry of anything will happen. We must sometimes accept the truth that we are only human, and part of it is to commit mistakes. Hope that you can communicate with them. Communication means peace of mind. Also, maybe your children want to see and feel the presence of their father. Most likely is it true Don't inhibit your children to be with their father. Have a nice day. Always be happy!:)