Which is most important, being a good mother or a career woman?
By jayen28
@jayen28 (84)
May 13, 2011 11:43am CST
As a mother a fulfillment to be a tag as good mother as well as good housewife but I confess that sometime it comes in my mind what if I become a career women, do I still be a good mother to my family? because I focus my whole life to take good care to my family and I sometime I forget myself but then I'm happy and I fell complete.
As a woman or a mother what do you think? What things make you fell complete and contented in your life?
13 responses
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
22 May 11
They say a woman is fulfilled only when the mother becomes ...
I do not know what the other ladies, but to me this' sayings''came true ...
Nothing can equal the satisfaction and pride of a mother's life if it finds that the beings who gave them life, holy place "where you go ... happiness becomes impossible and unexpected dimensions to explain ... but it helps us to take life chest with more strength and confidence that she has meaning and value, it has beauty and reason, is useless!
I am proud that I write these words ... My child is a very, special!
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
14 May 11
First, I'm not yet a mother. But I'm a daughter of a career woman. I don't mean to discredit any career woman because I have an aspiration to be one. But I kinda felt the repercussion of being a daughter of a career woman.
My mother was a career woman even before I was born and That continued until today. I can say that she was pretty much absent when in my childhood but we got somehow connected when I was in college. I was brought up by my aunt and grandmother, a reason why my mother and I had difficulty in communicating.
As a fellow female, I don't blame her for the path she has chosen but certainly you can't blame me for wishing she was more at home and taking care of us rather than our relatives doing that particular job.
I know that my mother brought good things to the people who know, interact and work with her. People of my mother's circle often tell me how wonderful person she is. I don't disagree with them but I also don't often share my opinion of her being my mother. People would probable think I'm a whiny brat who can't count her blessings.
I don't know about you and I certainly know nothing of being a mother. But that situation didn't make me blind in understanding your feelings. Technically, it's your decision but do also bear in mind that your decision will affect others. Mostly yourself, yes but your family as well. Good luck.
@jayen28 (84)
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19 May 11
Thanks for your understanding how I wish that you will understand your mother and you will understand her fully as soon if you will have your own child but always remember that every mother always think for the best to their child. How I wish that you have a great time to your mother if you have a chance try to ask her and reach out to her to make it up the loss moment passed by between two of you.
God Bless and thanks
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
14 May 11
i have a boss who i think prioritized her career than her being a mom back in the days. she had her chance and then she actually blew it up with her son.. he grew up and was not close with his mom.
i saw that and well i thought and said to myself i won't let it happen to me if i am given a chance to become a mother and i will make sure my kids will grow to love me, and be close with me and not let any day pass without me letting them feel that i am with them all the time and that they are my priorities.
@dodo19 (47268)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 May 11
I think that every woman is different. We'll view things differently. I wouldn't mind being a good mother as well as being a career woman. I think that it's possible for women to have both nowadays, if that's what they want. I'm not saying that it would be easy, but I do think that it's possible.
@naija4real (1291)
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14 May 11
I am of the opinion that being a good mother to the family ( children,husband,and extended family members ) is better than being a career woman.
There are so many career woman whom have abandoned their homes to domestic helps or home assistant, and their home are currently in ruins.
This is because the househelp will not be committed to the wellbeing of the family the way the mother will do.
In Nigeria, where I live, there are cases being reported in the media or newspapers of domestic help who took over the control of the house affairs and drive away the mother from her own home. Female domestic help are sometimes pregnated by the husband who employed them. Some female domestic help sometimes fall in love with their employer and this helps to ruin the happiness of a happy family.
Take the case of Hilary Clinton, the present United state secretary of state. Her home was ruined by white house intern "Monica Lewinsky" because she was spend her private time studying for future political careers. Her husband ended up having an affair with this young intern because of the absence of Hilary from her home.
In Nigeria, I know of many female politician whose home are now in ruins due to the fact that they left their home to domestic househelp to enable them pursue a career outside their family.
@joyjhycko31 (26)
• Philippines
14 May 11
both, for a fulfilled woman you can be contended if you raise your child in its proper path,, giving them not just their wants but also their needs is the most fulfilling job a mother could be...
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
13 May 11
Well, I believe that you can be a career woman and still be a good mother. However, I feel that what is most important in a woman's life is to be a wonderful mother and wife. Once you have given birth to a child, there is nothing any more important than being a mother to him or her.
I feel that I have many responsibilities to my husband, my work, but most of all my duties in my home are the most important and my children are part of that.
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
13 May 11
Being a mother is more important (I didnt prefix good because mothers are always good
).If feeding your baby needs you work then its a different case.Otherwise,a male member of the family can earn and the mother can take care of the child.No one can replace a mother.
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@shynie (556)
• Philippines
13 May 11
It will make me feel complete and contented if I know I have taken care of my family. For me being a mother is a very rewarding task and I wouldn't trade it to being a career woman. Of course I would have to work for my kids as well but I will make sure I always have time for them.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
14 May 11
Well, I think that for a woman the most important thing is to do what makes her happy. As women we're not automatically baby factories or housewives material, we have the right to find a job doing what whe like, to enjoy going on a trip, or going to parties, etc. if we want to. If a woman chooses that what will make her happy is motherhood, then her should do what will make her feel full.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
13 May 11
No doubt, Being a good mother gives us a fullfilment. Really I am lucky that I am a full time mother. But to be frank there is a small pain in my heart always that I have quite my job to be a mum.
@Rapuncille (597)
• Philippines
13 May 11
To me, my being a mom should always come first. I know that sometimes it could be so tiring and draining at the same time but the kids needs should always be the priority. We are bestowed by God of this huge but very satisfying responsibility. No amount of success and accolade in your career can surpass the love you will reap from your children. I guess a woman need not give up her career so long as she is reminded that being a mom is a much greater task that one should fulfill.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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