trust is a must
By tigeraunt
@tigeraunt (6326)
Philippines
May 12, 2011 10:56am CST
hi mylotters,
friends, trust is a must in any kind of relationship. suspicion and jealousy damages every thing. one need to trust his/her woman/man.
my hubby is on constant tour, i never suspected him nor does he give me a reason to suspect him. we try to be a very loving couple and we dont hide things with each other. we always communicate and show how much we care and we respect each other's decision. of course we also argue. we are not a perfect couple. but we always make it a point to make up before going to bed. that way, nobody goes to sleep with tears in his/her eyes.
how do you keep the flame of love in a relationship to stay?
ann
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16 responses
@unknownBride (15)
• Philippines
24 May 11
i'm not yet married but i really want to have a happy married life soon..
i'm so jealous.. i wish my guy would be like that too..respecting each others decision,had trust in you wherever you are what ever you do.. but instead we almost fight everyday..arguing about little issues that results to a big fight..deepening the would beneath..i want us to last our relationship.i want to have a happy ending with him..but how can i erase all the pain we've been through?
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
25 May 11
dear unknownbride,
jealousy kills love. either its you who will or your partner.
a good talk would probably help. and forgetting bad experience and learning from it. and being able to forgive.
ann
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello llbo,
it is very difficult to move on if you are not trusting. when suspicion is always around, everything feels hell and love just flies away.
thank you for your response.
ann
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
13 May 11
My friend trust plays an important role in the happy family, like your hubby even mine is on tour and even I am working lady but he never asked me when I speak or go for picnic with my staff and even I have not asked him what he does when he is on tour since we both have the faith on each other.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hi sriroshan,
i think it is ok for a husband or a wife to ask. all that is needed is to answer truthfully so that faith in each other is not lost.
thank you for your response and have a happy weekend.
ann
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello inertia,
most people say that they are in love but showing to them that they trust each other sometimes is difficult especially if one is not self assured of how much he or she is loved. always say the magic words - i love you.
have a nice day.
ann
@annateresa (107)
• Philippines
13 May 11
as long as you didn't see anything unusual to his/her behavior, go for a harmonious relationship, Argue is a part of a married life, there is no such a perfect married life.
But if you see some "changes" in his behavior maybe you do your "assignment" by discreet investigating so that he will not offended.
Man is a man, temptation is sometimes unavoidable.
God Bless!!!
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
i was just talking to someone now about ratio of man and woman in our country. i told him i am not sure but i said 1:4 (one man for every 4 women). that means population has more women in our country than men.
so you advise is just in time for all those couples out there. work well for the good of the relationship and be alert and investigative when you are feeling something amiss.
have a nice day.
ann
@martinnshann (340)
• Bahrain
13 May 11
Hi there!
Trust is one of the factor that helps a relationship to be strong and successful. We should trust our partner because when we tend to suspect or doubt the things that our partner would do it will always end up arguing or fighting. Both of you are mature enough to understand the situation, he/she should be consistent in everything when he/she is far to avoid suspicions.
--------------martinnshann
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello martinnshann,
there is nothing thats going to be profitted from being suspicious all the time.its going to be hell in the house with couples always arguing all the time over something without basis.
its not healthy in a relationship.
thank you so much for your response.
have a nice day.
ann
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hi pat,
feelings of anger will not help you sleep. right?
and each of the couples should always be trusted because once it is lost.. puff!! everything goes with it.
ann
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
12 May 11
hi ann,
congratulations,that you and your husband are perfect couple,there must be no secrets in between the couple,but i maintain some secret and i do not reveal to her,she may not understand,and i maintain some secret thing with others also that is with friends,but i maintain closeness with all of them,sorry my mentality is like that,have a nice day
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello yugasini,
i am one of the lucky ones. thank you. but we know there is no perfect relationship even if there is a perfect couple.
i guess it is okay to have a secret unless it will not harm the relationship in the future when it is revealed. but still, why make it a secret if you trust your partner?
ann
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
13 May 11
Sweety
I know your hubby so well, he is a perfect gentleman, during my stay in your country he took me to several places, we ate together the dish you cooked, you are a perfect couple, 'made for each other' by the almightly probably
Yes dear, trust is a must for couples to remain happy and live happily, suspicion has no place in a home sweet home..
