love in late life

People have different understanding and feelings of love.when love comes ,you cann't refuse it.

I will forgo the penny:-) I think the big problem here is that when you have lived with someone for a long time and they either divorce or die then there is a mountain to over come. Are you going to feel guilty finding another love? Do you think your time for such things have past you by? I believe that if you believe it is possible and that you do not think any of the above matter then you will find the love you wish. Or that you can overcome the above. At least you can overcome the above questions. Really the only person who can answer that is the person concerned. I am sure there are many who have found love, possibly a greater love because of their past experience. Another thought is that you will never forget your first love, nothing is going to ever take that away from you. And, it is possible to love someone totally different and in a totally different way.

The concept that love has no boundaries, specifically age is certainly a romantic notion but not a realistic one. I don't think of a person in their 50's, 60's or even 70's as elderly but there are new limits they have to deal with due to age. There are restrictions of movement and many live isolated lives if they are single. There youthful, good looks are gone, there bodies are beginning to deteriorate more rapidly and it's possible that if their life partner is deceased then they may be lacking in ordinary social skills having lost the one they communicated with most often. At this age a person is set in their ways and while they may be generous and loving, having someone else around who is in the same boat can be a bit much to ask at times. Personally, I'm not yet 6o but my chemistry has been gone for over 10 years. I have been flirted with on numerous occasions and where once I would have responded with enthusiasm, it's now just impossible for me to react - it's as if my romantic/sexy senses have shut down or been used up. I've given up waiting for my "true love" because even though I meet people sometimes, there is nothing there for me. It's just so sad to even think about really. I think that the chance of anyone finding real love and joy is very slim and not many people do find it. Certainly many find a comfort level with their partner that is quite tolerable but true love and happiness? I don't think so. Sharing a life with someone, having a relationship, is really hard work and I just don't think humans are up to the task. From another perspective, I think the differences between males and females are too many. Basically, men do not care about most things and women care too much and that leads to basic dissatisfaction for both parties.

I certainly hope this is possible. From my own stand point. Maybe I have been single too loang, maybe I am looking for the impossible, etc. I have never been in a serious relationship, but I would love to know how that feels. And I certainly hope that being single all my life will not ruin my chances for a relationship in the future with the right man. I had a great uncle who never married until he was in his 40's or later. So I guess it is possible.

i myself is involve in a relationship with a 40 something man and i love him the most. because he already grown mature with his relationship in the past have so many thing to learn. he treat me right and so mature than younger men. but when it comes to women in their 40's it depend on their situation some maintain a lovely figures and positive disposition in life. when they meet their current partner they are already ready emotionally and financially and their level of maturity and adjustment to each other is positively seen in their attitude in life. i am s happy for any couple over the age of 40 who find their love of their life at least they could be more stable and happy. i like to show more happy and positive result to those who find love whatever age it really does not matter as love transcends time even age.

Well I could vouch for that. I have found my soulmate and true love at 47 years old. I was married for 17 years and was with my ex for a total of 22 years. We were happy, or so I thought for a long time. She left after 17 years and never gave me an explanation. To this day I still do not know why she left. I went through my depression and I still feel like I have not gotten over it because of my kids. She took my kids with her. I do see them twice a month. But I ran into a girl that I knew 25 years ago and I guess that I was always searching for her in my mind. I finally hooked up with her and we are totally in love now. It is the most natural thing, unlike my marriage. So, yes, you can meet your love or soulmate late in life.

Why not surely they can and it is said the old people love is more matured since they have seen the ups and down in the life and they knows how to handle the things in life

Nice one... We certainly know love knows no boundaries. Love is one of the most wonderful thing we can experience and share as life goes on. Maturity plays an important role in our life, there are points is our life that we realize some of the things only when we are in later age of life. Finding love at a late age should be rewarding depending on situation and people involved. Though love is something we see each day, it is bounded by morality, culture, tradition and ethics. Finding love is rewarding for somebody who is lonely... that is why some people tend to find love at the late age of life, having been busy with commitments on work and business.. then there comes a quiet time of their life, where Love blooms and progresses. It is really great to find out that love still exists for elderly, even for a new one or a replacement for a lost love. Love makes everybody smile... but we should also remember, It should also be guided by the issues of morality and righteousness. Elderly should not fall in love in the case of 3X younger than their age... This is acceptable but of course not a very good sight to dealt with, especially for the moral crusaders and church.

Dear Anny There is no age barrier for love, rather it is more pleasant in latelife, one is more matured, more understanding in all respects. about having kids, one can go for adoption i think. thanks for this nice discussion, cheers kalyani

Well it doesn't matter what age or time is it. Love is always love. But I do think that late-life-love ends up to be more successful since as you have said they have a lot of painful and problematic experience so that problems cannot easily waiver them anymore. As to having biological children, some miracles happen, like my aunt who is 46 years old when she married but she was still able to give birth to a beautiful and healthy baby. There is also adoption. If you adopt a child and treat it as your own, then I think your longing for kids would be answered.

Love is life I think there is no age limit but dating once you are 60+ is not always easy but online dating is a great way to ease yourself back onto a scene you may not have visited for many years! Whilst you may think well, eHarmony would say that, becuase we are an online dating service, we do in fact have a number of successful couples from 60 upwards, our oldest succes story was 89, so take hope and get out there and give dating a try.