Feeling Guilty ?? How good is that ?

@akp100 (13640)
India
May 11, 2011 7:31am CST
Hello Friends :) People may feels guilty after they do some mistake or harm someone. But how good is that ?? Me and my uncle having same mobile. And both having USB cable to charge it with some holder(don't know exactly it called) so we can charge mobile using USB cable through plug. Now unfortunately I lost his charger's holder . Now my uncle having usb cable but without holder he can't use USB cable directly to charge mobile from plug. Now it was my mistake. And i was really felling guilty. Due to that i gave my holder and told him that i will buy new. He refused it but i managed to give him. Now I can't buy new one as i have to go in city to purchase it and i have no plan to go in city for few days. So I am charging my mobile using USB cable via laptop. Its bit hard and slow now to charge my mobile. Now i felt guilty and gave my thing to my uncle as i lost his thing. And now i am suffering.( which is like my punishment ) How about you ??? Have you gone though such situation where you have to face trouble because of your guilty ??
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@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Hey, yes this is a perfect post for me my friend. I did something wrong with my friend just last night. And when I woke up, I was so disturbed, I was thinking I can't focus on my job if it goes like this, the feeling of guilt keeps haunting me. I stared at my friend and when I got the chance I grabbed my friend and embraced my friend. I was sorry and made it known to the person. Then I cried and really was sorry. My friend told me, it's okay. Don't worry. And was saying that with a smile. Was really thankful for the goodness of the person. And for the kindness. It blessed my day! :)
@akp100 (13640)
• India
12 May 11
Hi Then no need to feel guilty. I mean your friend told you its okay with smile. Means your friend isn't angry from you. So no need to feel guilty now. And you have done right that you said sorry after that.
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
12 May 11
That's great...
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• Philippines
12 May 11
Yeah, no need to feel guilty. It's great though that I know now, it's okay. And I don't have to be haunted with the guilty feeling. Such a good friend. Always understands. :)
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
12 May 11
For me the conscience would develop it is good because you can choose to follow what right or not.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
20 May 11
I guess i had done right. And now after getting my own new charger its all back to normal. sorry for late reply..
@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
11 May 11
Maybe that thing can be called an adapter.... You did quite right thing, and that must ease your guilty feeling now. I once lost my friend's pen-drive (still unsure about the technicality of it) and didn't feel guilty (for the same technicality problem). And I paid him back. On the other hand, my sister felt bad about losing someone's and gave her away instead. Just like you. She faced trouble for some months as the prices were getting up by the time. But as they say, all is well if it ends well...
@akp100 (13640)
• India
11 May 11
Yes now i feel good as my uncle will not have to suffer because of me. So its surely removed my guilty feeling. Yes may be its called adapter.. not sure. And about my adapter i guess i have to wait two more days. Till then will charge it from laptop. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
12 May 11
hi akp, you should no longer feel guilty because you did the right thing by giving your uncle the holder. this should have relieved your guilt. it almost sounds as if you are upset over giving the holder to your uncle. Is there any way you could continue to share the holder with your uncle until you can get in to the city to get a new one?
@akp100 (13640)
• India
12 May 11
Hi Nope i am no more feel guilty as I am glad that my uncle didn't have to suffer because of me. About my charger holder i will buy it in two days. And I am using my uncle's charger holder too whenever i found it free. And my uncle also told me the same many time.
• United States
11 May 11
Hi akp Seems like an honest mistake, for which you compensated him for. Don't feel bad because you compensated him, imagine had you lost it and not been able to compensate him at all. As for you suffering because now you no longer have yours, it is how it is that we make up for an error. I have not experienced this but would have done the same as you had I mistakenly lost the item too.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
11 May 11
Yes even i feel i have done right. And yes i am not feeling bad about it at all. Its like little punishment for mine mistake. Its not a good as i have lost mine charger as i gave it to my uncle... But i feel good that my uncle didn't have to suffer because of me.
