Would you do what Marie did ?
By CoffeeAnyone
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
Canada
May 13, 2011 3:37am CST
Marie Osmond remarries her first x husband 26 years after they divorced! Would you consider getting back together with your x husband? If not, why not? I know for me my first husband does not have any of the character traits I would be looking for in a man now.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
14 May 11
If the reason that separated the two has been sorted out then there is no harm in their rejoining. I am not used to this pattern. But time can change people. Time can heal feelings. Time may unite people. This is my view and I think some of you may not agree with this.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
14 May 11
For sure no harm in getting back together. Especially if there were no real big issures to conquer and forgive! So I take it that you would remarry your x if you had a x. Are there any reasons that would cause you to not want to marry your x?
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
14 May 11
Me personally I wouldn't remarry my ex-hubby. I never go back to any relationship that has ended. I figure if it didn't work the 1st time around it isn't going to work the 2nd time around since there's a reason why it didn't work the 1st time around. I have a friend who remarried her ex mainly for insurance purposes and they have a very strange marriage. It's like 1 minute they act married then the next they don't. It's like they have this open kind of marriage on & off again.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
14 May 11
Your friends marriage sounds sad to me. What kind of insurance would bring them back together?
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
15 May 11
It seems to work for them even though they have a different and strange relationship. She has heart problems and was in the need of health insurance.The job we do don't offer health insurance.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
14 May 11
Yes for many of us once is to much to be married to certain people. I wonder why we marry these type of people in the first place? Maybe because they deceove us into thinking they are someone they are not.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 May 11
I was surprised to hear this on the telly the other day and was a bit shocked, but personally I cannot compare my past to hers and or someone else's past. I personally would not consider remarrying my ex-husband as it was not a good ending.
As for Marie, her circumstances may very well be a bit different. She has gone through quite a bit with the loss of her son, and maybe during her grieving her ex-husband and her somehow bonded in a way that perhaps to me and others is not understandable. I do not know why they split to begin with but they have somehow reconciled where they feel happy and in love to remarry again. She could have had a lot more options but looks like she still loves her husband. I did see where her brother Donny, was very happy for their union.
I do wish her all the best and hope that the second time around for her is a blessing to her.
We hear so much about celebrities divorcing all the time, so maybe just maybe this might work out well. Only time will tell for them.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
I have noticed reading all the comments that people think the question is about Marie. I guess I dont' express myself very well. You did answer the question though. You said.... I personally would not consider remarrying my ex-husband as it was not a good ending. My question is would you remarry your x, why or why not? I am happy for Marie too. It does feel right; I hope it is!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 May 11
No you did express it right and or that reason I stated no and because it did not end well. Adding the rest about Marie at least for me was to sort of give it a why it is okay for some and why not so good for others. In my case definitely not. But again not such a good man and the life he gave me I would not wish upon anyone.
Sometimes some members read a snippet and do not fully answer the discussion. So carry on you are doing fine.
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Marie Osmond may have felt incredibly in love with her husband for the second time around, that's why she agreed to remarry him. Personally, I don't have anything against remarrying an ex-husband. As they say, "love is sweeter, the second time around".
It might be that they need to re evaluate their selves and need to separate their lives for a considerable amount of time. But destiny brought them back together after 26 long years and so they reunited. It is actually romantic..just thinking about it. Don't you think so?
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
I totally think it is romantic. Absolutely wonderful! But my question really is could you see yourself marring your first love? What would stop you from marring your first love. For example. I married a jerk the first time so no I could never go back to someone like that.
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@kushwaha_prachi (13)
• India
14 May 11
It would be nice to give it shot again in my view.Before yout mariage your would-be first husband was the one that you looked up to,that u admired and wanted to be with.The time changes everything,the situations,people around and you get to experience what really that person is.Its like they can only show the real side to only the person he is living with.They can react,overreact,be happy,be depressed all in front of you.So when its time to again get back to the person, you know how he is,how he will react to a situation and you know then u can handle it know.Its like coming all the way round again to the same point,like coming back to your self.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
14 May 11
So are you saying you would marry your x if this were the case for you?
