What should I think about him?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6438)
Vietnam
May 13, 2011 10:03pm CST
He lives near my room. And he's a close friend of my boyfriend. I and my boyfriend used to help him very much. He didn't have money, he asked us cooking meals for him. I agreed. He borrowed money us to go for working etc...
However, he and his friend broke a table in front of my door. I asked him why. But he didn't answer. He told me "How's much the table?". I was very angry with this. I don't regret the table, but I hate his attitude.
He still hasn't apologized me. His friend bought a new table and to put it in front my door without any explains. Maybe he thinks that a new table is enough for all things which they did.
What should I think about him?
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15 responses
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
Right. I don't care the cost of the table. But If he was a gentle man, he should be sorry me.
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 Aug 11
I disagree. You don't say WHY he & his friend broke the table. And he restored it. It's the past. Let the past stay passed.
@jackgone (50)
• China
14 May 11
hello,I can understand what you did.to me,i can't regret him also.a man who make errors without apology can not be a sincere friend.since he is not sincere to you,you still take him as a friend of you?I hate the people who broke my things just buy a new one without any explains.If someone do so,I will think that he is a guy who thinks the money can do everything.the money is beyond the friendship.however,i do not suppose so.You can wait for his explains.If he still do not have the action of explaining.you need not regard him as your friend.
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@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
Hi Jackgone, I'm still waiting for her explains but he's still quiet. He meet me everyday but He don't say anything. I feel up set because this. I hate to must see him daily.
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
14 May 11
Frankly, I don't think this will be a nice friend. He is just so rude and doesn't know how to appreciate others' kindness. He sounds like very lazy. Since you have helped him so much and even lent him money. But he still asks you to cook for him. It just doesn't make a sense. If I were you, I may ask my boyfriend to avoid him. Somewhat in the long term I think he will affect to the relationship between my boyfriend in me.
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@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
Maybe you're right. I don't want my boyfriend has a friend like him. I don't like he will be influenced by him.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
14 May 11
I would think that a moment of anger got the best of him, although still not an excuse. As humans we must control our anger because not doing so further allows us to harm even accidentally.
So maybe say I appreciate you replacing the table but perhaps you should apologize. Say I am not use to that type of behavior and wonder if it will happen again.
This way he will re-think and maybe apologize. The apologies perhaps is not so important but at least he will understand that his doing was not appropriate.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
You said that I should speak "sorry" to him? I don't think that I have any faults to do that.
I broke my table. Then, he said me that this was only a game! And he asked me how much for it? I can't accept this!
What do you do if there is a person breaking any things in your house without reasons, then saying that it's only a game and how much for them?
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 May 11
If you read my second paragraph it is imply that you should say that you meaning him. When I said "So maybe say I appreciate you replacing the table but perhaps you should apologize"
That is saying that you should say to him that although he replaced the table you, as if you yourself was speaking to him. So that you is meant toward him and yourself. I can see where you misunderstood my response.
I would not say you to apologize to him, that would not really make sense would it? 
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
Maybe it's only an accident. But they didn't have any explains to me. They bought a new table, then put it in front of my door without any appologize. I feel be ofened!
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
16 May 11
I see... I just thought that maybe he and his friend were doing something that they're ashamed to admit, when they broke the table. (I have no idea what that could be...). But my point is... maybe that's why he didn't offer an explanation. Maybe he's trying to avoid talking about the circumstances around breaking the table. =P
@jphontiveros (58)
• Philippines
14 May 11
You don'r have to think about him. His actions are enough proof of who really that man is. Always be careful because if he has that violent attitude he could easily hurt other people. You leave next door who knows what he might do to you.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
I'll do that. I'm really sorry for the happened things. But he passed my stand limitation.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
I heart that he was only joke. But everything went too far. But at least he should explain to me, right?
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
16 May 11
Hi. tkonlinevn. It was nice that his friend bought a new table. His friend paid for this table even though he took part into breaking it. I think that he owes you an apology for breaking it. I don't know why people may do you wrong and never have the audacity to apologize to you. It is like they are scared to be wrong for what they have done. If he has an attitude, he should change his ways too. You and your boyfriend have helped him out and he can at least be nice to you after all that you two have done for him. It seems like he is ungrateful and is not aware of all of the kindness that you and your boyfriend have shown to him.
Close friend or not!@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
I think he said "not", because he didn't say anything to me after what were happened.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
I hated that he spent money to excuse me. I need an appologize from him, not a table.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
14 May 11
I think you need to reconsider whether this person is your close friend or not. If you guys treat him as your close friend and have given him so much help, there is no reason for him to treat you guys like that.
If you think he is a friend that you want to continue befriending, I think you need to have a good talk with him.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
You're right. If I want him continuing my friend, I'll have a good talk. But now, I felt tired with him. So, I don't want to continue this friendship.
@rhizziel2301 (169)
• Philippines
14 May 11
Hmmm... did u asked him calmly or you asked him angrily? so maybe he said that to you bcos he have made a mistake to you or maybe he was offend when you asked him...
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
Angrily, of course. Because he asked me the money of the table. So, I become to be crazy with him. I think money is important with him than me and the friendship between us.
@visminda_824 (153)
• Philippines
14 May 11
Hi! It's better for you to tell him that you got offended. He owed you an apology and since he's the erring side, he should be man enough to admit he's mistaken. If he won't accept his mistake, then he's just showing his pride. On the other hand, maybe he's just taken that incident lightly and he's insensitive side towards others' feelings apparently showed.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 May 11
I try to think that he was not mean to do that. But I can't. I hoped that he'll have a talk to me to explain everything, but not, he's quite.
@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
16 May 11
Maybe he feels to comfortable with you and your boyfriend? Try talking to your boyfriend first about this, so that you could straighten things out first.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 May 11
hi tkonlinevn I would not call this man a friend but a user you were good to him and you and your boyfriend lent him money even cooked for him, and he busts a table in front of your door. Sound to me like you need some
new friends with values opposed to the jerk's. just my own take however.
