Do you think you are really happy being single?
By r0ck_r0ck
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
India
May 15, 2011 2:38am CST
If you are single and not looking.. how hard is it for you to deal with the loneliness? i remember when i was single it was pretty hard sometimes, even though i was pretty happy most of the time but then there were sometimes i felt quite sad about having no one there for me and just wanted to get in to a relationship.
How is/was it for you?
10 responses
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
22 May 11
I have been single for 20 years and I'll continue being single if it pleases me.
Having a partner can be annoying you know.Always wants to know what you are doing,what you are up to,calls you all the time.I need a lot of space for myself so sometimes I find being in a relationship rather suffocating.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
24 May 11
all those things you mentioned can be talked out with your partner and i am sure if that's what makes you happy, the person you love will be ready to give you your amount of space. Just like everything, relationship has it bad and good sides, its what you make out of em to make it pleasant.
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
24 May 11
I think people have different life views.Some of us afraid to be single,but some just enjoy doing solitary things.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
15 May 11
hi rock,
I can say I am happy even I am single though there are times I want to have somebody at my side and share everything I have but being single doesn't mean we are a lonely one it's just we need to wait for the right person.
have a nice day!
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
15 May 11
i believe what you said is true to some extent. But being single has its own bad effects, we always need someone at some certain point don't we?
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
15 May 11
i will agree with you on that we really need someone but not to the point that you will just go for someone even you don't love them for the sake of having one 
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
15 May 11
Indeed indeed! i didnt mean it that way. rushing in to something is bad most of the time. what i was trying to say is that it probably wont be a good choice to leave things on fate.. we need to start trying things our self right? after all being in a relationship is important :P
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
27 May 11
Being single or not is not a measure of happiness. Some are happy with their single life; others are happy with their relationship. Being happy depends on one's outlook in life. But if you'd ask mine, I'd say I'm happy being single but at some point, I'd also like to find my partner in life.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
27 May 11
So its like you are happy being single, but you would like to get a partner to become more happy obviously? then how is it not a measure of happiness?
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
18 May 11
I never had a boyfriend since birth. It would be hypocrite for me to say that I never felt sad and empty. I felt it a lot of times especially now that I am getting older. I just look at things positively. Having a positive outlook in life helps a lot. I just think that maybe I haven't met the right person for me. I know that I would meet my perfect match at the perfect time and place. Only God knows.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
19 May 11
You will meet your mr.perfect at perfect time! and i agree having a positive outlook helps. thanks for your input.
@usagi01 (31)
• Philippines
16 May 11
For me, being single is not lonely at all. It's a decision you made for your life and if it brings you happiness,then it's your right choice. Yeah right,it's good to have a partner that you will be with even on bad times. But not all times, you are happy with him or her. That's part of life. So, with a partner or without, it's a matter of what will brings you happiness.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
16 May 11
Being with a partner isnt just about good times, you will need them in all times more like you will know you can depend on them at bad times which can be the biggest support ever. Being solo you cant really expect that. also the faster the bad times go away the faster the good times are likely to come and coping with the bad times together can surely make it go away faster than trying alone. Either way thanks for your input.
@belonephobicgirl (513)
• United States
13 Jun 11
I'm happier when I'm single. When I'm in relationships I'm always getting emotionally hurt. I get to focus on myself and I have more options, I can date as many people as I want and not feel wrong at the end of the day. I like not being tied down to anyone. I love the feeling of being able to come home late at night and not thinking, "I wonder if he's cheating on me, he hasn't been talking to me as much, what if he's with someone else?" I have days I feel like terrible but I rarely blame that on not being in relationship.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
13 Jun 11
Good that you are happy, but maybe you just went out with the wrong person, so you had all those horrible experience, i know finding the right person is kinda tough! but everything turns out great once you have found your mr.perfect! so don't give up on love! its beautiful!
@belonephobicgirl (513)
• United States
13 Jun 11
Yes, I have gone out with quite a few of the wrong people. I will never give up on love, I've experienced it and it's one of the best feelings in the world, just at this point in my life I need my personal space. When the time comes, the time comes. :)
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
14 Jun 11
Cool! i am not quite familiar with the personal space you mentioned, but i been hearing that a lot lately. I guess its a good thing! Good luck!
@harck721 (372)
• Philippines
15 May 11
I'm pretty happy being single. I get to follow my interests without worrying about how it would affect my relationship. Then again, I've always been a busy person, so my social life was never very active. For me, it depends on what you do with your life when you're single.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
15 May 11
I believe your interests makes your relationship work, and you dont need to worry about interests when they are same for both you. Social life is very important it shapes your personality. well thats what i think :)
@AngelHope2011 (199)
• United States
15 May 11
The singles life is not really bad for me. I remember when I was about 16 or so and I was so desperate to find a boyfriend and even had a crush on some cute Mongolian guy who was in the same grade as me but a year older. I could never talk to him even though I was desperate. Now that I think I about it, I shouldn't have tried so hard and now I'm not because I realized that I'll find the right one at the right time. Plus, I can't have a boyfriend right now because I'm too worried about how I'm gonna make money.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
15 May 11
I think finding a right person at right time doesn't happen if you don't try. Even though its totally your own personal choice when and what you want, im just saying make sure it doesn't get too late also if you like someone always try and tell him, you never know you might change his life forever. :]
@prabu4mail (2)
• Sweden
15 May 11
Of course...!! Being single is good rather than worrying for your partner. It depends on your mind set and people around you :)
If people around you always says good about their relationship you too tempted by it and started looking for relationship by keeping a full stop to SINGLE..
On the other hand if they started complaining about their relationship you too hate that..
Anywayz feelings are depends on the individual personality. for me being single is better than comitted until you have a huge amount of money in your wallet :)
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
15 May 11
naww! its not always about money is it? its about caring, understanding, adoring each other. obviously money is needed and it can effect a relationship in a way. but if the bonding is strong enough it wont do that harm.
