can anyone help me out?

India
May 11, 2011 2:55am CST
basically i am a very modest kind of a person... sometimes i am strong enough to face any situation and the next moment i feel nervous to speak in front of people... can anyone help me to tackle this situation? so that i don't feel fear anymore....
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5 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Before someone is made to speak in front of people, he should be prepared. If you were informed a couple of hours before that, it helps that you jot down what you are to speak of. When you are already there in front to speak, take a deep breath and a prayer. Try to calm yourself that you are there to speak , not to boast of yourself but to share whatever insights that you may have. Speak in a well modulated voice. It also helps that a glass of water is at hand for you to drink, when your mouth gets dry from speaking. Most of all, have confidence in yourself. It was you who was chosen to speak because they look up to you!
@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
11 May 11
May I add to the comment of simpld that you practice and prepare of what topic you are going to deliver to your audience. Beforehand, practice speaking in front of the mirror so you will see for yourself how you look. If possible memorize your speech and pray that everything is a success.
@harck721 (372)
• Philippines
12 May 11
It takes time to build courage. You need to acquire it bit by bit. Everyday, do at least one thing that scares you. You can also try playing out various scenarios in your head and think of ways to actively respond to them. You can also try practicing public speaking in front of your mirror. It may seem a little silly, but it helped me a lot. Another way I get over the fear of confronting people is to tell myself that there are a lot of things scarier than what I am about to do.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
11 May 11
Be like what you wanna be. Situations can teach you how you gonna behave with the society. You can learn from the life how you will react with the hard situations. May god bless you. How can you say that you are a modest person....?
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Hi,. Just believe to your own self that you can do that.. If you commit mistakes before, it is just a lesson for us to learn.. All you have to do is believe, don't lose hope.. If others can do it, you can also do it.. If you really losing confident to your self, why don't you join some leadership trainings, which you can gain more confidence and self awareness towards improvement of your self..
• India
11 May 11
Hi, You can not overcome fear overnight. Start opening up with people. Just talk to them like how you talk to your closed ones. You have interiority complex which is making you nervous. If you are not a good communicator, improve it gradually. Always tell this to yourself that I'm not less than anybody in any aspect. This will make you feel good. You should feel good about yourself then only you can create a good impression about you. When ever you get a chance to address someone on stage or anywhere for that matter, do not let it go. Try twice or thrice, you'll gain confidence & slowly you get rid off your nervousness. Common champ, you can do it.