Net love?What do you think about it?
By RabbitCanFly
@RabbitCanFly (120)
China
May 14, 2011 4:32am CST
So I met this perfectly nice boy in a forum,and I'm kinda attracted to him.He's insightful,gentle and smart.I sense he might have the same feeling for me as well.
He's American,and I'm an Asian,and we are both still in university.You know,people are always talking about how unreal online love is.But I'm willing to try it.It's 21 century,not like some middle century where you can only find a suitable mate not far away from 20 miles around your house.We take advantage of new technologies and they can benefit our lives.
Now the question becomes,is it possible to maintain a bicostal online relationship?And how?we came from different cultures,my English is not that good,we are absolutly going to face a lot of difficulties.
So what do you think about net love?Will you try it if you have feelings for someone on the net?
17 responses
@balaji85in (459)
• India
14 May 11
There is no such net love, non net love. Its a love. Love is apart from the Religion, region, country, language, etc.,
Why you are trying to distinguish it.. If you feel that the guy whom you love is insightful, gentle and smart. Then go ahead, but don't tell that It's 21st century, & we have the great technologies and all.. I believe the true love, either can be that whether net love or non net love that doesn't matter. How can you say that online love is unreal one. Many love are ended in sorrow even its a non net love. So it is not depends upon the way of love. Its depends upon the person whom we love. Should be sincere in love until our last breath.
Yes sure i will try it if i have feelings for someone on the net. But before that i must tell everything about me and i should not hide anythings to her. Because i have some tragedies in my life which i do not want to share in the public. But i'll be truthful to the person whom i have feelings. But there is no one like that till now.
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
14 May 11
Yeah,you are right.I'm just a little weak inside.
Thanks for your comment.I think I know what I'm going to do now.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
15 May 11
Hi vidhyaprakash, Thanks so much for congrats, & for the nice wishes to get my beloved person in the near soon. Yeah i feel better and can able to live peacefully by sharing my thoughts to all you people. Thanks for referred me and shown me a heaven.
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
18 May 11
Yeah I only have spent 3 days on this site and I love it very much.XD
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
17 May 11
Hey, go for it, your English, the way you write, it is so good, love will careless about English, or Chinese or whatever, Love will find a way to overcome this. You know this is one of the most beautiful thing about love, it does not need anything accept your heart and soul to give in exchange for the same of someone whom is willing to do the same.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
19 May 11
Oh I am, I would say an open minded person who is not strict, but also a very cautious person. As person you have to know what you are doing and make choices that can make you happy. Every choice have just two consequences, good and bad. Just an advice.
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
18 May 11
Thanks,you make me feel much better.XD You seem like a very nice guy.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 May 11
you should try it^^ i can say that i tried it and it wasnt good bcs in the end i got much hurt. im portuguese and the boy is asian. i love him still and the truth is that he let a girl near him comes close to him and just started a relation with her without tell me. i had to see that written in his facebook. he didnt even message me telling me he had someone new. he promised to wait me and find a job to come see me and then did that. so i advise you if you start a relation with this guy that he fights to go meet you near. if he promises too much and monthes pass and he never goes to meet you, better break up. or you might get much hurt like i was and still am.
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
18 May 11
Yeah that's a disadvantage of online relationship.You will never know what the other person is really up to.=/
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 May 11
Net love is too risky. You don't even know if he is what he says to be. You don't even know if he is already married, just pretending to be single.
Even if you would like to have him background checked, you are not sure, if the name he has given you is a real one.
It's best to meet the person and get to know him better before falling in love with him.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 May 11
When you meet someone on the net, you don't really know if the informations about him are real or not. You don't even know if he really is what he claims to be.
For me, net love is too risky. You have to get to know the person first in person, before you should fall in love with him.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
14 May 11
I am very wary with finding love on the internet. I know I am generalising here, but a lot of the people who have to find love on the internet aren't truthful about the person they are, and when you eventually meet them in real life you might find that you don't like the person they are, and they're not who you thought they were going to be. Many people use old pictures, so you might find that when you meet up with them they're older or overweight when you didn't think they were going to be.
If you're going to find love online, then at least try to be honest about who you are. If you do this, then there is no reason for the person you "fall in love with" to change their mind when you finally meet face to face.
@imnobodyspecial (318)
• United States
15 May 11
I've met a great many wonderful friends online. Many of whom I will most likely never see in person, yet these people are my friends.
For example I've a friend in Australia who when she did not see me online for several days, called internationally to check the state of my health. And when there was an earthquake in HI,USA, I called friend there to make sure they were ok.
I and I am sure you realize that online is an easy way to deceive others, but a deception can only be maintained for so long before it becomes a burden to the deceiver.
A purely intellectual relationship isn't all that difficult to maintain, there can even be an emotional attachment, but without the ability to have some type of physical contact that is what it remains is an intellectual relationship with some emotional attachment.
It all depends on what both parties can accept as far as this type of relationship goes and how able and willing each is to make an effort to take it farther.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
15 May 11
It depends on your liking each other in person also. Mere online love will not help u in life. Tastes differ. Ideas may or not coincide. Food habits differ. Think. Meet. think and decide. yes. nowadays marriages are fixed online. it should have the approval of elders to some extent so that you can run.
@Wonnetz (57)
• United States
17 May 11
Im sorry, but I think that this is a very bad thing to do. For all you know this could be some fat pedofile on the other end of the computer. The thing is you don't really know people online until you have met them in real life, which I don't suggest you do. A lot of people date online only to meet in real life disappointed or raped. A lot of people use this to their advantage to get to your heart.
@visminda_824 (153)
• Philippines
14 May 11
Hi there! It seems that you're so much in love that you call him "perfectly nice boy" when you have known him only through the net. Some words of advice my dear, it's a joy to fall in love, much more if the feeling is mutual, just like what you have right now. Be careful because some people pretend to be good when they are not. It is so easy to make a facade on the net. On the other hand, savor the feeling of being in love, but take time to get to know him especially, when the time comes he would visit you in your country.
@joeyalberta (106)
•
14 May 11
it was nice..some people became truly a couple because of this net love.but some don't. i hope someday you will have agood relationship!.Goodluck
@spurlgirl (10)
• United States
15 May 11
I actually met my husband (in a roundabout way) online. I met his roommate (at the time) and we dated for a couple months. Then about a year later he and I began to communicate over the web. From there it just progressed...and now, we have been married for 8 years and have 2 beautiful children.
You never know where you'll find love or if it's meant to be until you try. :-)
@yoniarnon (1079)
• Israel
14 May 11
I think you should try it, first it is very nice to have someone out there, but be careful it ain't so easy, i had a girlfriend from over the sea, and even when we been together and not only online it was hard cause we could fly to each other only for some couple of days or weeks..
Any way if you ask me, just stay friends, he can be you fantasy guy, but if you will take it more over you it can be very hard and painful.
Enjoy your online friend and tell him hello from us :)
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello,
That's love! and I will support you there! even how hard you struggle because you have different culture you still get in love to each other and I know you can make it. Lets give it a try there because maybe for you it will work and I know it will depends on both of you if you will succeed or not. But i wish you a good luck. if I were you I will try it if I know we really loves each other.
good luck
@Idmega2000 (127)
• United States
14 May 11
I personally beleive there is nothing like net love, we only get net friends, one can never fall in love with who he/she has never meet before, i think you might get addicted to him because he his always available to you and probably cos you like how he talks to you. That does not mean you love him yet. Get to know him first, see him in a real world. If you can't then forget it,cos it can never work