What would you do if your friend uses you as an excuse?

I think you should be telling your friend that you are not covering for here anymore. She is using your friendship to do what she wants and she is putting your friendship under severe strain. If she was a true friend then she would not do that to you. I agree she has a problem with her parents but that is not your problem perse. Is there anyone who can help your friend. Some organisation like Mind, it is UK based. I believe that the best way to help your friend is to try to help find a solution to the problem. The problem is that banning something from anyone is like waving a red rag to a bull, They have to find out why it is banned. That will be your friends downfall. I think that your friend needs to grow a little too and take responsibility for her actions. If she is going to take actions that defy her parents then she should be big enough to face the consequences. I do not think that she is and I, like you would hate to see her hurt. This is why I feel that she needs some outside help, some organisation that will support her, otherwise it is going to be all downhill. Now is the time to act, not sit back.

nothing to do.i have friends like her ,too.but,she is your friend.you have to excuse until she does something beyond the limit

For me I would not go friend him totally because she is using me.

it happens all the time. if i were in your situation, i'd talk to the person concerned, i.e. your friend. and if she won't stop making you as an excuse for her to be out of her parents' sight for a while, then i think it's time you talk to your parents. then maybe your parents and your friend's parents can talk it over...

I think you're so confuse now. One side, she's you best friend and her mom very trust you, another side, it's really annoying for you. I guess you have to say to her that you dont like her decision to make you an excuse. You need speak from heart to heart. If she need a freedom and not comfort with mom over protective, she must speak mother. All thing she has is prove that she's ok and trusty person. I'm afraid if her mom know all her lies, she could be more overprotective to her and of course dont believe you anymore. It's bad impact and uhurt. You should make her realize about this.

Hi AmourHelen Your friends parents trusting you, They are very very overprotective of your friend. But your friend is misusing that by using you as an excuse to hang out that too not with you. In this case you should not support your friend. You should respect & give importance to her parents. Because by being a truthful person to her parents you are saving your friend's life too. So please do inform her parents about this issue. Don't worry your friend will have a fight with you in this case. But she will realize it very soon. So don't delay and please take further actions. God bless you

That's tough. Talk to her about it. Tell her how her parent's trust matter to you. Also, tell er to have the decency to tell you before hand that you'll be used as an excuse, that way you'll know what to do and how to cover for her

I am sorry to hear that. I can actually relate not being you but your friend. My parents are overly protective and my parents have trust in my close friends so when I go out, I mention I'm with them though I may be with them or not but generally if I use my friends as an excuse, I would see my friend for maybe an hour or so, cause technically I wouldn't be lying. But I haven't lately anymore, it was just a little stage; my friends didn't mind cause we both did favors but I would tell your friend to see you and hang out so you can say you hung out so technically it isn't a lie but if you don't want to help her out, you should just bluntly tell her how you feel.

hello, That is true! when someone trust you you must take good care of it because trust is really hard to gain. Specially if they are talking about their child they say you are a good influence but dont you see that you are just consenting her on what her doing, she might do this again?If I were you I will talk to my friend and I will say that this will be the last you will excuse my name to your parents because she will be getting abusive of it? good luck

Hehe,that's really an unmanageable thing.If you don't obey your girlfriend,you may annoy her;If you ignore her mom's phone,you'll lose her trust!I think you'd better find another girlfriend.

I think you should talk to your friend about this. It might hurt her feelings but you have to tell her that she's putting you in great trouble. You know that you will be blamed if anything bad happens to her right? And if your friend don't understand you after that, then she doesn't treat you as her friend, she's just using you instead......

That would be a disgusting feeling, but I think there is an intervention for it. I would tell my friend about it in an assertive manner, in a way he/she wouldn't get offended. I also think this happens because oftentimes we are too passive or too lenient with some of our friends that they even use us for the purpose of defending themselves.

For goodness sakes, speak up! Confront her and tell her outright that you cannot be made as an excuse. It is true that her parents trust you..and for that you have a certain level of liability whatever happens to their daughter. And being her friend, you need to tell her that what she is doing is wrong. When friends goes astray, it is our duty to remind them and help them to be in the right track.

I would strongly suggest that you tell her that it is making you uncomfortable. If she really treasures you as a friend, she would understand. It will also be beneficial to her as she might be hanging out with peeps that are bad for her which could be the reason she can't tell her parents.