Minor arguments brings you closer to your partner, they are for a moment, wish you long and happy married life dear Anny
Thanks for sharing
Cheers, have a wonderful day.
Professor ‘^Bhuwan^’. .
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
dear professor,
thank you always for your kind words for my husband. you two have something very much in common and that is being so thoughtful and caring.
i have just told kal how lucky we two are.
have a very nice weekend. God bless.
ann
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
12 May 11
Hi tigeraunt,
You are right, trust is a must in any kind of relationship and we should trust our partner because things like jealousy will damage everything. When we believe our partner lover us, we need to trust that he will love us and not treat us unfairly.
i think it is important to not hide things from each other and be truthful. I am guilt of this count because there are some things which i hide from my boyfriend and i need to learn to get out of this habit.
Yes, i try to make it a point to make up before sleeping, but it's sometime difficult to achieve when we are really tired or there is work or school the next day. I like how you say "nobody goes to bed with tear in his/her eyes?" i should really remember this
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello dream,
it gets very difficult to sleep with things still hanging in your mind from a recent argument. so it is best to kiss and make up before you sleep. that way all things are set in their proper prospective.
thank you for your wonderful response.
ann
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Yeah, it's a must in a relationship. It's important because it's the only thing that keeps you going on in a relationship. Specially with me, it's a long distance relationship. So it's really really a MUST to have TRUST.
Arguments are just spices of the relationship. It's an integral part of a relationship. And it could make the relationship if it's dealt with in a positive approach. :)
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello chuyins,
and when things are not doing well for a couple or a pair.. give time and space. i think this is the first best approach to a problem.
ann
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
12 May 11
Trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship that works. When entering a relationship (regardless of relationship) offer something: your time, attention, energy (no matter which one) ... give! In a loving relationship between two partners (and kind of love can be), you can not think rationally. When comes the reason, there is no pure love. So, nobody should feel guilty. And if we love and trust, and if not, all suffer. Better to eat, and live by, and with bitter memories. Love comes anyway, when there comes a time in life, and if you want and if not ... a gain confidence over time, no you can not trust your life, you fail, there are fears that is fear. The "mind" we do not play .. I believe that any relationship you develop with each other, regardless of the nature of the relationship (affair, collegial, friendly, etc..) starts from a "common home" .... in other words give him your other credit ...
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello didi,
this is very well said. thank you so much for sharing.
have a very nice weekend.
ann
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Hi tigeraunt, Your hobby really lucky to have you in his life..Agree on that Trust is very important in every relationship, If a relationship will lose a trust, they will not work for good.. A couple without trust with each other is not an effective one.. It will come to their life that they will separate with each other..
Sometimes people lack trust with someone because of the many things happened with them.. some are just a product of their past mistakes that can't be covered up by time.. Partners must have trust with each other to have an effective relationship.. Trust can be build up in a relationship through communications between them, this can strengthen the trust in their relationship..
I am happy for you and to your hobby, you really love each other. Hope that God will guide your hobby in all his way..
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello oni,
guess i am one of the lucky ones.
people who get jealous, can you say that they are trustful of their pair?
ann they say they get jealous because they love their partner dearly. what can you say to that?
ann
@menace730 (506)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Hi tigeraunt...Ya know there are times when I lay in bed angry with my wife or she is angry with me (usually over something sooo stupid). What great advice to never go to bed angry...make up first. Thanks
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello menace,
sometimes it is best to swallow our pride and accept things as they are.
and making peace before sleeping .. it feels less heavy in the heart.
have a nice weekend.
ann
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
12 May 11
If you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't havr a lot to build that relationship on. Trust is something that we count on when we have a relationship with someoneone. without its presence a relationship can be doomed from the start.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hi sender,
it is very true. but i wonder how couples are always showing jealousy are getting along. i know of a couple and they are still together for nearly 10 years. i guess they fight every day due to it.. but they are still together.
ann
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
12 May 11
It most certainly has to be a must. Somehow I don't see a lasting relationship without it. So although we can all disagree from time to time in a relationship communication and understanding is the essential for the relationship to function.
Can only do this with trust within one another.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hi hardworkinggurl,
how are you today? thank you for sharing your opinion. have a great day.
ann