dealing with emotional pain

no, it's not! it's so hard to have a burden inside..somehow, you'll need an output.. always remember, "no man is an island!" mylot is one of the best ways to bring out your problems..if you can't show your close friends that you are weak, let us(your mylot friends) be your shoulder to cry on! ;D we're always here to listen & give some advice..

No I do not think it is healthy. The best thing too do with anything like that is to talk it through with a friend. It is only by bringing it out into the open that you realise what it is that is causing the pain and also gain a different perspective on it. If it is to delicate to tell a friend then a councelor or someone who does not know you would help. If you do not want to tell anyone about it then write it out on paper with a pen...write everything down. Let it flow out onto the page. Then say to yourself either out loud or quietly to yourself this is no longer part of my life and burn the piece of paper. Hopefully this will help you get over some of the pain. Realise it is the future that counts. The past you cannot change but you can always make happier choices for the future. Another possibility is to use a relaxation technique like four fold breathing. You inhale for a count of ten, hold your breath for a count of ten, exhale for a count of ten amd repeat the process a few times. Try and imagine all the muscles of your body relaxing. If you are not sure tense the muscles in your feet for a few seconds and release them. Work up your legs through your body to your arms to your head. It is important to remember with this technique that you are trying to relax not over exert yourself. If you are uncomfortable then breathe normally and try a different count under ten. Something you feel comfortable with. The important thing is that you count mentally. You will find that things come to mind, say to yourself that you are relaxing now and that you will deal with that thought later. Then start again if you have lost count. You may drift off to sleep if you relax enough, that is ok. Oh remember to make time for this exercise or chose a time you know you will not be disturbed. You will find that your mind does become clearer and you feel more grounded. What this technique does is to lower mental activity

i am similar too in that i consider myself to have a strong personality. when i say strong, i mean i can handle my emotions better, am not prone to emotional outbursts and all. i don't show my weakness to others although it might be a different case inside. yes people say it's unhealthy to keep our feelings bottled up inside and somehow i tend to agree. no matter how strong we may be, it might build up until there's too much pressure on us and we might just 'pop' ;P for me, how i handle is i tend to do things i enjoy so that i can forget about it or not think about the problem, maybe by reading books that i enjoy or surfing the internet and doing things i enjoy online. some might think of this as running away but for me, if it helps me handle my emotions and makes me happy i'm fine with it.

Sometimes we must hide our real feeling about things for good.. Sometimes we do it for someone that would not be hurt also and it is called sacrifice.. Sometimes We hide our real feeling to not be seen by many people that we are weak, and they just see on you is you have a strong personality.. I hiding our emotions to some people not to be affected by it, is really hard to do, you will always pretend to what you do.. Sacrifice your own feelings is really hard to do and you must have a real intention in doing it.. We doing it for others not to worry about us.. Sometimes it is not a good practice because you are just making the things too complicated to you and to them.. Why don't you express all your feelings with them. they might help you in the pain you feel.. They can help, and you must really need their help.. When someone hiding their feeling as they are strong enough to face it alone. They sometimes think that when somebody know that they are weak, it will stick on their mind that he is weak.. We really need to have someone to express and tell what really we feel and to release some pain in us.. If you don't want someone in you surroundings why don't you seek for God advice.. He can really help you, He will never disappoint..

I personally view crying as a form of release. I think that it is okay to show weakness sometimes, it is just your way of showing to the world that you are but only human and is capable of getting hurt. Most of the time when I am lonely, I manifest my loneliness by being aloof. I sometimes opt to be alone in my room.. in order to think, re-evaluate and assess everything. I believed that though, it is commendable not to show sadness..it is also unhealthy. I think that sometimes we need to manifest whatever we really feel..not plaster a fake smile and pretend that we are alright when in fact we are deeply wounded and hurt inside. For me, it is not healthy to handle emotional pain by pretending.

