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Keeping anger inside to my mind is not always the right thing to do. Control can mar one's health. Letting off steam as they say does give relief to some. Not showing anger can encourage others to take advantage and exploit the situation.

What I understand from the phrase is you can be angry whether you're wrong or right, but you should not lose your self-control or presence of mind. Being angry is normal, it is an emotion. What makes it bad is when you lose your hold of your presence of mind. There you start doing crazy things you might regret. Hope that this one helps.

Hullo Deepak! Whoever it is that angered you today morning, you can rest assured that I am on your side because I know you are a fair minded patient person. Coming to the topic, this saying can be interpreted in many ways. I feel that it describes a way of behavior that maintains a person's peace of mind, thereby ensuring his physical health and also well being in general. This essentially means that one must retain one’s cool, one’s composure because problems are resolved not by display of anger but by clarity. This clarity is lost when a person gives vent to anger. When you are wrong, there is no point in getting angry because finally you would be proved wrong and you could have gracefully given in right in the beginning. When you are right , you will not command obedience just by a display of anger but this is better achieved by quiet, firm , supreme self-confidence.Angry shouting would only lead to a person's own B.P shooting up. In an old film there was a dialogue, "anger is like a volcano and it would burn oneself." Not getting angry does not mean giving in to another person or compromising on one’s stance. “You can smile and smile and still be a villain” is another quote. It does not mean that a person needs to be a villain in this context but a person can just be silent and be firm in what he believes.

I think that temper and a grand show of it scares people and put them off. If you are working and show your temper you could lose your job. Temper grows to anger sometimes and that can cause a hole myriad of problems. We do need to patient and try not to show an anger that could get us into trouble or allienate people.

hello dpk, It depends on a person's character. Some are too good to hold their temper,while some are not and always tactless as they are. I've learned to hold my temper and play with it from my work. Working in a technical department is not an easy job esp when you are supposedly to be having a sweet sleep and good night...i am there having nightmares with some st*pid callers asking why their mobile phones not working and on the long run of checking in between their shouting and cursing...only to find out that the battery is not in dare it?

Ha, a very short discussion and I like it. I think it means that we should just do everything in a normal way. Or should I say: never get overboard. Of course you can still be angry when you know that you are right but you just to do it in your normal way, not to cause damage on others feeling or make you want to retaliate. What do I know anyway when I am famous with my own temper...

hi dpk! This is a good question. I used to have a very bad temper which I had a very hard time controlling. It wasn't completely my fault since it had to do somewhat with a "chemical imbalance" in my brain. I am now better and find it easier to "think before I scream"!lol But, there are still times when I do get angry if I am pushed a bit too hard. But, most of the time I try to take some time to confront an issue so I can really think things out before I speak.

I don’t think there is anything wrong in displaying anger whenever we need to as long as it is done appropriately especially in regards to to others around us. As I have grown I have learnt to control my temper and think things through more but we are all only human and it is unrealistic to expect that nothing is ever going to challenge our temper. I think if anger is expressed in a mature and appropriate way it is the ‘human’ thing to do.

I think you will find that anger is an irrational response to something. You are locked into one way of thinking and are then unable to think straight, you lose the ability to think rationally. It leads to a no win situation because when you get angry you are effectively saying that you do not care how another person feels and they pick up on this and retaliate back. It is a downward spiral then with no way to break this spiral unless one of you walks away. That is why you should never or at least try to never to get angry. Always try to see the other persons point of view if you can. So the next question to ask is why do we get angry in the first place? Well I think it is because we believe that we think that someone does not appreciate how we may feel about something or they have another belief which conflicts with ours. There is no way to get the other person to see from our point of view. It is always helpful after to analyse why we got angry in the first place. I think you will find some surprising answers. Anyway, the reason not to get angry or panic is because once you do it means you are no longer in control of the situation and events generally take on a course that we did not want in the first place. Possibly something we feared in the first place. Look back in your life and see the times you were angry and what the outcome of that anger was.

Hello Deepak. Well, whether i can afford to loose my temper or not, i'll rather loose it than keep it under control. Old age and the heart you know. I'm always right so i have the right too loose it then.

I believe this saying is very very true. I am someone who loses my temper very easily. On many occasions, i tell myself that I should not lose my temper and I should control it. However, most of the time, i just suddenly break out and scream. Even till now, i try my best not to throw my temper. I believe when dealing with events or things that anger us, we should deal with them patiently. In the heat, we might just make mistakes and hurt people we don't mean to. WHen we are angry, we'll do many things that we don't mean it that way. Furthermore, once we lose our temper, we become the biggest loser. I know it's easy to say and difficult to do. I am still learning.

Patient is a virtue. But sometimes our patience is tested by some inevitable circumstances or provoked beyond our limit that's why we explode. I guess it is not wrong to lose your temper, as long as when you do, you see to it that it should only be between you and the other party.

Hmmm nice topic for discussion. I think the old saying is just trying to teach us to keep it cool regardless of the situation thereby allowing positive vibes in a seemingly negative incident and surrounding. I believe this saying is trying to teach us how to handle things in a more democratic and peaceful way. Moreover, patience is a very important virtue in dealing with apparent stressful situations and predicaments.

My understanding on this saying is that think about it seriously if you can't ucdertake the consequences about lose your temper. which means after lose your temper, the consequences is very serious such as the man who you are violence to will be angry for you and not harmony with you anymore. so, even if you are right, please through an tender way to put out your opinion try to convice the other people.

No. It does not mean that we cannot lose our tempers. It means that if it gets out of control, then we cannot afford the consequences of it.

hi dpk well that old saying to me sort of sucks. humans make errors and humans have emotions and sometimes they do lose their temper. okay we need to be patient but still we have a right to be upset if someone has done us wrong. Its all in how we handle our temper and the situation that will bring us out righting a wrong and getting problems solved. but I will still sizzle inside even if I am even tempered with an idiot in the bank that rang up 10 dollard for a one hundred dollar bill and I had to go to headquarters via phone long distance to fill out a form and wait 30 days for the bank to acknowledge they had a moron working there that could not type 100 dollars instead of 10 and finally my bank acknowledged the ninety dollar deficit and put back ninety dollare in to my accoungt.

I think it means unless you rob the banks and stock all that money, you cant afford to throw tantrums like Hitler, or even as a baby..am I right? I think I will get the best response for this one.

Temper is something difficult to control. we csn not get it back once we lose it. Sacriices can come at a high price so we need to tak caution when our temper gets away from us. How we come to terms with losing our tempers and the anger and emotion we feel determines the kind of people we become.

This saying is very wise and it gives us a great piece of advice not to lose our temper in any circumstance,but it's easier said than done;sometimes life seems to test our endurance to harsh situations,and even the most peaceful people on Earth can lose their temper in some situations.It's very difficult to calm down when you're angry,you can't change your mood in an instant,it takes time to do it.I wish that someone invented a magical pill that would calm us down immediately as we take it,I think it would be a great invention and it would certainly allow us to reduce the stress in our lives and live longer.

It is sometimes hard to control your anger. Tough one. You should try your best to though. If your mad you can always just try to calm down if possible.