Do you lost hope when...

Your and Mine story is same. It really felt hard when the people with whom you have spent so much time forget you instantly, I am 35 and I am still single all My friends are married and are doing good jobs they even have stopped picking up my phone, But I have made one motto in life now. TREAT THE PEOPLE AS THEY TREAT YOU. By this you wont get hurt and if you get hurt , you will have strength to hurt them also though not physically but mentally.

It's really hurt.i had experienced this situation many years ago.when seeing the close friend left one by one,but i still single,i felt losing.Today,my friends'kids grow up,but i still single and be used to this life style.so what?evey one has own life,just enjoy it,that's ok

Yes, some of friends already have a family. The guys meet their girls and vice versa. I am happy and feel great for them. We are still best friends.That is life.You don't have to be worry your time will come shortly.

Have you asked her or even texted her, why she didn't invite you. Perhaps there is a valid reason, but the most valid one is that it's tightly budgeted so it's only close family & relatives only. Other than that, then you have a reason to be feeling left out.

I feel sorry for you. Since I'm married, maybe I can't say that I can really understand your feeling. About being not invited by a close friend, as a matter of fact, maybe I will feel a little bit disappointed. But, I'm sure he/she has his own reason. Even if it just a because a small reason: he/she forgot to invite me (you)! Just try to think positively, and I like others' suggestion to keep and treat her as your friend. Don't ever lose her, okay? ^_^

You should ask her the reason why she did that but in humorous way. the point is don't feel so sad and congratulation to her no matter what the reason is. I think that she did that cos she afraid the news may hurt you. But If I were her, I would invite you.

hi wongchoiyee! I hope you are fine! I married young at the age of 22, 1 yr after I graduated from college. Have job already and thought I am very to settle down. Anyways, age does't really matter... its just a number, mr right will come at the right moment and at times to places and event we aren't expecting... What you are feeling is normal, infact I also felt that before... cause I am a late bloomer I had my first boyfriend during my college days already... almost all my friends have 2 or three ex already and me zero... felt a little ugly and why's running on my mind... like am i not interesting or attractive??? Anyways, my first BF is my husband... So you see? he will come... Don't be sad or feel desperate... May be, he just run late because of those heavy traffic on the roads... And as for your high school friend, I think she don't mean to "not invite" you... You see, wedding is such a stressful and exciting event and sometimes we miss out some important people because of that mix emotions. Especially if the bride or groom is hands on to their wedding event... like they are the one fixing this and that... Hope you bump to your future partner very soon... Be happy and enjoy your single life for the meantime... Once you're married and have kids, you cannot go back to single living anymore...

That is really bad when our friend forget all about us when they are married, sometime, like in my case, I have many friend who stay really for and they are in other state where if I were to attend their wedding dinner, I will have to travel a few hundred kilometers. So, my these friend just never inform me and got married quietly. I would appreciate if all my friend who stay really far do not invite me to their wedding. So, just take it easy, I believe may be your friend are consider something that might for your goodness. So she never invite you. Or she just too busy and left you out. It is just nothing but just a wedding dinner. Do not take it so serious.

You can't take anything too personally, sometimes you just have to understand that a wedding is a rather expensive affair and maybe she just invited her family. Anyway, don't feel too down about not being married yet...a lot of my friends who are already married keep on discouraging me from taking the plunge. I guess they miss having all the time to themselves and not having to worry about usual marital concerns. While your prince hasn't come yet, just try to live a productive life, do all the things that you've always wanted to do, I do believe love will come when you least expect it.

hello wong, It happened to me i was hurt when i was not invited but it was their choice i can't do anything about it but it doesn't mean we are not friends anymore for me invited or not the years we've been friends still the same they have their reasons I really felt bad that time but just try to understand them happy mylotting

Hehe,no one can stop aging,and getting married is your turn sooner or later,I hope you can find your guy soon. Your close friend didn't invite you to her wedding party maybe because of her carelessness,so you don't mind it too much,on earth you haven't given her more help in this side.

if i were in your case, i admit that i feel a little upset but maybe your friend has her own reasons for doing so. maybe what you can do is just be happy for her and think that she has a good reason for not inviting you. whatever it is, just let it go. so that you will not hurt yourself more if you keep bad feelings. for as your being single, i guess it's just that you haven't found the right pair. just trust God that He will give the perfect man for you on the perfect right time. who knows, sooner or later, you'll bump into him by surprise! be happy, enjoy being single while it's still there so that when the time comes for you to be married, you can embrace it with no regrets. good luck to you :)

