"family"
By Sammy224
@Sammy224 (50)
United States
May 11, 2011 11:36pm CST
When I was growing up I lived near my mothers family most of us in the same town and that was great I was very close to them and we had fun. My life seemed to be almost perfect untill I was about 13 or 14 and my mom and dad decided we would move to a differnt state to be near my fathers family. I didn't really know my dads family and I didnt want to move but we did and I hated it. I did somethings that were stupid then when I was 16 it was right after I got my drivers license in March we found out my father had cancer and he had about 6 months to live. He died at the end of July and my dads family was great then and I met my half-sister, she found out the day our father passed away she was going to have a baby.
So now my dad is dead and my mom has pretty much lost her mind and we are still living in a place that I hate. After that my mom didn't care what we did she got us beer when we asked I was only 16 my younger sister was 15 my brother was 17 and my older sister was 19 none of us were old enought to drink and my mom was never someone who I would think would have done untill after my father passed away.
Anyway after about 2 months no one came to make sure we were ok and then we went back to school like nothing was wrong. My fathers family was no longer like our "family" after he passed away they started to get sorta cold to us. I told my cousin that my sister was prego and she was like well she isnt married so is she keeping the baby! I wanted to just scream but I said yes why wouldnt see. These people who think they are my family thin just because we have kids before we are married that there is something wrong with us? Well needless to say I havnt talked to much of that side of my family. I just think that if you are family that you should look passed SOME things not all but SOME.
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5 responses
@mansha (6298)
• India
12 May 11
Sammy, sorry to hear about your dad, it seems your mother is kind of depressed right now, do take care of her. How old are you now? I have gone through the same thing with my dad passing away when I was fifteen. Even my father's family moved away from us and it was my mother's side that took care of us. In fact I have realized its always your mom's side that backs you up because perhaps communication flow is easier there. Recently I lost my brother in law and I was the other side and I realized there are things that you are too scared to say when you are not that close. Sometimes your intentions may be right but they get mis-interpreted. I tried to be there for my sister in law but now she has moved in with her sister and her family. She says she finds it more peaceful and relaxed there. I did what I could by supporting her decisions without any questions so now we are close at emotional level but actual support is being given by her mom's side of the family. May be you can suggest that to your elder sister or your mom and move back. Talk to them may be it will help.
@bobmnu (8157)
• United States
12 May 11
My family was in your situation. My wife's family lived near us and my family was several hundred miles away. Both my wife and I made it a point to call my parents, and visit them at least once a year so our children got to know their other family. Even now the cousins are close and remain in contact. Sorry it did not work out for you.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 May 11
It was so sad to hear your story about your family.
The loss of your father was just too much for your mother that she lost her enthusiasm in taking good care of you. Sadly, the family of your father grew cold on your family after the demise of your father because maybe your mother didn't take care of you as what was expected of her.
It would have been better, if your mother took all of you back to her family. That way, her family could have taken cared of her too, in rearing you all.
Don't reminisce those bad days anymore, try to just reminisce the good times, so you will always stay happy.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Sorry to hear about your dad Sammy... It must have been so difficult for you and your family to cope up with. And it aggravates the grief when you think you have a family but they're getting cold with you all. Just be there for each of your siblings and your mom. Be strong Sammy, no storms that wouldn't pass away. Storms are part of our life that makes us strong if we deal with it fiercely and bravely... Take courage to face these challenges and get through these tough times for you and your family victorious.
Things will pretty much work out for good later. Just have the right positive attitude. Ah, yes, maybe you'd say I didn't have the slightest clue how it feels. Sorry for those unsolicited "sort of" advices. But those were my views about life and its challenges.
Hold on to your real family. Hope all will be well soon. Pray. God bless you! Have a happy life! :)
