why do good people sometimes becomes bad?
By oninomar
@oninomar (505)
Philippines
May 12, 2011 10:35am CST
Sometimes in our life we experienced to be very good with other, but sometimes we becomes bad to other? Have you doing that? Or will you admit to your self that you become bad at some point of your life? How you deal with that things? Sometimes it is part of our life and part of being a human, to feel hatred, angry, jealous, but the most important is we can able to control it and change it..
People becomes bad because of many experiences they have in their pass.. maybe they are also a victim of some bad guys and that push them to becomes bad. They sometimes to it to protect their own self from other. They don't trust anyone else, but their self alone..
I will admit to my self that it comes it my life that I become so bad with others. Sometimes I could not help my self when I get angry with someone, sometimes I am very hot tempered... Does it comes to a point that you are so angry with other people that you can't recognized him/her as a friend?
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11 responses
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
12 May 11
I agree with you that experience is a major factor why people are good or bad. Sometimes, people learn too much and rely too much from their life experiences. It goes to say that sometimes experience is one factor that shape a human life. Since experience encompasses memories, people, emotions and a person's reactions to many things in his life, it is safe to say that people trust their experience and their instinct more than they trust themselves or other people. It's like the old adage, experience is a harsh but reliable teacher.
In your case, I think it is good that you recognize your faults and how it connects to your emotions. As a response to your questions, I haven't experiencing a situation like you describe and perhaps, I don't want to. I'm a person who like to think the situation first before I got flared up but situation do get out of hand and sometimes I do hurt the persons involved. I try to rationalize afterwards and luckily, it works for me.
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
13 May 11
hi thanks for your response.. Yes it is true that an experiences of people mold his personalities in the future.. With people experience many good things in life, he will be good through.out his life.. But sometimes people change because of the people around them, the peer is one factor, some people influence other people to become bad.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
14 May 11
Thank you for pointing out the peer factor. I just I went all out on the experience part that I didn't notice that peers also are influential on terms of experiences. I guess peer and experience go hand in hand in making new experiences. But choosing peers, of course, is dependent on an individual's assessment (or fate, if we can use the term loosely) of the other person and perhaps, we may go astray from that particular assessment as time goes on.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
13 May 11
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
12 May 11
I have to admit to you, sometimes too, I was so angry and I lost myself. I was confused with my anger internally, and I just thought about revenge, and revenge on other people who had done bad to me. For me, I tried to control myself, but I felt that they should learn their lesson in life. That is what they should deserve.
@carsocmaguinsay (417)
• Philippines
13 May 11
i think what matters is that how we respond to the events around us. And everything is a matter of choice. If people wanted to project themselves as "bad", then they would do some nasty things which they think is cool. If one person wanted to project himself as a good person in the society, then he would do everything to be pleasant to everyone living around him... that's it. it's all about the choices we make. some who had experienced really bad mistreatment from other people, would resort into some form of revenge and that is being bad... well, it's still his choice. as a conclusion, its about choices and what you believe or choose to believe...
@wolfwise (100)
• Philippines
13 May 11
As Darth Vader always say "come to the dark side". It's actually how we react to certain stress determines our emotional growth. Our coping mechanisms also plays a great role in how we deal with the stress in our life. Although being angry or always being irritated may lead to you being a bad person or an impolite being.
@Idmega2000 (127)
• United States
12 May 11
People become bad because of their unfortunate experience, they become bad because they have been associated with bad people.
People also becom bad when there is nobody to gim him/her moral advise
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
12 May 11
Hi. onionomar. I ask myself this question all of the time about many people. Especially, about this woman that I have recently helped out. Actually I have been helping her for over nine months now. She overspent some money that I gave to her and I when I asked her about it, she got so upset and nasty with me. She then told me that my husband owed her some money and that is why she spent more out of mines. When I asked him all about it, he said that he did not owe her any money and that he never borrows money from her at all. Now he then tells me that a woman owes her 15.00 and my husband said that he told her that the lady would pay her back this money soon. I guess she grew too impatient to wait on this woman to pay her back, so now I become her target. She overspent $19.19 and she claims that she only owes me $4.00. I know that she does not have any intention of every paying me back either. I am not expecting her to. So, now, I no longer trust her, I can't help her out anymore. She is very rude and she does not have any respect for me. And on top of that, she hung up her cell phone on me. This woman wants me to believe that she is very sweet but I know that she is not. She is very nasty when someone upsets her. I talked to her with as much of respect that I could and she still reacted very harshly towards me. I am not going to worry about it because if she is mean, she will have to change her ways. It is obvious that she has a terrible problem with being honest with me. I can't have people in my life that can't tell me the truth even if it killed them to.![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
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@Idmega2000 (127)
• United States
12 May 11
People become bad because of their unfortunate experience, they become bad because they have been associated with bad people.
People also becom bad when there is nobody to gim him/her moral advise
@Idmega2000 (127)
• United States
12 May 11
People become bad because of their unfortunate experience, they become bad because they have been associated with bad people.
People also becom bad when there is nobody to gim him/her moral advise
@Idmega2000 (127)
• United States
12 May 11
People become bad because of their unfortunate experience, they become bad because they have been associated with bad people.
People also becom bad when there is nobody to gim him/her moral advise
@jaspal941 (107)
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12 May 11
hi oninormar!!
Well, this happen in my life very time but me not take any action on it and me just ignore it. Me too becomes bad sometime to my friends even they are my best friends. And me don't know how it happen. My friends say you are not good friend but actually me get out of control and me become bad. I think all the people becomes bad and they don't know how ? Me too never take any action on it and me just ignore it. But today after reading your discussion i though i have to take some action on it. And me tell you too when me got solution but i think this will only happen due to mentallty problem.
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