Friend in Trouble

India
May 11, 2011 10:00pm CST
One of my friend is in big trouble , he is a very good guy and even he is light hearted , he is in love with a Girl , the girl who he is in love is not so good , even i also seen her to be dating( I can't specify it more) with a boy , but my friend is truly and madly in love with her , considering upon her side she is also truly in love with him . Shall i tell about her to my friend or shouldn't i ?
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
12 May 11
If you really consider him as your friend, then I think you should tell him about the unfaithfulness of the girl. He has to know this and it is up to him to decide whether he still wants to love that girl or not. But you should let him know about what you know and not keep it to yourself. It will be unfair to him and he will start to doubt your friendship.
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@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
12 May 11
Yes since the guy is your friends just drop a few hints and also use your hp to capture some pictures of her with other guys.Just said your are not sure whether is boyfriend or not or two timing but just to inform your without any jealousy and such since your are my friend, the decision depends on him.Sometime depends your friends if he is hot temper and don like interference from your then better keep quiet and keep your peace and friendshp
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@Bernard9 (56)
12 May 11
I am sorry to say that you should say nothing. You are not protecting her if you don't say anything but generally the bearer of bad news gets the cold shoulder treatment afterwards. This is because your friend is so madly in love with her he will not see the wood for the trees and he will think you are trying to come between them. Or it may sound like you are being spiteful. The best thing you can do is to arrange for your friend to stumble across his girlfriend and other boyfriend. Even that sounds like a no-no to me. I am afraid it is best to leave him find out from someone else. Other than that leave well alone unless you want to lose him as a friend.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
12 May 11
Very tough decision on your part.But better tell him the truth when you are a true friend. Better to hurt now than after the time when you realize that you hid the truth from him. success.
• United States
12 May 11
If your friend is not cheating on her also, then you have to tell him. You are is friend, you need to let him know whats going on. Be careful the way you'll tell him. And be sure of what you are saying
• India
12 May 11
My friend is not at all cheating , he truly loves her . But i think it would be a very tough job for me to tell him . And also i have noted that she is very good girl , she might have intentionally gone in date with that Guy . She is also truly in love with my friend
13 May 11
I think you should most definitely tell him. Especially if he says he loves her. He deserves to know. Just be careful about him not believing you and getting mad at you. If you're going to make sure you have proof.
12 May 11
hello style waves i do not think it is a best thing to do by telling him about her. At the moment he is in deep love with her and he would not take it in positive way. And you can not protect him from every mistake he is about to commit. He has to learn from his mistake. BUT as a good friend it is in his and your best option to let him know. I think giving him a hint is a proper way to inform him. OR rather speak with the girl and let her know your concern. May be she would be serious if she knew your friend is serious too.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
12 May 11
It is a tough situation but, as a good friend, you ought to tell your friend the truth. He may not believe you and may even be annoyed with you for a while but when he inevitably discovers what this girl is really like he will appreciate you attempting to warn him otherwise he may be very angry with you should he find out you knew but did not tell him. It seems like a no win situation right now but I think telling him is the right thing to do.
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
12 May 11
As a friend, you may need to tell him about her but try to do it in a very objective way. Do not accuse her, just tell him the facts. It is your friend's decision to make. If he continues to lover her despite everything that you told him, then it is his life...
• United States
12 May 11
Because this is your friend if it were me I would sit calmly with him and ask him about his intentions with the girl. If you know for a fact she has dated others maybe you need to let him know. But do tell him that because you care about him you are only letting him know that maybe you are wrong but if you were in his shoes you would want him to tell you. Let him know that no matter what his decisions are with the girl you will always be his friend. That's it style, that is all you can do and this way it is off your conscious that you tried and was only looking out for him the way you wish for a friend to look out for you.
@in212857 (67)
• India
12 May 11
according to my experience after a certain span of time it is only the actual nature and understanding which works between the married couple and all other things be it beauty, love takes a back seat so if you think that their chemistry can work u must support them bcoz later or sooner we come to know about all the things about our partner
• Philippines
12 May 11
For me, the best quote that fits to this situation is: "Experience is the best teacher". It couldn't be avoided that this situation occurs to many of us and I guess everybody gets in love with a girl who's in love with another. If that would be the case, then it would be best to let him do what he wants for himself because a person that is in love wouldn't listen to any advice and I tell you that any relationship wouldn't succeed without passing to trials and hardships. Another thing that amazes all of us is that human beings recover from sadness and hurt. So, as much as I hate to see my friend hurt by the one he loves, but there are some things that we can't avoid and I'm sure that he'll get something out of that experience and hopefully, he'll realized that she's not the right girl for him.
• United States
12 May 11
Thats a tough one. I had a friend once that had a similar situation with one of her friends. He was in love with one of her friends yet she knew how her friend was like but he wouldnt listen he would always follow what he thought in his mind was right. It wouldnt hurt to try i mean people react to things differently than others do. My friends story ended because eventually even though the guy was in love with that one girl. The more time went by he himself started to realize what he got himself into and broke loose from it all. Nowadays he has a girlfriend who actually cares about him so in the end everything went great for him. I think we all have to go through some kind of situation on our own to realize who we're getting ourselves with. if not we would continue to make that same mistake time and time again. In the end its your choice on what you decide to do or say to your friend. But remember in the end he makes his own choice, regardless of what you tell him. i wish you the best and good luck :)