I don't know my best friend anymore! :/

Much water has flown under the bridge in those 5 years edss. That is a long time for people to lose interest in their old connections. You are asking for the moon - sorry to say that

Coincidence but something similar is happening to me as well. I have this friend and we were really close since a year ago but now something has made us drift apart. We were so close just a month ago and now things are so awkward when she's around. The atmosphere just gets so awkward. It's not like I'm avoiding her or anything, maybe somethings aren't just meant to be.

She may be going through something that you're not aware of. Perhaps a handwritten card where you tell her how much you miss her and the closeness of your friendship would help. Good luck!

hi edsss People do change a lot over each year but I know with my best friend we are superclose as are out two sons, but when one moves away this brings so many changes for your friend, Perhaps he or she has met someone and fallen in love.that could explain a lot asshe will be so enthralled and forget about even her best friends. sad but a person in love will ev en forget to eat at times. Keep in communication and tell here what you have told us. she might not realize she had been giving you the cold shoulder as people in love do forget everyone but the person she loves. give her a chance to explain and tell her you really do not want to lose her friendship.Ask her why is she evading you and not responding? If she really cares and comes to realize how much she has hurt you she will respond. good luck God bless. hugs from hatley.

There was already a gap edss. Been 2 years of no communication? That's just too much to cope up with. A lot of catching up should be done. And emails, texts and calls wouldn't much suffice the catching up. But hey, I admire you for caring so much about the friendship. You truly are a good friend of hers. I don't exactly have any idea what she's been up to or how busy she is, so I can't say whatever... Just keep reaching out, it may be that you wont be just like the old days anymore, but still, at least you've tried to catch up and build a bridge on the gap. You should meet half way. It always takes two to tango. Isn't it? God bless you and your relationships! Have a happy life. chuyins

thats why, i dont have a bestfriend..hahaha..i have true friends to confine all my problems.talk to her..don't worry, everything will be okay..;)

Hi. edsss17. That is very sad. This is one of the main reasons why I don't really have close female friends. It is because of issues as this. I have two close friends that I can talk greatly to. They are always helpful to me and they are kind. We don't talk as much, but we enjoy doing so when we have the chance to. I hardly hear from them. They never offer to take me out with them so that we can have a great time together. I know that they don't mind hanging out, we just never do so. I would like to ask them both to hang out with me, I am sure that they may accept my offer. I just wished that my friends would be more closer to me, rather than act as total strangers to me. It is sad that your friend no longer appreciates the value of the friendship that you two have shared together. I hope that she soon realizes this, because it would be a shame for her to miss out on being great friends with you.

Sometimes it happens, some friendship are best for comforts only.And when there is no real need for that kind of friend...one can see the real friend she had .We all undergo some changes, emotionally and our priorities changes, also our interests and preferences in life.That sometimes people have their own choices of what kind of friends they want to stay around. We just have to move on and just look around and maybe we will see who the real friends are in our life.Ones that stayed in good and and bad times.

Well.You must be care about her.If I were you,I would think about if I did some bad thing which let her uncomfortable.However,I kown you are a good girl.Be trying to contact her and find the reason.I hope the friendship between your freind and you go regain.

Hello bunso! Been a while since you posted another discussion eh or is it just me who missed it,yay! Hehe! You said you know her much bunso,right? So I guess,you also know the answer to your question,it is only you who can tell what's going on with your partner in crime,hehe! I know she misses you too,for sure! Maybe she's just having some ups and downs or should I say she's not in the mood to talk things out yet with you. Just give her some time,you'll see..your bestfriend will come back in her normal being,lol! We just sometimes experience some moods we can't even control and that's reality. What Vidh suggested is great,try talking to her other close friends about her,maybe it might help. See yah bunso! Take care always! Quite busy these days,can't go to triond,share me your articles on SU so I'll be able to view it,lol! I just have to be present everyday on SU because of too much shares,arggghhh!

Dear edss17, I understand how you feel and I can't blame you for feeling such way. You are an angel of friendship because you cherish your friend and eventhough you have been away for 5 years, yet when you get the chance, you did try to contact her though which I see is a good attempt. Maybe your friend isn't being understanding. She might be having some personal problems or in the cross roads of life. Don't get discouraged. You are doing well and she will understand it. Don't blame yourself,dear. :) Try not to "force" yourself to win back the friendship. She probably needed time off from something. It might not be you (maybe). Just give in some time. She will come to you someday. :)

Don't be so sad, maybe she is just busy doing some errands and don't have enough time to communicate. Give her the space she needed and in time you will see that she will be the one calling you. For sure, she misses you also.

Hello,I am sympathy to you.But you regarded her as a best friend.So you missed her very much.Now,you find that she is never the sister you met ever.She seems to be another girl you don not know very much.According to your description ,I can guess you really need her,you want to catch the friendship.first,I want to analysis the reason why she become strange.May be she grows up,become more mature.don't lively any more.Take me for example,when i was young I like speaking very much.whoever it is I would chat with him for a long time.In more laughing and action in the talk.But as I get mature,I choose the silence.another reason may be she is busy with working.For instance,I will ignore my friend when I was at work.So I give you some advice;don not care it too much.You can continue text her,email her and so on.Talking more about precious memories.I think she may be remember you are her best friend.Then you can get back the precious friendship.Thanks.If you don not mind I also can be your friend.

Beware. Time pushes an individual to forget the past especially if that person finds a replacement of you in her place of destination. Maybe there was something wrong between you and your best friend before you separated ways, but you just didn't notice it. Try to ask her what went wrong, and most of all, never give up. Maybe she has a reason for doing so. To surprise you that she didn't forget. She just tested you.

Hi edsss, when i saw your discussion, i recalled my friend, i faced the same situation, but life is a journey, we'll meet many, those are only memorable moments sometimes they bring a sweet smile on our face or bring us into tears or laugh unknowingly but still our friends won't come back, and infact its their problem to leave us or to forget us, why should we feel for them?....

HI, this distance thing is always a terrible thing... I don't know that your friends forget you or not..maybe she has some troubles now,,and it's shameful for her to tell you.... You'd better try to know much more about her,,anyway you two did't live together for such a long time..

Always remember that your best friend can be your worst enemy. She knows who you are and that involves all your weakness. The wisest thing to do when a friendship seems to fall out is to just phase yourself away. Don't force the friendship or it could just get bitter. The last thing you want is an arch-enemy who knows all the holes on your steel armor.

I’m sorry to hear that, my friend Eds. That was also happened to me. I guess such things very common nowadays. Sometimes it's hard to believe if such case doesn't happen to your life. Like me, we’re always promising before that whatever happened, wherever we’ll go, you will still be my closest friend ever. Sad to say it’s not true. She forgets me. Hmmm. Life‘s like that. Just remember that: If someone will leave, somebody who is better will come your way.