Good intentions gone crazy

I am the extremely skeptical sort. Even if someone truly is in need I generally don't believe them unless I have some reason to trust them.. and I'm not very trusting. The people who I know who are in need are people I talk to regularly and I know their situation.. but they never ask for a dime. They just like to talk about their issues without asking for help. I feel as if I'm helping just by lending an ear and often some good advice. If I were in a position to help financially I would, unfortunately I have nothing to spare and my family must come first.

Sadly I have helped many immediately as you but only because I did know them and there would have been no way for me to know in advance that there would be a remote possibility that it was all fake. I have however, felt bad for the help but in the end have not had any regrets because it was something I did out of my own caring nature. Though I must say that it has taught me to be a skeptic now and although would still help where I could I also try to find out if it is actually true or not. Sadly, when swindled in life by some bad people it causes us to be leery and willing to help others who perhaps truly need the help. Basically I try to take it on a person to person basis. As you we cannot feel bad just a bit more cautious is all.

We can't help being skeptical at times, especially when something like that concerns money in large amounts if ever. Considering the facts that you have not seen this person for a long time, suddenly emerging out of what kind of situation, and now resurfacing to borrow money. So probably her college classmates couldn't help so she tried her high school classmates? I guess that didn't work out too well so no she is trying her elementary classmates? Be skeptical as it may, if a person really wants to help, regardless if the reason for such help is true or not, they help. Of course, we all aren't as generous, we would still be attached to the fruits of our labor so that we too would get a sense of accomplishment from our 'good' deed. Anyway, I automatically help those that I really do know. Some classmates before have proved themselves trust worthy while others unfortunately proved their lack of commitment and responsibility. So far at work, my colleagues are all reliable in keeping promises.

theresaaikza nope I am not gullible and I do not fall for door to door sales pitchesd eitherr, I am rather skeptical and will not offer money to anyone until I have proved to my own satisfaction that they are not crooks or swindlers or both. I never lend money to people I do not know and then to only close friends and dear relatives not shirt tail relatives either. this has made me very careful as I was married to the worlds sweetest pu sh over for door to door sales men.I hope your bactchmate proved to be okay and did not swindle any of your friends.

ahem.. well i was a really gullible girl back then, when i was in 6th grade i knew that my old classmate was .. uhm.. well .. lets say a scam artist ( well said) but then i let her borrowed money from me with her saying that she needed it for a project and she had to pay for it immediately . .. and so as gullible as i can be i lent her some then got away with it with no actual idea of what was going on. She never came back after that. And Since then, i was too careful of being such a big softie for someone needing help .

Since you do not really know this person that well, i suggest you try to investigate her situation. If possible to know if she really needs the money or not. After all it is not only but all of the people who will try to help her will be taken advantage of.

I always inquire about the story. I don't think that is suspicious, I think that is just common sense. Because if I hear the story, maybe I could find another way to help them, you know? And if I was going to pass the information on I would want to make sure I wasn't sending along something that was not true. But at least you sent a cautionary e-mail. And perhaps she wasn't making it up. I hope so.

Money these days is synonymous to your life. Very precious. I have been a giver and the one who asked for helped. Trust me, I have experienced twice desperation as your batch mate. I am fortunate in a way that most of the ones I have asked for help when it comes to money- did help me. Even if we haven't seen each other for years. Maybe because before, I have already proved myself to be worthy of their trust. Two days ago, same incident has happened. Only that I was not the one who asked for financial aid. It was a friend and a total stranger. The friend, who's in need of a large sum of money asked for my help. I asked for her forgiveness because even I have no money to spare for myself but I did asked few people if they would let her borrow money from them. Unfortunately, most people nowadays needs to have an assurance that the borrower will leave something valuable just to make sure they really pay. Then, when I was on my way home, an old lady approach me asking for financial aid because her grandchild is sick and she has no medicine to buy. She was not the beggar type. But I can see in her eyes that she's also desperate. My heart gave in so I gave her 50pesos. If I were on your shoes, if I have the spare - then I'll let her borrow. Sometimes, it would really depend on the person. It can;t be help but it's good to help when you have something to offer. =)

im like you^^ i would do the same thing. i lent money to a girl that i met since like two days. i didnt know anything about her and lent her a lot of money. the truth is that she was a thief that robbed a cell of a friend of us in work and also tried to accuse me of doing that after i be so good to her. also she never paid back what i lent her. if she was a good person would be ok if she couldnt pay back but she was a bad one. is sad sometimes that we are so innocent and want to help right away. anyway i dont regret that i was good to her. bcs thats the way i am but she should regret to be so mean to people that were good to her. i wish that this girl was honest and really needed help. anyway if later you find out she isnt dont regret what you did. you acted with your conscience and she is the one that has to regret if lied or something. but hopefully lets believe that she is good and really needs help^^

ahem.. well i was a really gullible girl back then, when i was in 6th grade i knew that my old classmate was .. uhm.. well .. lets say a scam artist ( well said) but then i let her borrowed money from me with her saying that she needed it for a project and she had to pay it immediately . .. and so as gullible as i can be i lent her some then got away with it with no actual idea of what was going on. She never came back after that. Since then, i was too careful of being such a big softie for someone needing help .

Last year, I received help from a high-school friend from years ago when I was in real dire straits, and I recently received help from several people some of whom I had never met and two of whom I had never even spoken with. Not only did they almost literally save my life, I felt extremely touched by their help. (But I am probably not good at expressing it to them.) So, what does your HEART tell you (as opposed to your doubts and your thoughts)?