Disliking my boyfriend's sister

Hi sashakiddo, I feel better knowing that there is someone who have the same problem as i do. I believe that i am indeed jealous about the attention part. I need to understand that she is his sister and is his sister. Nothing else. Like what you mention, we just have to deal with it and i should really learn from you. Your way of thinking. My boyfriend have 3 other brothers and their relationship is good. There are indeed many families where siblings are like rivals and I should be happy that he have a happy family and not the other way round. I might want all his attention, but i know that it is definitely not healthy. But, sometimes i just cannot help it. The emotions just build up inside me. I really should not interfere with his relationship. I must understand that this is what constitutes a good guy and i can rely my future on him. Yes, i must be glad that he treats his sister and his family well and in this way, i know he will treat me and our family well too. It's a good sign. Thank you for reminding me that the sister feels threatened by me and that her brother seems to be taken away and therefore does things to attract his attention. How did you deal with your boyfriend's sister? you hang out with her too? I would really want to conquer this feeling because i am feeling it so often that i am getting sick of it too. and sometimes this causes me to quarrel with my boyfriend which i think is very unnecessary. I really appreciate your comments.

I definitely would not want my baby to look like her. You are right, i really need to start changing. However, for the past few years, i have already tried to do that. But it's really quite tough!! Your response made my day! Thank you! You mean get alone with her as in spend time with her?

yes dear...try to get alone with her...just you and her maybe it will give you the answer why you don't like her. might be...you will find that she's not that queenie... you just a little bonding...that i guess will help. give it a try

Thank you for your advise, I'll definitely give it a try! I was thinking about it and reason why i don't like her maybe cause i find her taking attention from my boyfriend. But I know it's unhealthy for me to think this way. I really need to change

Woh. ended up as best friends? How did you manage to do that. It's even more amazing that you are now the godmother of her children. During that 7 years, did you feel anything towards her?

You are right, i need to start accepting his family, start loving them too. I would also want to get along with her. however, sometimes i really cannot control my feelings towards her.

Woh, this girl is really mean. Definitely, I can just imagine how disappoint they were. But still, i'm envious of you because my family cannot accept my boyfriend and even until now, they are not allowing him to step into our house. Did his parents not know what this girl did to their son? You are right, because we love him, we have to do it out of respect. whether we like it or not, we don't really have a choice.

You are right. It's not worth to put my boyfriend through this anguish. I must understand that this girl is his sister and that he dotes on her and that i should learn to do the same to if i'm gonna marry him in future. I have to accept her as much as I can. I love this man and i definitely don't want him to be sandwiched between his sister and me. We have many a times quarreled due to his sister and i admitted to him that i feel his sister is more important than me. I must really cherish and treasure him for the fact that he explains that she is just his sister and he dotes on her and both of us cannot be compared. But, at times i really cannot control my emotions. As to what you mentioned about you not agreeing with what they say, i do face this problem too. I find his brothers always giving him weird suggestions which i don't like. I think his brothers are not thinking for him, but suggesting things only to their own advantage. how should i go about dealing with this. Plus, any tips on how you manage to be at peace with his sisters?

Indeed, for the sake of my boyfriend, i must get along with her. I think the problem is she seems to be fighting for attention from my boyfriend and i don't like it. I know it's really immature for me to think this way because they are just brother and sisters and the love he has for me is different.

Yes, she's the youngest in their house. But i'm younger than her!!! she is definitely immature, well, i guess i have to say the same for myself!! haha.. thank you!