Hi wongchoiyee, Well the solution to that is to have me..:) Many people in our life will come and leave. Many of them will stay and many of them will say goodbye to live there life with someone else.. The jealous you feel is a a normal feelings that many people can feel with someone that he/ she was left behind and alone. Sometimes we must accept the truth that they won't stay with us forever and someday somehow they will will their own life apart from you.. We must accept it, as early as we can. Maybe your friend forgot about you, or maybe she was concerned about your feelings that you might feel rejected by them, that they have their own life apart from you.. Just confront her about it so that you will not think some other reasons about it.. It is nice to hear the truth in their own self. In your status now, is a natural things that happened to any woman in this world. Some of them are getting depressed that why they can't have as right guy for them.. They are just wondering why I don't have one yet, or just wondering why they have it first but I am beautiful compare with them.:) Well, it is just a matter of time the right person will just knock on your door and say to you " Will You Marry Me?" hehehe LOL.. But if that person won't come, I am just here. LOL hehe:).. If he won't come you must have an action for it, if you feel like your old to wait, you make your own destiny find it anywhere around the globe..:) Maybe you are just too conservative woman? will sometimes you must have a change to you life, in your lifestyle to meet some guys (you must first make sure that he can be a responsible one).. Well, maybe there are so many guys at your front that you never notice that admires you? you must now be more sensitive about that. Maybe they are too shy and afraid that you will eat them. haha peace!:) maybe they are not sure if you will accept them or not, sometimes man needs some hints and some actions from a woman to give them the courage. But, if you feel that you still wait, just wait for him maybe he is on his way and just have a traffic along is way.. Maybe the man that you been waiting for is one of the the guy that will comment on your discussion here.. Have a nice day!

keep treating her as friend and always excuse her. dont ever lose a friend

I also feel the same way with you. Now that my age is at the end of the average 'marrying stage' it is somewhat stressful that the man I want to spend my life with hasn't proposed yet. Though there are talks of marriage, it's still not the final line. I know there are many reasons why I should be worried or why I should feel depressed, however, I have come to realize that there are a lot of people in the world who haven't experienced love and now that I have love in my life, then I should not ask too much of it and just be happy of what I have right now. Soon I too will have the opportunity to get married someday and spend my life having a husband, best friend and my love, and soon kids as well. So, please don't be depressed at all, just try to be pleasing and don't rush things because of your age. You will find that someone or that someone will find you eventually. As for your friend, it's really sad that there are people who we treat as friends don't seem to feel the same way with us, it's sad but perhaps her excitement with her wedding was just too overwhelming that she forgot several good friends - I'm pretty sure she will regret not being able to remember everyone. But if you're really a good friend, these things should not shatter your friendship. Just be supportive and be happy for her because she found her match. Good luck!!

Wow, You look so pretty and familar. I was wondering if you are also made in China? Some of my friends in China have the same feeling and the difference is they are guys above the average age for marriage. I dare bet 50 bucks that if you were in China you could find your Mr. right in a week. Or You could try to think about the good side about you are single. Just imagine the name Desperate Housewives...imagine how desperate they are... Another idea is to make a deal with your good boyfriend in the same situation: when both of you are 35(or another) years old and unmarried, you two get married, sounds like a insurance or a backup, then enjoy your precious single time. Love is karma and come soon.

maybe they had limited budget so they invited only a few people. don't worry, you'll find your someone too. there are more than 6 billion people in the world. he might be somewhere close to you and you just havent noticed him yet.

Do not lose hope. It's never too late. Getting married is a part of life. It is but natural. Who knows? Maybe one of these days you'll see yourself walking down the aisle, towards the altar.

hahahh..I have the same feeling as you are but I am not losing hope and not feeling desperate. YES, I also felt left out but we should try to face it positively and with a go-go attitude, I think it's just like a race when only happens to be that they're all ahead of you and you're the last. Finding a lifetime partner is just a crazy difficult fish to catch. He may be a neighbor of yours or a seatmate in class or even someone you'd say you hate the most.I mean, Who knows? we don't know what lies ahead. I too haven't found the girl of my dreams but I am always optimistic, I am not losing hope,I am meeting new good friends. I believe just by being nice and showing who we really to everyone and with prayers of course, will help us find our "coveted" compatible partners for life.

Do not feel desperate that you are the only one single and all of you friends are married already. When you are desperate, you might just settle for someone just for the sake of being with someone. This is regardless if you really like this person or not. Maybe it is just taking too long for you to meet the man for you. Then while the man of your dreams is still not appearing, focus on being the best woman/person. As for your friend who did not invite you, maybe there is an important reason why you were not invited. Whatever the reason was, she was entitled to invite who she wants as it was HER wedding. If you guys are close friends, then you might want to ask her. She might have an issue with you that you are not aware of. By asksing and by knowing, you might save the friendship. If you are not really close friends, then you can just let it go.