Dont say it please??

I'm like you ae I don't like to celebrate my birthday, it's just aanother year gone by as far as I am concerned. I like parties for the 4th of July now that's a birthday party I can really get into. It's America's birthday.

I do sympathise. I, too, hate "celebrating" my bd. Last year I upset the in-laws because I told them that John didn't want to celebrate his 40th by having a party. Of course, they didn't believe me so asked HIM and he (thankfully), said the same as me, he didn't WANT a party. Having a 40th birthday party is oh, so 70s and I said so. They've not been the same since but f*ck 'em, I don't care! Can't you tell them all you're ill and not up for it on Friday? That's what I'd do..or would they come round anyway to see how you were? God, you can't win either way can you?

If they were really thinking of you they would bring you a meal, and coffee. I did not like my birthday for a long time. Several bad things happened on it. I eventually got kind of neutral about it. I do not say "happy happy, joy joy", but I do not get seriously depressed either.

Birthday will remind you that you are getting older a year than previous. This makes me little anxious.

same here, but then again come to think of it, being greeted or rather remembered on the day you were born somehow gives you the feeling that someone remembered your existence, and that celebrating such an occasion would only mean being blessed with another year of existence with them, lol! but seriously, i would admit that even how i am against it, the warm greetings and the appreciation of my existence make me realize how a good guy i have been, lol!

Now, I don't celebrate my birthday either. And my family makes a big deal out of it as well, much to my dislike. But I don't get angry about it, I just put up with it. Now, I can understand that if people know you don't particularly like something, they shouldn't put it on you, but that's just how families are. My family knows I don't care about my birthday anymore, yet they still make a big deal about it. Like they did last Friday/Saturday, the seventh was my birthday. Spent some time Friday with family to 'celebrate' then Saturday went with my girlfriend to a movie. But it's YOUR birthday, do whatever you want. If your family doesn't like that, just tell them so. They can't say anything in retort.

Hi MagicalBubbles, I'm going to respect your wishes here. I'm the same way and my birthday is this month too. It has nothing to do with getting older or anything like that. I have NEVER even as a little girl liked anyone making a fuss over my birthday. In fact I hated it.

I seem to be coming across discussions where youngsters dread the thought of entertaining anyone because of the work involved. I am just the opposite in that I just love entertaining. As long as I get advance notice I will be about it with gusto - an opportunity to spruce up my already spruced up place. A fresh flower arrangement is a must as also some exotic dishes, some music will play in the background. Oh I simply love entertaining. I hope after reading this you will get the contagion and tell your parents that it is ok by you to have relatives over.. And if you do decide tell me what your plans are!

I can understand how you feel. Just like you , i don't like to be greeted by my office mates on my birthday. It makes me more older than them . BUt i would like to be greeted by my husband and daughter and my family. I get saddened if no one from them remembered. But i do celebrate it always. I attend a mass in the early morning and buy or cook pancit (stir fried noodles) and a cake for us at home. That's my way of thanking God for continuing to give me many additional years of my life.