Marriage

Could i ask why you did not get married with your kids father? Definitely, the purpose of a marriage is to make a commitment towards each other and hope to stay together as long as possible. I think your sister should indeed have tried to make things work between the both of them. we have to remember that when both parties wanted to get married, there was so much love between them. Just remembering how much both of them love each other gives both parties some point to reflect on. Perhaps one reason why your sister did not bother was because she was really too young when she got married and can't really be bothered now. Did you try to explain things to her? She needs to understand that this is the choice she made and need to accept it. I think marriage is a lifetime thing and divorce should be the last considered alternative once both are married. I am currently 21 too. At 16, i got together with my current boyfriend and up till now, my parents still hate him and he is not allowed to even see them. Even though your parents dislike him, they allowed your sister to bring him home. Could i also ask why did your sister decide to marry this man at 18?

I would not marry unless I knew for sure 100 percent that it would last for ever its okay not to married and have children and yes in a relationship you should be able to talk freely with out being scared and i do believe if you are in abusive relationship there is no talking get out fast.

When we get married we should see to it that our relationship must stay forever whatever happen. I am married for 11 years now. My wife stay away from me before but I still doing my best get back to me... She have an affairs to someone but I still work for better. Now, my wife is with me and talk about bad things that was happen before... Relationship must give and take. There must be physical and emotional abused. Love must always be in a relationship...

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Though still most people respect that and consider it's the key for marriage to work and last, be blessed with its matrimony. Nowadays, people always consider the live-in stage, and they called it testing time. Time to find out if being together will end up into knowing each other for good, but if it turns out the reverse, then there's no much agony in separating ways. You're right, getting married at an early age usually caused the relationship not to last for they usually take it for granted brought about of immaturity. Another factor also is the relationship with the the extended families. Some says, it is a normal trend that in-laws usually interfere in the relationship and that attitude always seems have a negative effects in a couple's relationship. So perhaps, before getting married, someone should set his/her minds in whatever will be ahead of their way, and always prepared to have time to consider things, analyze to avoid abrupt decision that will ruin the relationship. It is also better to know each other better and avoid trial and error in a relationship. Hope you could come up to the best decision of your getting married. Good luck and happy mylotting.

Marriage is something that binds a husband and wife because they promised that in front of the priest or the judge during their wedding. Hence, they both have the responsibility to make their marriage work. If one sees it to be deteriorating, then they should talk on how to repair it. However, when it is beyond repair and when love is really gone, then they should peacefully agree to separate.

For me, Marriage is a big decision to yourself. It's not about you should stay together or for your children. It's about what is your feeling to your husband/wife, If you don't love him/her anymore then you should give up that relationship, For me marriage is for people who love each other, It doesn't matter who he/she is as long as you love that person...

In my home country it is acceptable for a couple to live together and not ever get married. It is also fine to be a single mother: she might not have got married or be divorced. I think that a happily married couple should stay together for life. However it there are problems in the marriage I think they need to try hard to get on well. If this doesn't work out they should split up and get divorced. Though sadly children suffer greatly in the two years after their parents get divorced. I don't think that a couple should marry too young. It is best to marry in the early to mid twenties rather than the teenage years. Though some teenage couples get on very well and stay together for life. I think in the case of abuse the lady should say they will split up and if married get divorced. My marriage lasted six years and then I got divorced. I had two more children in a relationship. I didn't want to marry a second time.

I feel you should definitely try to work things out. You got married for a reason. You loved each other enough to promise your life to the other. But both parties have to want to try to work on the marriage. Most times what happens is that whatever the problem is it has gotten too big and ugly. Things need to be addressed as they come up so it won't get to the point where the marriage falls apart. Communication and honesty are very important in any relationship but especially if you are married!

That would be very sad to know your story! But I am proud of your courage you tried hard for 5 years! Yeah'ryt! Your sister atleast should tried it. For me, as a christian believer -- marriage is sacred and it should remain till forever. It is even said that even if you had it divorced, the sacredness of it still remain.. And the lesson to this, you must think twice first before engaging yourself to a lifelong commitment.

The entire point of marriage is making a life long commitment to someone. To feel it is just something to do demeans all of us who work hard to keep a happy marriage. Now of coarse there are reasons to get divorced, beatings, cheating or other abuses. No one should give up on their relationship though for reasons like "we grew apart" please marriage is working together if you grow apart it means you need to work on it better.

I have read your story. I agree with you. You are from United States of America. It is a developed country. Where as coming to India, here the situation is entirely opposite. If a women got pregnancy without marriage, the entire society will see her as a bad person. And no one will give employment to her, no one will ready to give shelter to her. Her life will through into darkness only. Personally i don't like this, but i am single, how can i change without any power in the society.

Yes,if you have decided to get married,then both of the couple must manage to cherish the love and the family,or getting married is meaningless.