I do not believe it is healthy to handle emotional pain in this way. Although, we all do handle things differently. I am a very open person and have no problem expressing myself. But I do not think I have always been this way. One way to kind of get your feelings out without really talking to a person about it would be to start a diary or a journal. It helps you to vent and put things into words. Sometimes you can even work through your own problems this way. I am not a professional, but I do believe journalling to be helpful for those who either cannot or do not want to discuss their emotions with other people. just as you would be there for someone who needed to talk, I'm sure there are those that wouldbe there for yo uas well. It's not really a burden when it's someone you care about. While they may worry a little, they may actually worry a little less becuase you opened up and they know what's really going on as opposed to guessing. Guessing is always way worse than an actual situation. I also think that it actually makes us stronger to be able to discuss our feelings and emotions. It's almost like a realization that you have come to and can accept.

Alot of times people do not know the pain the next person is experiencing. It is not good to bottle your emotions because one day you will explode. Do you have anyone you can talk to about your troubles? Someone who you trust is always good so they will give you advice. You will feel much better if you do!

i think it is not healthy. hey, do not be so gracious thinking about others not worrying. i dont think you are achieving a goal with it. you have to help yourself first to be able to help others. also, some illnesses are borne out of emotional pain, and grudges. i hope all will be well with you.

yes, I think it is the best way to demonstrate to the people around you that you are a strong person and always unpretentious. Instilled confidence in yourself will be a suggestion for ourselves, and thus will emit positive aura for others

I am a lending shoulder type but I too look for a shoulder when the need arises. One needs to have someone with whom one can share knowing that person will not blurt out what is told. You need one too. Take my shoulder!

optimism is good and that is what you are doing now. different people with different combinations of temperaments has different ways of dealing emotional pain or stress. being an optimist generally helps recovering from such emotional stress. However, i think that this optimism is also like a rubber that it can only stretch up to some point, at there are also times that optimist people can loose their optimism under such extreme emotional or environmental stress. As a conclusion, optimism can help handle pain but the main factor that helps the person to recover from pain is MAKING THE CHOICE NOT TO BE IN PAIN! right?

I use to do that. Put a smile on my face and pretend it made everythin okay. I personally found that in the long run it's not the healthiest or best way to deal with emotions. But I also have to say that I can't tell you what's best for you just what I've heard, seen, or experienced myself. I find that even though you think people don't see that you're hurting those who truly know you see it more then you think. They see it and they sometimes keep there mouth shut. Don't you think eventually you'll explode in angry or other feelings from holding it and not getting some other way out? Don't you think talking about it could help figure a way to actually have a reason to keep that smile?

You know we have similar personality. I am also a strong person even my boyfriend told me that. But for me I can't say if its unhealthy or not. I know you have your own reasons why you are not telling people about what you feel inside..

I would say it's not healthy in the sense that you're just adding stress and depression to yourself which will make you feel bad about the world. Just do whatever you want.. I hope this helps you. Thanks

The plus is, that if you tell yourself to smile and be happy, it will at least somewhat become true. But the downside is that if there is something really seriously wrong, you should share it with somebody who can help you. You don't have to share with everybody, but you should have at least one person that you can trust and confide in.

No it's not healthy. you should try to share it with some, don't hide it in you own because someday it will only give you too much pain. Try to shre it with people whom you really trust.

For me, that's not healthy. Having to bear the emotional pain inside you for a long time could give headache, insomnia or even a heart attack. It helps that you would be able to let it out inside of you, by telling it to your husband/wife , parents , siblings or to a close friend. You will find relief just telling them about it. They could even offer you help on how to go about it. The thought that you are not alone in your problem will help a lot.

Hi there! We all experience being hurt, we tend to keep it but sometimes we let it out. Keeping it only to yourself is sometimes good, but you should sometimes express it out for you to be at peace or free. others aroud you esp your friends or your family would help you or comfort you from the pain you felt.

You have a good reason why you don't want to show your pain so that others won't worry but it's not also good to always think about others while your trying to cope with what you are feeling. Suppressing the emotions won't help because time will come that all that negative feelings would eventually consume you. Time won't heal the wounds but you'll get use to it and then you become much more stronger. Find an outlet to channel that emotional pain and deal with it one at a time. Think of it this way, "because once that you get hurt, then you can love".