Enough is enough

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Grab a cup of java while I tell you a story... Once upon a time, there was this 'Girl'. She was in love with this 'Boy'. The pregnancy was planned but as soon as she shared the news, Boy replied: "How soon can you get an abortion?" Girl refuses and has the Baby anyway. That was the beginning of a very confusing and detremental few years of domestic abuse. Girl was smart tho and didn't put up with much. Enough is enough and she eventually leaves town with a new name and a new life. But when you're alienated from your family by a partner and then you choose a new life like that, it's hard. It's especially hard when you were once so very close to your family. So after 6-7 years, Girl say: "Enough is enough - I need my family" and moves back home. After 8 years of not receiving any contact from Boy, she receives an email one day asking to see his daughter. They exchange emails and eventually phone calls - mostly all pleasant and respectful - and she feels like it might be safe. Girl tells Baby that it is up to her. Baby takes a little over year to be comfortable to contact him again through snail mail. Baby eventually decides she wants visitation. Girl supports Baby's decision. Things seem to go well for a while. But then one day, Boy starts expressing strong opinions about the way Baby is being raised - all very negative. Girl does her best to explain - and defending herself - but the messages start getting nasty. Baby is on the phone with Boy one day, crying that he always makes her feel bad. Girl doesn't interfere because Baby seems to have a good grip on defending herself. Messages between Boy and Girl continue to be nasty. Not threatening just malicious and attempting some sort of control. One of his biggest issues is Baby's education and the fact that she seems to only return his calls when she feels like it. Girl doesn't interfere again because it's always been Baby's choice. One day, after many weeks of nasty, disrespectful messages, Girl decides again "Enough is enough". No more texts, no more messages, no more calls, no more visits. If you can't respect Girl, you cannot respect Baby. Boy says Fine! Like it's no big deal really... but then calls a few days later. He wants to hear it from Baby. He wants her to make that decision. Well it's not up to Baby at this point. And Girl doesn't feel like Baby would make that kind of decision in fear of hurting his feelings or worse, make him angry. Baby had refused to return his call 3 times in the week prior to the announcement and Girl must take that into consideation also - seriously. Enough is enough! Baby doesn't seem affected by the decision. It wasn't a big loss. If Baby has an interest in having a relationship later on in life, that will be her perogative. But until then, Boy will have to learn to dish out a little more respect.