Long relationship...

@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
May 14, 2011 7:49pm CST
I had once a girlfriend before whom we build up more or less thirteen years in our relationship. In my mind and in my thought and in my soul it was she whom I'd like to be my forever partner in the eyes of God and to the people. Since almost of their entire family migrating at that time, she could not refused them what their parents wanted to be. In myself I never ever wanted it to be happened because most likely "long distance love affair" would never have a happy ending. I was afraid that would be going to happen on our relationship. But still, they won and I was the loser. To make the long story short, on the first and a half year our communication (through letters) was okay while I was working with my job. Our only means of communication was only on letters because at that time internet was less popular. B As years go by, our communication lessen until it was really gone until such time we departed and go on separate on our separate lives. Less or no communication was the main factor why our relationship didn't last. Thirteen years-relationship was wasted and turn to nothing at all. It was a sad "long distance love affair".But, all the memories left behind would never ever be gone in my memory until such time comes age would already refuse to remember it. What do you think guys (honestly), if she remained and never migrated wasn't it that our relationship would never broke-up? Now I believe long relationship most like would turn to nothing. Thanks for reading and hope to hear also on your share of opinions. Mobhomeir here..
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oninomar
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
15 May 11
I have fun in reading your discussion not because you separate with your loveone but because you have an inspiring story... Wow! 13 years is not a joke! That is really a very long relationship.. Can i ask some questions first?your story really interesting. Until this time both of you have no communication? I mean, now internet is there, facebook and twitter is there.. Have you try to find her in that way? Or did she search you as well? 13 yrs is really a serious one, why does that time you have not get married?
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Thanks for reading that my friend. Yes. We've been for almost thirteen years and five years after that we already have constant communication until now via renowned social site. I heard from what our friends before said that, she still likes if we both ended our love affair happily - and so do I. At those last years before they departed abroad we have already plan but she can't stand her own decisions because she was afraid of her father. Now, as what our best friend said, she regretted why she afraid of her father before. She was not able to fight our feelings. I guess I believe in some love analogy; if what a woman likes she could find lots of ways if a man only likes no way he can be near the woman..I made a blog of this but I guess it is prohibited here to promote site..I can send it to you via PM if you like Thanks for reading again patiently.. Mobhomeir here..
oninomar
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Yes I want to read your blog please... please pm me sir.. thanks a lot. btw, so what happen to both of you now? do you all both have own family? If not, maybe you can both start a new......, together.. Sometimes we can't blame other people to obey their parents., your girlfriend is really a good daughter, she sacrifice her own feelings for her father. She maybe thinking that her father is really good to them and no reason to disobey her father decision (if she is still dependent financially from her father).. Also she maybe thinking that she will really hurt her father too much..
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
17 May 11
Hi oninomar..yes we had already different lives we face. But, we are good friends, one time when she went on vacation in our place, we met and it was so funny, I mean I didn't understand my feeling or we both had. I felt like embracing her for the happiness that I've seen her again from almost 20 years... Okay..just for my blog to reach you..I have to check it first if that would be right for you to read... Thanks my friend..I appreciate you for having interest to know about my sad love story... Take care.. Mobhomeir here..
zhouxi
@zhouxi (1752)
• China
15 May 11
It's a sad story .it's also a sweet story.Do not cry because it is over smile because it happend.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
15 May 11
I understand that my friend but it can't be avoided, I have to reminisce those good old days..how I wish I could turn back the hands of time and wish the hands of time got trouble and would never fix again.. Thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here..
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zhouxi
@zhouxi (1752)
• China
15 May 11
Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 May 11
hello Martin, Long relationship/engagement is not reliable for a lasting one (hehe) There are whirlwind romance that lasts forever compared to long engagement like the one you had with your past. But...it's not regretful right?... Never regret a lost love...cherish it and be inspired to love again (ouch..speaking of myself ) Have a great day always my dear amigo...let love give you inspiration always
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
17 May 11
hello my dear bonita...no regrets. Though we never ended happily, I learned lots of things constructively in my favor. I still owed a lot of everything from her... Well, I guess we're not just meant for each other.. Thanks for your share my dear.. Mobhomeir..
ebuscat
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
15 May 11
For me it is good if it is end with married life but if not it is not good it make you sad and heart break until you have a nervous of relationship to follow.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
17 May 11
That's right my friend...well, I was able to manage it..thanks... Mobhomeir here..
cerebellum
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
15 May 11
Thirteen years is a long time! You are to be commended for lasting that long in a long distance relationship. A lot of people don't last that long when they see the person all of the time. I think that if it was meant to be, it would have worked no matter what. Long distance relationships are harder, but it still might not have lasted if she had stayed! Don't think of the thirteen years as a waste. That time made you who you are.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
17 May 11
Yes that's right my friend..actually if I think it deeper, 13 years was not really a waste of time because of that spam of time I learned a lots of everything. I think it was just fair because we both sad and frustrated and broken hearted. It could had been unfair if I was only the one who felt that. I guess we've been played around by consequences. But still, we had a communication though she is already living abroad... Thanks for the care to respond my friend..nice day Mobhomeir..
cgirl123
@cgirl123 (264)
• Indonesia
16 May 11
Hi mobhomeir.. :) I am so sorry to hear that. I have some friends who have been in a relationship for years like you, but in the end the relationship is broken because of long distance. I did have experienced long distance relationship too, and that never works for me. I think the key here is communication. The key to success in every relationship is a good communication. In long distance relationship, i found that it is more tiring to keep in touch with the one we love. Because we do not really there with our beloved one, i felt that it becomes harder to mantain the relationship. Living separately like that, although in this age where communication is supposed to be much easier (there are handphone, laptop or computer, webcam, 3G, etc), it makes like we livimg in a different world. We have different friend, different activities, and so on. We still need to meet each other. I need to touch him, look in his eyes, to feel i am really there with him, to feel loved by him. But, when it is over, its over. You just need to move on cause life goes on. Stop wondering whether your relationship will last or not, what if...and so on. because if you do that, in my opinion, then the relationship is not over yet. You still enganged with her, and that will make it harder for you to find a new one. I did that and I believe God has someone better for me. I just cant wait to meet that special one, and while waiting for that moment, i prepare my self to be a better person. have a bless day! :)
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
17 May 11
You're definitely right my friend I really appreciate it... Communication was the main factor of our wasted love affair.. I think we've been played by time.. We have different families right now but we have still communication and we are still good friends... Thanks for responding.. Mobhomeir here..
Andrealoves7and8
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
18 May 11
People can have long relationships, it all depends on the people and the couple. People are people, some people can stay in long relationships and others can't. Some people want to stay in long relationships and others do not. Again it all depends on the person.