@kushwaha_prachi (13)
• India
15 May 11
That "X" is the same "PERSON" u once wanted to be together with.Its not only that u are marying your x,he too is getting married to you.And if after such a long time if the differences can be soughted out,if there is more maturity in each one of u and now if u think that the person that u once parted with is somewhat different,why not give it a shot.Instead marrying a new guy and giving most of the time in understanding him and adjusting with his behaviour all over again,its more good to be with the one u know.Besides if your x is also willing to put in efforts just for u what harm can it be. :)
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
The question really is; could you see yourself remarring your x husband or give reasons you would consider marring an x or reasons you would not marry on x. This question is hypothetical for some.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
Change is the key word in your response. Some people don't have to change much. Also some people really do split up for reasons other then nasty behavior. So they probably could get back together without to much hesitation. I would say yes to if that were the case.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
So I take it you would remarry your first love if indeed the circumstances were right.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
I guess it is sweeter because it is wiser. It would be nice if we could pick Mr Right the first time around!
@abitosunshine (765)
• United States
13 May 11
That thought has never (and I imagine, will never) cross my mind! Dreadful thought!
:-)
This is not to say that I don't believe two people can marry, divorce, and years later be reunited. Each couple's situation is unique.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
Yes for some of us it is a dreadful thought. Though it is always neat to see when couple's do find their way back to each other especially when the love never really did die! Thanks for responding.
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
13 May 11
Why not?! There must be a lot own negotiation before decide it. But always there's a reason, so it's seem possible for me
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
I don't know about the negotiation part of it. I just think the person must be worth me going back to. I think of someone of good character who is respectful and considerate. Not someone who likes to control.
@jackgone (50)
• China
14 May 11
In my eyes,If I get married,that means I love my fellow forever.I can put up with all her fault and so do her.There is no point in divorcing.It is not a good choice to divorce.Not only my family get hurt,but hers too.Imaging I divorce,I will never consider getting back together.Since we have divorced,we must be can not get well with each other or we are completely opposite in character traits even in life.thanks.Hope you to find a man soon.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
14 May 11
Oh no, I am so happily married now. Just thinking of Marie Osmond marrying her first husband again I thought about it. I know I would never marry my first but maybe others would. So I was just wondering what would be the reason someone would marry there x and what would be the reasons they wouldn't marry their x. Thank you for your response. I agree marriage should be forever but you never know the chocies your partner will make. If a partner becomes abusesive and things can not be corrected that I think the other partner should leave. Just my opinion.
@cyprean (2)
• Philippines
14 May 11
As long as you did not hurt anybody, then go for that. 26 years is too long, in a span of that years did marie loved someone else? the question here is that, if i will remarry my first husband will i or we be hurting someone? Relationships are precious.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
14 May 11
Yes your right relationships are precious. To bad it takes some people a life time to figure that out.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 May 11
I will never marry but I can understand both sides. People grow and what you needed or wanted can change in time. So An ex wouldn't be a good fit. But I also can see two people Loving one another but needing to grow up and be a better partner. And by luck , the new you meets the new him and it works.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
14 May 11
I really was surprised that Marie Osmand remarried her first husband! I hope she is happy! Maybe they both have changed and this time it will work!
I would never would get back with an ex! I would not trust that person! Especially If I couldn't the first time around! That is just me!
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
15 May 11
I have changed alot just over the last 4 months. I am going for a second divorce and I would not consider either one of them for a candidate for remarriage. They definitively would not fit into my new lifestyle which is much better than the last 20 years.
@hushi22 (4928)
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13 May 11
hmmmm...i dont wanna think about it. hehehehe
nah,....i am still engaged at the moment so imagining this situation is hard.
but, anyway, i have met quite many people of the same situation and i think it is rare to see an ex married partners to get together again. but i think if i am in the situation i would end up with a good friendship with my ex partner.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
Yes I can see you wouldn't want to think about a situation like that. We all want to be married to our one true love. I think you are right it is rare to see a couple remarry. I wonder if they wished they had never seperated in the first place?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Why not? It means to say you two are really meant for each other.
Besides, having been your husband once, then it would be easy to adjust to him again, because you once lived with him already. And maybe this time around it will be for keeps.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
13 May 11
Thanks for your response. I guess it really depends on what type of husband we had as a first husband. For instance if he was a tyrant then I wouldn't want to go back to a man like that.