@in212857 (67)
• India
12 May 11
common yaar it is avery small issue u will be fine in a day or two i hope so dont worry its just a charger and still u can atleast charge ur mobile with laptop buy it whenever u get a chance
@akp100 (13640)
• India
20 May 11
sorry for late reply... yes its wasn't a big issue.. And i already have my new charger so its all okay now. Thanks for responding.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
11 May 11
It is normal to feel guilty when you do something wrong, but at least you made it right by giving your uncle your charger. Now I have a habit of misplacing things -I misplaced the charger for my camera and tried every other one until I found it. So losing I also have been going on the Apple site to see if I could get a replacement if I do lose my plug in as well and I have the cord from the ipod that Icould use and yes it takes too long to charge it on the laptop. I do feel guilty about thing that happend in my life or what I did, and often times it is something that cannot be rectified. At least you will get a new charger whatchamacallit. What I did that cannot be repaired.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
11 May 11
Yes I am hopping for new charger holder in couple of days. Its really slow process to charge iphone via laptop. But yes its only matter of two days. About misplacing things.. Even i misplace my stuff many times. But fortunately i able to found them most of time.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 May 11
akp you know it might be a really unpleasant emotion but if we did not feel guilty we would be unfeeling zoombie like people. so it is good that we have that capacity as then we will review whatever we have done that made us feel guilty and if it was something we did wrong we can correct it. Just yesterday I felt both guilty and defensive. I heard the intercom say we are playing bingo so I just went downstairs without waking my roommate who was dozing. when I came back and she asked me where I had been I said playing bingo. She said, why didn't you tell me I love to play bingo I felt so guilty as I knew i should have told her.then she got mad at me and shocked me by saying "I feel like slapping your face." I barked back," you ever hit me you will be sorry." nobody slaps me thats one thing since childhood I will not stand for. I was slapped once for something that I had not done. this is the most humiliating thing you can do to anyone adult or child. but I finally told her i was sorry I did not wake her and would do so the next time. I did not tell her the last time I tried to wake her to go play bingo she told me to leave her alone. so she did apologize for what she said to me and I told her I would be sure to tell her if I had to get a bull horn to do it as she is pretty deaf. The trouble with a roommate with alzenheimers is they forget so easily.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
11 May 11
Yes That's the make difference between human and Zombie.. I have read your discussion about this one. Yes feeling guilty about our mistakes always help us to not repeat the same mistake again. So its good. Yes because of that we do face some troublesome situation but better we take it as little punishment of our mistake. Thanks for sharing.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 May 11
Hi akp Bro you are going on the ways of the heart... painful but blissful for sure For the guilt well possessiveness and the need make the matter to the fore... but never mind, I appreciate that you did a right thing by offering your charging device to the uncle... And for you, you will have one soon - why not consider borrowing his charger for charging your mobile as long as you are with him
@akp100 (13640)
• India
11 May 11
Thanks sid.. Yes i am doing the exact thing. Well not frequently but whenever i found his charger holder free i put my mobile to charge it. And he is always telling me to do the same. I am happy to see you here bro..
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
11 May 11
hello, Well,it is natural to feel guilty specially if you really do a mistakes. right? Yes, I've done so many mistakes in my life and i wish I didn't do it. but still I am feeling guilty every time that I remember that but I am not perfect I know I will learn from my mistakes for now. but anyways I think you must buy a usb cable because as what you have said charging through laptop is getting little bit longer.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
11 May 11
I am having usb cable already but its holder for what i am looking for. I don't know its exact name... But we can use it to charge our mobile by usb cable directly through plug instead of laptop.( as plug don't have facility to plug usb cable) Yes nobody is perfect. And its really good to learn from our mistakes. I am feeling more guilty as i lost my uncle's charger holder. But i am trying best to solve it and yes will try to not repeat it.
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
11 May 11
You did the right thing.. and what do you think supposed you do?? you lost it and you must be responsible for replacing it.. well, if you know it it your fault you must know what to do you make him feel that you really sincere and honest in giving to him you thing.. Sometimes we really have to sacrifice something in order for us to stay in what and where we are now, it is just a manner of chance to have it.. You done the right thing, because if you didn't do that, maybe your uncle get mad on you and maybe next time you can borrow again anything from him.. You just done the right thing.. Sometimes we must have to suffer the consequence of what have done, suffering for such a short period of time is not bad at all.. Just a little sacrifice my friend, all things are worth for good.. You are a very good and responsible person and I like that attitude.. you make a way for your self and for your mistakes to make it right. you have your own decisions and you think for the other. You really concern with what will your uncle feels.. Things will be alright after few days, when you have a new holder for you self.. Just be patience and just a little sacrifice for it..
@akp100 (13640)
• India
11 May 11
Yes all will be okay after couple of days.. and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Yes it was my mistake and i choose to offer him my charger . Now i am facing little trouble but its okay its like little punishment for what i have done.